counterman Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 You can't really do much but be happy for him. Play to your strengths and try other scenes. I'm not experienced with the club or bar scene, so cannot really offer advice there. I have never really exactly experience that. When I was in high school, girls use to ask me about my best friend all the time. He was 6-ft tall, half Asian and had this strong exterior. Most of the girls in my cohort were interested in him but he wasn't interested in any of them. He had his own issues (and still does) and he recognises that, so doesn't want to get into anything. Had I wish the girls were interested in me too? Of course but I was always supportive of my friend and never jealous.
Author ptp Posted July 20, 2012 Author Posted July 20, 2012 Lol dude. Didn't you just comment on my last thread and tell me looks don't matter at all or something? I actually never said anything close to "looks don't matter". I said you can't sum up a person's value purely based on looks. Those two statements are very different. You were saying unattractive people shouldn't reproduce implying that their lack of physical attractiveness trumps all of their other good qualities. That is ridiculous. In any case, I feel you. Been there, have I ever. Sometimes when I used to go out, the girls we would meet would talk to every one of my friends except for me. Guess what? I don't hang out in those scenes with those people much anymore. I'm still friends with them, but I definitely wouldn't look for women through them. You need to hang out with with less shallow people or in less shallow scenes if all the women you guys hang with are ignoring you. Any woman who doesn't want to talk to you or seems uninterested in talking to you because you're not attractive is shallow. Find ones who aren't. Unless you would do this to a woman yourself. Then carry on and good luck... If don't hang out with my friends, what am I going to do? Stay in? I am not sure that helps either.
Author ptp Posted July 20, 2012 Author Posted July 20, 2012 So the only solution seems to be not go out with my friends? The alternative is staying in; I am sure how staying in helps my cause.
sid3 Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 So the only solution seems to be not go out with my friends? The alternative is staying in; I am sure how staying in helps my cause. No, another solution would be to find some uglier friends.
jobaba Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 I actually never said anything close to "looks don't matter". I said you can't sum up a person's value purely based on looks. Those two statements are very different. You were saying unattractive people shouldn't reproduce implying that their lack of physical attractiveness trumps all of their other good qualities. That is ridiculous. If don't hang out with my friends, what am I going to do? Stay in? I am not sure that helps either. No. Find less shallow scenes to hang out in. If you find yourself hanging with a crowd or with women who generally ignore you for better looking men, find new people to hang with. Life is short and the world is big. Why do you want to waste your time with women who will stop a conversation with you to talk to a better looking man? I don't know about you but I'm getting old. Too old to waste my time with women like that. To be honest with, I really don't want to hang out with males who think like that anymore.
KathyM Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 If you want to compete with the more attractive guys, then you have to work on your personality, your charm, your sense of humor, your wit, etc., so that you can stand out as the prize in your group of friends. You can't compete with looks, so you have to compete with what you can control, and that is something you can work on. In my single days, when I went out with a group of girls to try to meet guys, there was one girl in our group who was average looking among a bunch of attractive girls, and physically, she was at a disadvantage, but what she lacked in looks, she made up for in personality, and she could turn the charm on and keep any guy's interest, regardless of whether there were more attractive girls in the group. Work on your personality, your charm, your humor, etc., and that will draw the girls' attention to you.
todreaminblue Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 80% women are sleeping with 20% guys like ur blue eyed blond hair 6'0 friend. The girl who commented to be more aggressive has no club what she is talking about. she is a girl who is good looking and doesnt need a personality nor confidence to get a date. im pretty sure the attractive guy friend u have has a weakness. there are many good looking guys who are still virgins. They are all over the pua websites like rsdnation and naturalgame . Read the book art of seduction and see if u can try to bring some charisma in ur personality. Never listen to any advice from women. What women say they want and the type of guys they choose are two completely different things. Majority of the women have dated aholes vs nice guys. In order for u to get a date, be ahole. Women will say dont be ahole but if u ask them if they ever dated one all of them will say yes. Look at the success rate of ahole vs nice guy on dates. Be an ahole and add some charisma to ur swag to get the girl. say for instance he should take your advice be an a hole and live by the catch phrase at the bottom of all your posts and play the game your way.....are you also going to tell him besides reading the book art of seduction to treat females the same way if he gets to meet the parents which i doubt or the older brothers who might be hanging out at the club making sure his lil sis doesnt meet said a hole heres advice from a woman treat a freaking woman the way you would want your daughter to be treated or your little sister to be treated or your mother to be treated or any other female who means something to you.....including the woman who you might like to date....regardless of looks or perception...if he takes your advice you sick puppy he wont gain charisma he will one day gain false teeth from the father the brother the uncle or the bff who knocks them out for being abusive towards someone they care about and respect....and by the way respect the penis tame the vagina guy..... it goes for women too you have to show respect the way you would want for the males to be respected that you care about ... you dont have charisma you dont have swag you don't talk a good game you are on repeat with that 80 20 crap through every thread..... you have the ability to creep women out.....you're offensive to all types shapes and sizes of women...certainly not worthy of a woman's respect and that includes the flaccid penis we should learn to respect that is probably as twisted and bitter as you are ...trolls shouldnt give advice on how to treat women....trolls are not socially aware and you should if you actually even liked women a litte bit....remove the offensive catch phrase that you add onto the end of posts in future posts....it is degrading to women including the women in your family so think of them and out of respect for them if no other female dont post it
josation218 Posted July 20, 2012 Posted July 20, 2012 THis is irrelevant to the thread but i was wondering if you use to play halo?? I think I whoop your butt a couple of times lol... Welcome to my life. I have routinely always been the "ugliest" of my friends from when I was young up until now. I don't bother meeting women anymore when I'm out with them; I just enjoy hanging out with the guys and expect nothing less. And the moment the focus stops being on the group and shifts outward to women, I usually just leave. Sometimes it's fun though to take the best looking one and turn him into the group's "show horse." That was a lot of fun in Vegas. We'd just walk around, and the moment we spotted a group, we'd yell, "Show horse, go!" and he'd scamper over to the group and bring them in. It works...without fail...every time... But you're right, it's definitely frustrating when you manage to start talking to a girl, and the moment a friend walks up and gives you a fresh beer, she shifts all her attention to him and practically forgets I am there. Such is life.
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