JHparkes Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 I have been seeing a guy for about 7 weeks. I work with him. He started off really really keen. He went on holiday for a week during this time and messaged me constantly throughout the day. When he came back he was still just as keen and wanted to come and see me the minute he landed. He came back to work and carried on being really keen wanting to see me whenever he hadn't had his child, which was usually friday through to sunday afternoon. He would send messages saying he wished he could fall asleep with me in his arms and would want me to accompany him to the canteen at lunch time every day. Anyways, things went a bit wrong this weekend when he asked if I could meet up with him and his daughter in the afternoon on the sunday, then didn't confirm a time and when I messaged him, said he wouldn't be back from his sister and asked what my plans were for the evening and if I wanted to go over. I was a bit P*ssed off about being messed about and so said that I had plans for the evening and wouldn't be over. I then messaged him later on and he seemed a bit off with me. When I got to work on Monday he came into my office to talk to me, but seemed not himself. I mentioned to him that I was going for an interview elsewhere and I noticed his face dropped, like he was shocked and/or unhappy. But he knows my staying at our workplace is not a gaurantee as they can't gaurantee me a job. Anyways so he never asked me to go with him to the canteen at lunch time either. Later on he messaged me when I got home to ask if I had had a good day, and then wanted to come over later that evening. That evening he came over and I was probably not my usual self as I felt very tired. He tried to have sex with me but I wasn't interested. The next day we went for lunch together (yesterday) and he called by the office to ask if I fancied coming over that evening. I went over and things seemed normal. He came on to me and we did have sex. However, this time he didn't hold me in his arms afterwards. And this morning he didn't give me a hug in the morning, like he does normally. I was a bit p*ssed at this and so when he was in the shower I said "I'm going now, see you later" and he said "what? your going now?" and I said "yeah, see ya" and went. I then sent him a message saying I was nervous about my interview today and I hoped he'd had a good morning. Thinking that the reason for his sudden change in behaviour might have been the fact that I was going for another job I said: I don't really want to leave Pygotts but have to keep my ooptions open in case I don't get to stay here. He didn't answer me nor did he wish me good luck for the interview. Finally after 9 hours he did manage to send a message asking if I'd got on ok and he hopes I did! he would normally always send a message at the latest 2-3 hours later. He has an hour for lunch and he didn't even send me a message during that time either. What has gone on with hiim and what the hell have I done wrong??
Ami1uwant Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Was this sex the first time??? His sudden behavior change could be warrented if you hadnt mentioned to him you were looking to change jobs. Is this job you interview for local to you or would it put you on the other side of town thus meeting up with him will be more difficult. IMHO ---the times you go P-od seems to be a bit much given the circumstances.
Author JHparkes Posted July 19, 2012 Author Posted July 19, 2012 Was this sex the first time??? His sudden behavior change could be warrented if you hadnt mentioned to him you were looking to change jobs. Is this job you interview for local to you or would it put you on the other side of town thus meeting up with him will be more difficult. IMHO ---the times you go P-od seems to be a bit much given the circumstances. No it was not the first time we had had sex. We had done it numerous times before this. He was going to get me a job working with him but his manager blocked it because he didn't like the idea of us working together. They (work) said they possibly may have a job for me elsewhere. Yes I did, but I also had a lot of things to contend with. He had a crazy ex (his daughter's mother) who kept ringing him constantly. He made the mistake of telling her he was going out with me and so she decided to send me abusive messages on fb and tried to come to work to threaten me!! He didn't seem as though he stood up to her very much. The ex's eldest daughter also used to ring all the time to ask for favours.
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