Hawk12 Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 What does everyone think? Would it be immature or just a way of moving on? I know there is ways to hide their posts and so on but would it be better to just delete them? 1
CopingGal Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 As I've been saying for a long time, delete the whole account. POOF! 1
Cl0udy Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 What does everyone think? Would it be immature or just a way of moving on? I know there is ways to hide their posts and so on but would it be better to just delete them? Girl you need to Deactivate your s***. FB SUCKS. you will deactivate for you and to help you move on. It's not immature. It only gets immature if you deactivate one week than later activate. "ohh I am hurt again" deactivate 3 days later active. It also gets immature if you use other people FB to check up on them I say forget FB get a better hobby and disappear
carhill Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 I don't do FB but, on other social networking sites, when my exW and I divorced (the decree was entered), I merely changed my status from married to divorced and removed pictures of us as a couple from the front page. A lot of our travel stuff (pictures and stories) still exists because we had a lot of fun times while married and I'm not about to summarily erase ten years of my life. YMMV. 1
CopingGal Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Girl you need to Deactivate your s***. FB SUCKS. you will deactivate for you and to help you move on. It's not immature. It only gets immature if you deactivate one week than later activate. "ohh I am hurt again" deactivate 3 days later active. It also gets immature if you use other people FB to check up on them I say forget FB get a better hobby and disappear Amen Amen
Phanpooh Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 When i saw my relationship is bad and fairytale isnt for me, i recreat my fb and the first thing is ignore her, then unblocked, and i never had to see her again
KatZee Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Yeah you can go and "unsubscribe" to your ex, but either way you're still going to see his/her posts on mutual friends/family member's walls. I'd go with a full on block/delete. I disagree with deleting your entire FB account, I mean come on there's no need to be that drastic unless you were left standing at the alter and want to go into hiding... But I deleted and blocked my ex, deleted all of our pictures, and sifted through all my wall posts to get rid of all his crap. I then also "unsubscribed" to all of our mutual friends so I don't have to see any posts if they come up.
BB7 Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Yeah you can go and "unsubscribe" to your ex, but either way you're still going to see his/her posts on mutual friends/family member's walls. I'd go with a full on block/delete. I disagree with deleting your entire FB account, I mean come on there's no need to be that drastic unless you were left standing at the alter and want to go into hiding... But I deleted and blocked my ex, deleted all of our pictures, and sifted through all my wall posts to get rid of all his crap. I then also "unsubscribed" to all of our mutual friends so I don't have to see any posts if they come up. This. Don't delete your whole account, that's just ridiculous. However, it is essential that you delete him (not block/unsubscribe) so that you cannot and will not see what he is up to. It's the only way and it's effective.
edelveis Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Deleting your account is wrong.you are not going to change the way you live or whatever you like doing because of him and the brake up.in my occation i didnt even unsuscribed to her coz i want to move on and continue happily my life without being affected by what my ex does.for example it will be totally useless if you unsuscribe till you forget him/her and when you think you did and then suscribe again and at the 1st post of him/her u start feeling bad again..i want to get used to that and take it out out from the root
CopingGal Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Deleting your account is not wrong if Facebook is holding you back. Facebook is not air or water. It's not food. You don't need it to survive. Facebook kept me thinking about my ex. I spied on him via Facebook. My ex also used Facebook as a weapon against me. Deleting Facebook was the right thing to do for me and I'm not going back. That's my decision. I stand by it. The OP has to make his/her own decision. 1
k100danny Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 At the very least delete and block, there is nothing childish about it at all. why would you choose to do something that hurt you? some people don't delete because they say they don't want to be the one to do it or they want to be mature about it. if you see pics and happy updates will it hurt you? if the answer is no then by all means leave it as it is, if the answer is yes then et me ask you this, would you keep sticking your hand in the fire if it hurt? Im guessing the answer is no. I didn't delete my ex she deleted me because I asked her too and then I blocked her. It makes things easier in the long run and it doesnt mean you cant add them back whn you are totally over them. but facebook in general is not a good idea. It makes people less satisfied with life and this is a FACT. people appear to have more fllfilling lives on facebook because you see what they let you see and the are more the person they wish they were than themselves. social networks are reducing the amount of time people spend with actual human interaction and this is never a good thing. I have deactivated mine a number of times and this time it has been a few days. I don't feel the need to look at it or log back in, if i want to know what my friends have been up to they will text me, as if it is an important thing most people dont publicly disclose that information on facebook so im sure they will text or call or we can discuss it next time we see each other.
Svet74 Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Im glad my ex does not even have facebook so that makes it easy. His siblings do but i just adjusted my privacy settings on them
edelveis Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Copinggal not deleting my facebook was the right move for me.and it helped me out.i am strong enough to bare it.everyone has its own point of view and every person is different.we share personal oppinions.i dont agree with your's but i totally respect it. 1
shayla Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Facebook was and is a valuable tool I used to communicate with my family. When my father was dying, I was able to post one message to facebook and immediately the entire family knew, I didn't have to call all over the country, thank God. However, it was also the place where my ex met his other woman, courted her, put a ring on her finger and married her all behind my back so..... I block the two of them, problem solved.
flitzanu Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 What does everyone think? Would it be immature or just a way of moving on? I know there is ways to hide their posts and so on but would it be better to just delete them? no! if you delete them from facebook how are you going to stalk them in case they post something on their wall that sounds like it might be about you? i mean, yes, delete them and block them. nothing immature about it, there's no reason to keep up with their life.
Samilia Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 I keep in touch with my family on facebook, I don't plan on deleting my account. If the relationship is over just take them off your friendlist, what's so hard about it? My settings are set to friends only, no one can stalk me and look at my pictures anyway. I think it's set to no one can look me up actually.
Dblock10 Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 for me, i don't delete them but i don't stalk, as i know it would hurt and cause pain. you might question well why keep them on it.. my answer would be that they were part of your life at some point, and when you have moved on and are happy it shouldn't be an issue that you can talk to them or see what they have been up to?
flitzanu Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 for me, i don't delete them but i don't stalk, as i know it would hurt and cause pain. you might question well why keep them on it.. my answer would be that they were part of your life at some point, and when you have moved on and are happy it shouldn't be an issue that you can talk to them or see what they have been up to? you don't have to be friends with someone on facebook for that. if an ex cares to get in touch, they could always just look you up again.
Sameold Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 Personally I've deleted and blocked on the same day I made my final contact on the matter by text. I've done this for 2 reasons: a) So I don't start stalking her profile and thinking the worst all the time b) So she can't validate her feelings by looking at my profile. I don't want her to think "ahh I'm glad he's happy" or anything for that matter. The day she chose to end our relationship like a coward, betraying my trust she walked out my life. She barely even spared me a second to talk when I tried to discuss things and get her back. After nearly 4 years I deserved so much better. So her walking out my life has to apply on fb too, she doesn't get the satisfaction of thinking I'm "ok" with her, if she ever wants to communicate again other than sorting our house out by e-mail she will have to contact me. 1
Dblock10 Posted July 18, 2012 Posted July 18, 2012 you don't have to be friends with someone on facebook for that. if an ex cares to get in touch, they could always just look you up again. not if they moved 10000 km away! again i think it depends on the break up conditions and how much you dislike them :S
Kovalchoke Posted July 19, 2012 Posted July 19, 2012 depending on your situation, I think if you deactivated your facebook account your ex would go like "ohh sweet he's probably suffering alot, my plan is working" so it isn't always the best thing to do but unsubscribing them for your news feed and not going on the site for a while is better in my opinion.
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