stop please Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 i have been in a relationship for three years now. we fell in love that first summer but by the winter it fell apart. we try, love passionately, back and forth, on off. i have not given it my all. i am reluctant to be with her. we are 20. to me, she represents settling down, job, college, whatever. i don't know if i want that. now we are 'done', it feels quite real and i feel i must make a major decision that i was supposed to make that first summer, but have delayed it. her (settle down) or without her (touch life differently) i could easily love her with everything, give her everything, dedicate myself. and it wouldn't hurt me, its easy. but i don't know if i want that or 'something else' what if its the wrong decision to leave? and because its over, it hurts a lot, and i want her back badly. she loves me so very much, and i know we can be awesome together. if only i wasn't so indecisive. how do i pick???
Ruby65 Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 Has she broken up with you? If she's already decided to end this relationship, it's kind of a moot point whether you should choose her or "freedom"..... In any case, it doesn't sound like you're really ready to commit to a relationship yet. What do YOU want to do with your life? Forgetting about this girl for the moment -- what are YOUR plans? For job, for school, for a career? Do you want to travel? Where would you like to see yourself in 5 years? I think maybe these are the questions to be asking yourself right now. Figure out what YOU want, and then it might be easier to decide about relationships in general, and this girl in particular.
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