JSJS Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 I've posted here once already and many thanks for the replies. I guess my subject line says it all but I really don't know what to do. She hurt me in a few ways I wont get into here and at times I feel really bad about it but more often I find myself wishing she would get in touch. Over the last week she has contacted me twice by text and I have replied. The first time I was a little blunt and felt awful and the second time I replied in a more friendly way which led to another text. I swore to myself last week I wouldn't initiate any contact and haven't since. It is also inevitable that we will meet at work at some stage - that is unavoidable but there will always be others around. From reading other posts I know I'm not alone in feeling this way but I can't tell if I miss her friendship or if I want more and at the minute it feels like I am losing both and making myself unhappy along the way. Any advice?
PropertyChaser Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 I've posted here once already and many thanks for the replies. I guess my subject line says it all but I really don't know what to do. She hurt me in a few ways I wont get into here and at times I feel really bad about it but more often I find myself wishing she would get in touch. Over the last week she has contacted me twice by text and I have replied. The first time I was a little blunt and felt awful and the second time I replied in a more friendly way which led to another text. I swore to myself last week I wouldn't initiate any contact and haven't since. It is also inevitable that we will meet at work at some stage - that is unavoidable but there will always be others around. From reading other posts I know I'm not alone in feeling this way but I can't tell if I miss her friendship or if I want more and at the minute it feels like I am losing both and making myself unhappy along the way. Any advice? Save yourself from opening up the Pandora's box. If you feel like leaving her in the wind by not responding isn't nice, simply say "This isn't healthy for me right now" and give it a rest for at least a few weeks. Exs are like any other addiction, most people keep going to avoid the pain of withdrawal - ignoring the damage that keeping on going is doing. You need to ween yourself off.
Mary Oak Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 It is just so hard not to call, when someone mentions a few weeks, it seems like an enternity. Each minute is an accomplisment for me, I feel.
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