Davigg Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 me and my have known eachother for almost a year now and i recently broke up with her last week because i could no longer handle her moods and neediness. i really did love and care for this girl alot and it wasn't easy for me to let her go. at the beginning of our relationship, i was always the one chasing after her because she was afraid of getting into a relationship due to past ones hurting her so much. i still had hope that we could work out though, but lately i just haven't felt it like i used to. i tried explaining to her as nicely as i could that i just didn't want a girlfriend. i hoped she would just be cool about it and let go, but she keeps texting and calling me even though i ignore her. the other day, she literally just shows up at my house even after i told her not to come over. she kept knocking on my door and calling my roommate because i turned my phone off so i wouldn't have to deal with her calling. i know she is going through alot of **** in her life right now and that she's lonely
louisehawley6 Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 Personally, I think she is just hurting and not crazy! We all deal with rejection in different ways. That's what a break up is-a rejection. You also mentioned that she was scared at the beginning of the relationship because she had been hurt before, there could be a part of her thats feeling a bit betrayed at the moment, because she had the confidence to tell you this about her past and now you have hurt her just as equally. Break ups are really tough on us all, she might want answers from you, or she might just be reaching out to you because you have been a part of her life for a period of time (whether it's a long time or not). My advice for you is to be the bigger person, put your ego aside and sit down and talk to her, explain to her what she is doing. Don't be nasty just be polite. Remeber she's only a human being with real feelings and emotions. With time it will pass and she will move on.
Ruby65 Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 Well, you had what you described as a good relationship with her in which you loved and cared for her.... then decided you just didn't "feel it" anymore... so you dumped her with a lie by saying you didn't want to be in a relationship right now -- implying the problem wasn't personal to her, just that you didn't want a relationship in general. Basically, you lied to her about the reason for this breakup, then refused to communicate with her afterwards..... then you wonder why she's still calling and acting crazy and trying to get answers from you? How about owning up to your dishonesty? Tell her the real reason you broke up with her -- random as it is -- and answer any questions she has. Let her express herself and say whatever she needs to say. If you treat her with dignity and respect, it might make it easier for her to move on.
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