Love after first love

[redrose123]

Does anyone have any stories of losing their first love and feeling absolutely heartbroken, devastated, and not feeling like they'll ever love anyone again, only to find someone else who you love even more? I'm just feeling so hopeless . I still love my ex so much and I can't see myself ever having that connection with someone else or loving someone else. The pain isn't nearly as bad as when we first BU but each day that goes by it sinks in a little more that this is really over. I want to know that eventually I'll feel like myself again and be able to love again.

[Dblock10]

yes! i was on this forum a long time ago i think 2008 when i had broke up with my first true love and yeah it hurt like nothing on this planet.

 

i did find love again only that person never loved me back.. you will find a connection with some one else and it will be different but in many ways better

 

I'm now caught up on this latest girl more than i thought i would ever be. i think being single is best. don't settle.

[Blastoplast]

There's nothing wrong with being single -- and listen to DDblock, DO NOT SETTLE, nor would I go "looking" for somebody.

 

I was out at the bar last night, and the bartender who I've known for a long time said to me "It's good to see you smile again, John, I'm so sorry to hear what happened... 7 years is a LONG time." She goes on to say that she got out of a LTR that was 6 years, she was heartbroken and didn't even start dating until 3 years after their break-up. Dated a few months after those 3 years, then found her wonderful husband and these two are perfect for each other. She said ANYTHING can happen, maybe I'll get back together with my ex, or maybe I'll find somebody new. I really don't care at this point, I'm just living my life single, bettering myself and loving myself right now. You'd be surprised what you can do when you come to grips with your situation and just accept it for what it is. Everybody is different, you'll get there some day!