synopsis Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 My bf and I anniversary is coming up. Bf is a confirmed bachelor. Nearly forty never married- refuses to believe in a "piece of paper." He wants me to move in with him- But I am uncomfortable with lack of commitment as I see it. While I don't need a piece of paper I do believe in long term commitment and I just feel like it isn't right for me right now. I have never cohabitated with married/engaged. ANYHOw- anniversary gift. I have been planning for awhile to make a nice night for us- dinner .. and a nice gift. Bf knows I am the sentimental/anniversary type...etc. He knows I have been planning wanting to get right size- color- etc. He said whatever I get for him he will wear- he knows it is something to wear. He had gotten me a pretty ring at Christmas (without asking -etc- just a surprise.) I went to purchase the item- a ring ... today for him and bf texts me that he isn't into jewelry. But JUST this past weekend I made him a hemp necklace to replace an old ratty one he has that he wears every day- with a LARGE pendant on it. I thought he liked it? We had been looking for a replacement one- and I am crafty (sell handmade goods) so I made what he wanted. So I was surprised he texted me that he didn't want jewelry- I texted that instead I would give him the ear buds that came with my cell phone that he has been wanting (about $90). Then he texts he'd rather have new hemp necklace that he saw in the shop we went to. He tells me on phone that he isn't into jewelry becuase of his work- but he wears that nasty HUGe one every day. I feel like he is just playing me and is a cheater in the long run( becuase of my past I guess). OK...so now my feelings are really hurt. I worked really hard to do something nice and he hurt me for no reason. Even if I didn't like the ring he gave me- I would never hurt his feelings. Or any other gift he gave me. I surely wouldn't tel him I don't want that or that - and telling him what I did want. I think it is rude and bad manners. Not to mention the whole jewelry comments and that I just made him a necklace. Now I just don't even want to give him anything. Or even take him to dinner. Just really hurt my feelings ...I mean if he wouldn't wear the ring- he could string it on the necklace ... Am I just too sensitive?
FitChick Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 If I told someone I specifically didn't want an item and he bought it for me, I'd think he was inconsiderate. This man will never marry you. Why are you wasting your time with him? It's good you haven't moved in with him. Find someone better for you so five years down the line you aren't lamenting that you wasted the best years of your life.
Author synopsis Posted July 17, 2012 Author Posted July 17, 2012 If I told someone I specifically didn't want an item and he bought it for me, I'd think he was inconsiderate. This man will never marry you. Why are you wasting your time with him? It's good you haven't moved in with him. Find someone better for you so five years down the line you aren't lamenting that you wasted the best years of your life. We are done. Started cursing at me on phone- I hung up- then he texted me he never cared/loved me ...and has had someone in mind will be pursuing...
Maia2407 Posted July 17, 2012 Posted July 17, 2012 That guy sounds like a selfish jerk. And the text he sent about being interested in someone else is probably a random lie meant to hurt your feelings even further. I would be glad this happened (even though it is hurtful) as he has just shown you his true colours before you moved in with him or got more serious
Author synopsis Posted July 17, 2012 Author Posted July 17, 2012 That guy sounds like a selfish jerk. And the text he sent about being interested in someone else is probably a random lie meant to hurt your feelings even further. I would be glad this happened (even though it is hurtful) as he has just shown you his true colours before you moved in with him or got more serious I texted him this a.m. for a time to get our things...as i was going to stop on way home from work. He sais thanks...good...blanks. Then on way to work...he texts he wants gifts back...naming them...so he can recoup money spent...and it isn't that I care...as he is a jerk...but I'd have to go home, load get another babysitter ... Geez...
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