whywhy Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Hey all, I cant get over this, please help me. I have been dating girl for almost 6 years on and off, We broke up 3 years ago and it ripped me apart and we got together after being broken up for 6 months. We got back together for another year and then she ripped my heart out again. After being broken up for 3 months, got back together and were together for a year again. A few days ago, we broke up again. I was not happy some days and always thought about not being with her and other days I would know I want to be with her for the rest of my life. After we broke up I cant feel, I cant eat, I cant sleep and my whole life is her, but how and why do I keep going back to her and doing this to myself. I know Im a good catch (not cocky, im just confident), 6 figure job, in shape, tons of friends, but why cant I get over this one girl. Im a 27 year old so I have put my whole life to this girl and now its all shot down and I feel like its over... I feel like my relationship is different then the rest because we always fell right back to where we left off... Please help me
Brokendude Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I feel ur pain, my gf keeps breaking up with me and like a fool i keep taking her back... Like u she broke up w me aaginthis weekend, with no signs of it coming, and im devastated, i feel ur pain, i feel ao vulnerable and weak, i cry everyday man and im a grown man... I just miss her, maybe we need to work on ourselves harder and try not to be too available w em... I feel they easily come and go because they kno well always take em back...i feel my gf is never ever coming back but if he does im taking a stand, we either go get help and see a therapist or its nothing... We cant be doormats forever and base our happiness on others man... Ahh i feel for you dude, ur not alone, u got us, were all crushed, but the fact that were here shows that were willing to do something to make ourselves feel better, keep venting on here man well all do it together
Author whywhy Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 I feel ur pain, my gf keeps breaking up with me and like a fool i keep taking her back... Like u she broke up w me aaginthis weekend, with no signs of it coming, and im devastated, i feel ur pain, i feel ao vulnerable and weak, i cry everyday man and im a grown man... I just miss her, maybe we need to work on ourselves harder and try not to be too available w em... I feel they easily come and go because they kno well always take em back...i feel my gf is never ever coming back but if he does im taking a stand, we either go get help and see a therapist or its nothing... We cant be doormats forever and base our happiness on others man... Ahh i feel for you dude, ur not alone, u got us, were all crushed, but the fact that were here shows that were willing to do something to make ourselves feel better, keep venting on here man well all do it together I know. I cry every hour and I'm a grown man. I can't see life without her. I bought an engagement ring (we both picked it out) and now this. I just love her so much that I keep going back because I feel it's so right. I moved to her home town and got a job here and now I can't turn back. I'm so crushed
Brokendude Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I hear u and def sympathize with you, u have every right to be devastated.. U shouldnt fight the feeling, make urself feel, its soooo normal to be upset especially in cases like these. To me heartache is just as painful as a death of a loved one... because in a heartache we kno that person still exists somewhere.. And we constantly think of what theyre doing and all that stuff and its effing impossible to not miss her... Dude i feel so bad for u coz im on te same exact boat, i woudlnt wiah thia pain on my worst enemy..theres nothing else to do rt now but grieve
steelgator Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I feel like my relationship is different then the rest because we always fell right back to where we left off... Exactly why you ended up breaking up again. If you go back right where you left off then history will repeat itself. You should have started over with her. Be friends first to protect yourself and go very slow. Act like you are meeting someone new.
Tree_Salmon Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Hey all, I cant get over this, please help me. I have been dating girl for almost 6 years on and off, We broke up 3 years ago and it ripped me apart and we got together after being broken up for 6 months. We got back together for another year and then she ripped my heart out again. After being broken up for 3 months, got back together and were together for a year again. A few days ago, we broke up again. I was not happy some days and always thought about not being with her and other days I would know I want to be with her for the rest of my life. After we broke up I cant feel, I cant eat, I cant sleep and my whole life is her, but how and why do I keep going back to her and doing this to myself. I know Im a good catch (not cocky, im just confident), 6 figure job, in shape, tons of friends, but why cant I get over this one girl. Im a 27 year old so I have put my whole life to this girl and now its all shot down and I feel like its over... I feel like my relationship is different then the rest because we always fell right back to where we left off... Please help me You're not the only one. I thought my relationship, being just like yours, was different from others but its not. Mine was 5+ years and we broke up just like you did. But the best thing to do is move on and work on yourself for the time being. Even if your life is pretty good just spend time alone and finding yourself. It's early so of course you're feeling like crap. Give it time and detach from her for a little.
Author whywhy Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 Exactly why you ended up breaking up again. If you go back right where you left off then history will repeat itself. You should have started over with her. Be friends first to protect yourself and go very slow. Act like you are meeting someone new. Yea, but it is so easy and nice to fall back into the good times. I just don't get it. Two days ago we were talking about getting engaged and now she says she's unhappy. How can this happen. Do you all feel like you can't move on or that your life can't make sense without them...
Ruby65 Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Your life will make even LESS sense if you marry this girl and have kids with her..... and she tells you 4 or 5 years down the line that, once again, it's over. You CAN move on. You can rebuild and recover from this girl and find real love again. You're so young -- you have your whole life ahead of you! It's much harder to do this after the wedding, and so heartbreaking when it's not just YOUR life being ripped apart, but your kids' lives too!
Author whywhy Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 Yea but it's so hard to see that cause she is my whole life and I can't imagine it without her...
Author whywhy Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 You're not the only one. I thought my relationship, being just like yours, was different from others but its not. Mine was 5+ years and we broke up just like you did. But the best thing to do is move on and work on yourself for the time being. Even if your life is pretty good just spend time alone and finding yourself. It's early so of course you're feeling like crap. Give it time and detach from her for a little. I honestly don't know how to detach. We live together etc. I cant do it. I seriously feel worse then when a family member passed away. I didn't think anything could hurt like this
steelgator Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 two days ago yall were talking about getting engaged and now she's unhappy? Dude you gotta tell her to look at the big picture and stop being overdramatic. If you plan on getting engaged to someone you have to be able to accept their faults and not bail out when things aren't going completely well. If she can't tough it out when things aren't going the way that she exactly wants it...move the **** on and find a girl with some damn integrity.
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