matt1513 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 i think almost everyone of us has made mistakes that pushed our ex further away, begging, mind games, etc, every website ive looked up they just say dont do that and give your ex space then continue talking to her and slowly work it out, what happens if you already dig beg and push your ex away but want to be with them in the end, should you give them space then do what the websites said still? im lost on what to do if that happened.. so can you guys tell me what to do after doing that to possibly get your ex to have those feelings for you again so they will try again?
Brokendude Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Only thing that will help u right now is let it be man, u need to give her spave to up ur value in her eyes.... Only option here, no one in the history of the world got their girl back by begging, just breathe and start this process asap, things will fall into place
Author matt1513 Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Only thing that will help u right now is let it be man, u need to give her spave to up ur value in her eyes.... Only option here, no one in the history of the world got their girl back by begging, just breathe and start this process asap, things will fall into place ive been nc for 4 days now after begging, she called me at 2 in the morning and when i asked her she said she doesnt remember, and the night before that she texted me asking where a party was and i repsonded in the morning and she said it wasnt meant for me... so what should i do? im not ready to talk to her yet she said we wont date again but everyone says stuff they dont mean mad from what i read. so after space what should i do to get her attracted to me again, and to love me again.
whoknows11 Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 ive been nc for 4 days now after begging, she called me at 2 in the morning and when i asked her she said she doesnt remember, and the night before that she texted me asking where a party was and i repsonded in the morning and she said it wasnt meant for me... so what should i do? im not ready to talk to her yet she said we wont date again but everyone says stuff they dont mean mad from what i read. so after space what should i do to get her attracted to me again, and to love me again. Ive been in it for about the same length so far. Heard nothing from my ex. As for you, you already have. Good in a way if you wanted to. Not good that shea messing with you. Its obvious that they were meant for you. Shes just trying to mess with your head. Thats my opinion.
Brokendude Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I promise u that if u keep nc she herself will come to u, be patient and dont ever break nc, u have my word just trust me i got mine back that way but lost her bc of her doubts, but she will come back be patient and improve urself
Author matt1513 Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 I promise u that if u keep nc she herself will come to u, be patient and dont ever break nc, u have my word just trust me i got mine back that way but lost her bc of her doubts, but she will come back be patient and improve urself well ive been talking to friends and she told me she wanted to be single for the summer have fun etc so im thinking shes doing the push/pull to keep me around for after? shes telling me she likes this guy, then a week later tells me she doesnt want to lead him on, i begged after she said that, and begged the week later again, im scared that pushed her away rushing her into it, so if i do nc you're saying she will miss me and want to work this out? what should i do during nc to improve my chances, she said i dont listen, and im too clingy so what should i do to improve my chances? and do you feel its games to keep me around for after the summer so she can have her "fun"
mike588 Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I promise u that if u keep nc she herself will come to u, be patient and dont ever break nc, u have my word just trust me i got mine back that way but lost her bc of her doubts, but she will come back be patient and improve urself I agree however there is no absolute guarantee she will come back by sticking with No Contact but it's YOUR BEST OPTION!!
Brokendude Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Mikes actually right, if shes ever to return ur only hope is nc
Author matt1513 Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 Mikes actually right, if shes ever to return ur only hope is nc even after begging for her back and her saying we wouldnt work etc if i do nc theres a chance she will come back? what are your thoughts on her playing mindgames for the summer to keep me around, do you believe that? i know her ex before me she dumped before the summer too, but shes liked me since the first time we talked 3 years ago.. so if i stick to nc even after all the begging you think she will come back? or should i break it after 2-3 weeks
Brokendude Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 U hafta assume its over and apply nc..take this time to get ur self esteem up coz u said ur needy, this can be done by working out, enjoying w friends and doin anything productive and positive, dont do it for her but by urself, if u dont work on ur clinginess, and say she comes back ull repel her right back, so literally let her go work on ur own issues, this is ur only chance, its counter intuitive but it works, basically everything ur clingy mind wants u to to is wrong u hafta go opposite of everything but u hafta not think of it as a game but a service to urself, genuinely focus and work on u, this will give u the best chance not only to get her back but to keep her
Author matt1513 Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 U hafta assume its over and apply nc..take this time to get ur self esteem up coz u said ur needy, this can be done by working out, enjoying w friends and doin anything productive and positive, dont do it for her but by urself, if u dont work on ur clinginess, and say she comes back ull repel her right back, so literally let her go work on ur own issues, this is ur only chance, its counter intuitive but it works, basically everything ur clingy mind wants u to to is wrong u hafta go opposite of everything but u hafta not think of it as a game but a service to urself, genuinely focus and work on u, this will give u the best chance not only to get her back but to keep her well ive been working 6 9 hour days a week and started working out again. i still feel im not ready enough to control my emotions if things werent going my way so im not ready to talk to her yet. how can i make her become attracted to me again? even by just texting, by her texting and calling randomly it shows she does miss me right? i dont get what shes doing at all..
Brokendude Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Best chance to make her attracted to u: 1. Work on ur clinginess with what weve discussed 2. Give her room to breathe, complete NC
mike588 Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 even after begging for her back and her saying we wouldnt work etc if i do nc theres a chance she will come back? what are your thoughts on her playing mindgames for the summer to keep me around, do you believe that? i know her ex before me she dumped before the summer too, but shes liked me since the first time we talked 3 years ago.. so if i stick to nc even after all the begging you think she will come back? or should i break it after 2-3 weeks This is your 2nd thread and you keep asking the same questions. I/we have given you our best advise...Stick with No Contact. You are desperate for her to come back and if she senses that....well she's NOT!! Choice 1.. Stick with No Contact...try to move on with your life believing she's not coming back. Find a hobby..surround yourself with friends and family..do things that make you happy.Disappear..be mysterious..she's probably (by your past actions) expecting you to "be there" when she calls/texts. If you do talk with her don't come across as needy...all sad and hurt like you can't live without her....pitiful!! Choice 2. Answer her calls/texts 1 second after your phone rings..tell her you can't live without her..start crying and begging and pleading or better yet call/text her and do/say those things.Tell her your lifes a wreck without her and you will wait for her..NOT!!! If you do those things kiss her goodbye FOREVER!!! 1
Author matt1513 Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 Best chance to make her attracted to u: 1. Work on ur clinginess with what weve discussed 2. Give her room to breathe, complete NC i think its because of the begging and me texting her too much. after giving her room to breath with nc, im trying for atleast 2 weeks what do i need to do after that?
Brokendude Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 U dont contact her not even 2 weeks, the timeline is all on her not ur choice, u call her ever before she does and shes gone, take that to the bank, u lost any control when u begged man, this is all up to her now, u dont have any right to contact her, she has to make the decision 1
mike588 Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 i think its because of the begging and me texting her too much. after giving her room to breath with nc, im trying for atleast 2 weeks what do i need to do after that? After your crying..begging and pleading she's thinking...Geeze he's pathetic...he's (you)are so needy..I don't want a guy like that. Ok..the damage has been done..time to 'fix that" by sticking with STRICT No Contact!!! I'm sure if she calls you, you would answer. So when/if she calls and you answer act like you've got your emotions under control...that your doing ok...your moving on. Better yet..DON'T answer..let it go to voice mail..if she leaves a message DONT call her back for atleast 24 hrs...the longer the better. This will surprise her because of your past actions she's expecting you to call her back instantly!!! Let her start to wonder/become curious about why your acting differently than she expects....believe me women DON'T WANT a needy..clingy Boo Hoo guy!! Look..I'm Not ragging on you..I'm just telling you the Cold Hard Truth!! The choice is yours! 1
Brokendude Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Listen to mike and i dude, dont even fake it eliminate clinginess while nc
Author matt1513 Posted July 16, 2012 Author Posted July 16, 2012 After your crying..begging and pleading she's thinking...Geeze he's pathetic...he's (you)are so needy..I don't want a guy like that. Ok..the damage has been done..time to 'fix that" by sticking with STRICT No Contact!!! I'm sure if she calls you, you would answer. So when/if she calls and you answer act like you've got your emotions under control...that your doing ok...your moving on. Better yet..DON'T answer..let it go to voice mail..if she leaves a message DONT call her back for atleast 24 hrs...the longer the better. This will surprise her because of your past actions she's expecting you to call her back instantly!!! Let her start to wonder/become curious about why your acting differently than she expects....believe me women DON'T WANT a needy..clingy Boo Hoo guy!! Look..I'm Not ragging on you..I'm just telling you the Cold Hard Truth!! The choice is yours! i get what you mean, and she probably wouldnt call me again, just a text, how can i work on being less clingy and needy if we do start talking again?
mike588 Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 i get what you mean, and she probably wouldnt call me again, just a text, how can i work on being less clingy and needy if we do start talking again? You need to be happy with/within yourself...that you don't have to have anyone else to make your life or you happy. These things come in time..you can't fake it. Sometimes having your heart broken is a big lesson in learning about yourself..who you are and what you want. I've been in your shoes several times...I was beyond heartbroken a year ago but now am happy being single..it's all a learning and growing experience...your not alone..we ALL have to go thru tough times like this but we take the lessons learned into the next relationship...you will have another...just give it time and work on yourself. There is nothing wrong with you for feeling this way..your human..again it happens to ALL of us...you will be ok.. that I promise you!! It's a tough and rough road to go down but one day you WILL look back on this and laugh.
Shohane Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 Cut all contacts. Enjoy your life. Give them a chance to miss you, too.
Brokendude Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 making ur self less clingy is simply a matter of being happy with urself...how do u attain that?? its simple, u take care of urself, simple things as working out, eating right, buying new clothes, grooming urself well...the point of this is ur sending a signal to ur brain that you are important to you...u are clingy as hell because u base ur happiness on ur gf.... u need to do all the things i told u so u can be happy with urself because by taking care of urself ur loving YOU.....this will make u less clingy because u wont need to rely on ur gf for ur happiness she can add to it but she wont be ur only source of happiness...u should want her in ur life not NEED her in ur life....u need to be ur own man so she can also depend on u...how is she gonna count on u to take care of her if u dont even love urself and respect urself, she needs to see that u can be ok on ur own first, that is super attractive to a woman, a confident, self sufficient dude....dont fake it because she will see through it change ur lifestyle and put urself first...i have nothing to gain from this im a ver experienced guy, yes i know im goin thru tough times but under very difft circumstances....i want u to be happy dude because i truly know how it is to lose a loved one it is as painful as it can get...
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