WonderKid Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Anybody have experiences of when guys/girls didn't give you much play or played you a couple ways back? And now tables have turned? A girl I've known since Freshman year of HS used to be heavyset. Around 235lbs at least. I haven't seen her until 5 yrs and she goes to college now. She's down to like 165 now. Looking healthy and everything. And even some of my guys talk about her now. She does look good. And guys from back in the day try and hit on her so hard now but she be just killing them softly. I'm glad for her though--happy she worked hard. Anybody have experiences to share?
SmileFace Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Yeah. I have lost over 130 pounds since HS however I don't think it is me they didn't want. I was a different person back then, same as your school mate. You can't change what people are attracted to. Yes the new attention is great but if she was the same size back then she may have got the same attention as now. Same thing with getting in shape, a new car, or money. 1
Radu Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 At 32 virtually every girl I once had a crush on/asked out has decayed significantly ( gained weight, had two babies by that guy who was cool enough to call back, too much tanning ) and it's fantastic. And yes with regards to the tables turning, I wasn't hot enough back when I was reading books with which you could bludgeon a rhino.. until it bought me a house and brand new German luxury car by 26. I was cool enough then. Unfortunately for some of them by now their little sisters were legal. This is actually pretty funny. 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 At 32 virtually every girl I once had a crush on/asked out has decayed significantly ( gained weight, had two babies by that guy who was cool enough to call back, too much tanning ) and it's fantastic. And yes with regards to the tables turning, I wasn't hot enough back when I was reading books with which you could bludgeon a rhino.. until it bought me a house and brand new German luxury car by 26. I was cool enough then. Unfortunately for some of them by now their little sisters were legal. :sick: 2
Negative Nancy Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 :sick: I don't agree with the legal sisters, but his sentiments are understandable.
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Back then, they didn't want me, and I still don't think they want me now.
SunandMoon Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Back then I got minimal attention (and on several occasions did nothing about the attention I did get)....can't say much has changed. Hey Hokie ;_; 1
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Yes. I have a perfect experience to share. I met a girl offline in about 1997 when AOL was the thing for having chat rooms. We met, she wasn't really into me but let me perform fellatio on her, and then sent me on my way with NO reciprocation or explanantion. Eeek....I'm sure this was a mistake in the writing...but... 2
SmileFace Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Eeek....I'm sure this was a mistake in the writing...but... Gosh, I hope not. Then again if he is ok with that. Wait that isn't possible... so she must be, Oh I never!
SmileFace Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Yeah basically that is what happened, not to be rude or disrespectful but I went down her, she got her jollies and I got kicked out. It was just funny how the tables turned. She was a good looking girl back then. When I saw her 13 years later, she really didnt age well. Yeah you may want to look up the meaning of fellatio. 1
USMCHokie Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Yeah basically that is what happened, not to be rude or disrespectful but I went down her, she got her jollies and I got kicked out. It was just funny how the tables turned. She was a good looking girl back then. When I saw her 13 years later, she really didnt age well. Gosh, I hope not. Then again if he is ok with that. Wait that isn't possible... so she must be, Oh I never! I'm not quite sure he knows what it means to fellate someone...Alex, Google is your best friend...
SmileFace Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Oh boy ill never live this one down. She was a female!! So.... how was that? Teehee. Haha it's fine, amusing but fine.
bikinibeach Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 Yes. I have a perfect experience to share. I met a girl offline in about 1997 when AOL was the thing for having chat rooms. We met, she wasn't really into me but let me perform fellatio on her, and then sent me on my way with NO reciprocation or explanantion. Fast forward to 2010, I am 75 lbs thinner, more confident. She recognizes me and approaches me in a lounge in NYC, I wouldnt of recognized her as I had a few drinks in me plus I don't approach women. I still had it in the back of my mind what had transpired years ago. To make a long story short, I gave her my # out of haste and she contacted me because now she was interested. Well, immature me did to her what she did to me, hit & run. When asked if I wanted to see her again, I replied "sorry not my type". Very immature of me I am aware. Actually, this is grammatically incorrect as well. Basically you shouldn't have written 'wouldnt of'. Sophomoric error. Looks like that high horse of yours might only be a Shetland pony....
Author WonderKid Posted July 15, 2012 Author Posted July 15, 2012 Yeah. I have lost over 130 pounds since HS however I don't think it is me they didn't want. I was a different person back then, same as your school mate. You can't change what people are attracted to. Yes the new attention is great but if she was the same size back then she may have got the same attention as now. Same thing with getting in shape, a new car, or money. Congrats on losing that 130!! I know how hard that is. Hard work pays off. Back then, they didn't want me, and I still don't think they want me now. Idk about that Hokie Lol Yes. I have a perfect experience to share. I met a girl offline in about 1997 when AOL was the thing for having chat rooms. We met, she wasn't really into me but let me perform fellatio on her, and then sent me on my way with NO reciprocation or explanantion. Fast forward to 2010, I am 75 lbs thinner, more confident. She recognizes me and approaches me in a lounge in NYC, I wouldnt of recognized her as I had a few drinks in me plus I don't approach women. I still had it in the back of my mind what had transpired years ago. To make a long story short, I gave her my # out of haste and she contacted me because now she was interested. Well, immature me did to her what she did to me, hit & run. When asked if I wanted to see her again, I replied "sorry not my type". Very immature of me I am aware. Lol that's crazy! I do remember when AOL was the stuff back then. Even though I was only 7. But if you saw my "Don't Let a Blowjob Be a Job" thread, I did state about going down first. It's crazy she did that though. Dayumn!
Forever Learning Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 I have lost over 130 pounds since HS ummmmmm........ wow. 1
Forever Learning Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 ummmmmm........ wow. And congratulations on the weight loss!! Well done. 1
SmileFace Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 And congratulations on the weight loss!! Well done. Thanks, now to get down to my ideal. Which seems to be much harder.
Teal Posted July 15, 2012 Posted July 15, 2012 (edited) I kind of feel the same when guys in my classes approach me, though it's a very generalized feeling. Growing up little boys had mixed feelings about a little girl playing with computers and dinosaurs, especially a very shy one, and now that we've hit puberty, started coming out of our shells, and I'm one of a handful of girls in these classes guys are very friendly? I went through awkwardness, teasing, and rejection from other people who put up with teasing and rejection to start being noticed now? I know that probably only applies to a handful of them, but it's infuriating to even think about. Rather than see if I can take my pick now, I'd rather just aim for top of the class and see if employers really are more eager to hire women to balance things out. Edited July 15, 2012 by Teal
tigressA Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I was a late bloomer and couldn't get a date in high school. I was bullied a lot by boys. I wasn't fat, or particularly unattractive. I was just a minority in a sea of white faces and I stood up for myself, which was more than enough to make me stand out and make mean people try to push me down. I was hot stuff as soon as I got to college, though--and I still am . I haven't really seen anyone outside my HS social circle since I graduated (thank goodness ), so it's not like I've had guys I knew then try to hit on me now. If that ever did happen, I would just laugh.
RedRobin Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I dunno. I can't say I spend much time worrying about the guys who didn't want me way back when. People change. Circumstances change. Life happens to everyone. No need to hate them or myself. I'm pretty sure most of us were just doing the best we could at the time. If one of them came around and found me amazing now (but didn't then), I'd take it at face value and get to know them now if they seemed like a good person... Why not? Especially if they didn't do anything mean-spirited or hurtful before. 1
phineas Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 (edited) When I was fat no women paid attention to me. when I dropped 50lbs & bought new clothes they were showing interest like crazy. But i was still too fat for them & they all eventually bailed with some BS or other. A yr later when I dropped the last 50 lbs, guess how many called / txt'd me saying it's been forever & we should catch up? ALL OF THEM. Even worse, I was finally in shape & had something to offer the heavenly blessed beauties I crushed on in highschool who blew me off a yr earlier because I was overweight & when I finally met up with them after not seeing them for a yr? They had let themselves go. ick. Only a couple were actually cheerleaders in highschool but they were all that type. Edited July 16, 2012 by phineas 1
pharmmage Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I was a dumb kid who had no future, and I was falling for this girl in high school. I became her friend so that I can hope that one day I will have the confidence to ask her out, but she rejected me. We continued, or at least myself, continued to play the whole "friend" charade hoping that we will have a chance. But once again, she rejected me, claiming that she only sees me as a friend. I ran away from her for a very long time, not looking back, and not wanting to see her again. However, from time to time, I thought about her. I thought about what she was doing, how is she doing, and wondered if she missed me. Sometimes though, I thought of many things she said to me. Particularly about how she said I don't exude confidence around people, and that I'm too fat. You have no idea how hurt I was when I heard she said those things, how you thought that the supposed sweetest girl could have the nerve to say those things. Nevertheless, I tried to work on those during our absence. Fast forward to a couple years later, I'm at a better place. I graduated with a B.S., am going to graduate school, and have a good job. I saw her again, I told myself to resist, but I couldn't help it. We talked, and I bragged, hopping that she would be impressed. We exchanged numbers, I texted her asking her to meet up, and no answer. There, back then she didn't want me, and now she doesn't either. I guess no matter how hard I tried, I will never be good for her. I hate that I am twisted to wanting to keep going back to her, and I hate that I had to see her again. I guess I hadn't changed either since I couldn't get away from her. What a cruel way to have me played, but I guess that's life.
miss_jaclynrae Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 I was invisible and nerdy in HS. Now most guy who I run into from that time in my life try to hit on me. I figure if they didn't accept me then, they have no right to now.
RedRobin Posted July 16, 2012 Posted July 16, 2012 When I was fat no women paid attention to me. when I dropped 50lbs & bought new clothes they were showing interest like crazy. But i was still too fat for them & they all eventually bailed with some BS or other. A yr later when I dropped the last 50 lbs, guess how many called / txt'd me saying it's been forever & we should catch up? ALL OF THEM. ...question... why does this bother you? Would you date a woman who was 100 lbs overweight? I'm guessing the answer is no. The fact that they'd give you a chance (not knowing whether you'd gain the weight back later or not) should be a positive thing. Congrats on losing the weight, BTW. Please know that it is very possible that the ladies are interested now for other reasons.... not just the fact you lost the weight. It shows some perseverence and dedication. So no need to slam them. You could maybe muster a little thankfulness(?) and gratitude (?).
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