DanielP Posted July 14, 2012 Posted July 14, 2012 I have been in a relationship with this Girl for 1 year and just a week ago, there was a huge fire, maybe you heard of it in colorado, the Waldo Canyon fire. Her family and her house was burned down about a week ago. Out of no where she decide to leave colorado and move back to puerto rico where she was from. we always had little small arguments, but there were so many more good times and happiness we had together to even matter. When i last talk to her on the phone was 4 days ago and I asked her why she was leaving me, and she just told me " I do not like colorado, and im going through a lot of stress." I decided to let her make her own decision and leave. I really wanted to make her change her mind, but I didnt want to seem forceful and clingy. I did spill my heart to her that same night. She called me that day later and told me that she was leaving for sure, so i asked why again because i thought her reason before was just no good. She told me again " she does not want her parents to have to take care of her, I do not want to be a nuisance to her family." so i said that i would take care of her, and she did not like that either. I tried to explain to her that relationships is not just ME taking care of You, its both of us working together and taking care of eachother. In this relationship, she had much love for me and i did for her, but she thought that i did not love her as much as she loved me. She also thought that she was not good enough for me because of her financial situation, and also not being able to drive. Also because of this fire, she was without a job. 3 weeks before their house burned down, I thought it would be a good idea for her to meet my parents, So we took a road trip together, and she was willing to lose her job to take this road trip with me even though i told her that she would lose her job, she did not care because she loved me so much she wanted to meet my parent. We went to my hometown New Jersey and had the best time ever. We went to the beaches together, and New York City site seeing, and also my parents loved her as her parents love me as one of their sons. Both of our parents were happy for the both of us being together. After we got back, she told me that we spent to much time together, so i took her home. a few days later the fire began and her and her family were devastated. They were evacuated and i told her and her whole family can stay at my house as long as they needed to collect there insurance and get back up on their feet. But they denied the offer because it was too much of a hassle. 2 days later, my GF asked that she needed all her money back that she put in the bank my bank account, i said okay gave it back to her with some confusion. I knew from then on that something else was going on but was not to sure what. she put 3000 dollars in my account, but spent alot of it on the road trip we had and on other things as well, but then expected me to give her back 3000 dollars. Though we spent 2000 dollars on the road trip vacation. But I gave it all back to her because i understood her situation. After giving it back to her, i met up with her and her parents to give it to her. Then she told me that she was going to leave colorado. I was confused and a bit frustrated, so i just said okay. she told me she was moving back to puerto rico. So just 2 days ago she left. Her phone broke recently, but that may have been a lie so that i would not contact her anymore. But she called me on her sisters phone before she left saying that she still loves me and does not want to break up with me, but does not know when she was coming back. So she told me that i could do what ever i want. To me that means if she says to me that i could do whatever i want, shes going to do whatever she wants. But then agian i dont know. i asked her to call me when she landed in PR just so that i know she got there safe and she said she would, but so far 2 days with no phone call. I really dont know what this means, and i am very confused. Today i find out from her family friend who bought her the ticket to go to PR, she accually went to Florida where she was before colorado. She freakin lied to be about where she was going...I was just so heart broken when she told me she was leaving the first time and i just cried every hour thinking about her. I havnt slept for 5 days and now that i just found out shes in florida and not PR.. i really wonder whats going on and who shes with. I know that she had an ex BF in florida but i really dont think shes back with him or anything because of all the horrible things he did to her and treated her, but i just dont know. So far 4 days no contact but im freaking out. I dont know if to be mad or just sad as i already am. If she wants to break up with me, i want closure. What do i do!! Im so much in love with her and i know she loves me so much, she knows that shes the one i want to be with the rest of my life and i just dont know whats going on.. I cant sleep and i dont know how i can contact her and im freaking out if shes back with her ex BF and just left me without saying anything. I cant wait any longer i need to speak with her. This is what her family friend said to me Danny hey Nay, i was wondering if you know why emely moved back to puerto rico. my heart is broken because of this and i not knowing if shes coming back. 2 hours ago Nay OH MY GOD DANNY I KNOW SHES GONE..BUT I DONT KNOW IF SHE COMING BACK...THE DECISION THE SHE MADE REALLY SURPRIZED ME BECAUSE YOU BOTH HAD PLANS FOR MARRIAGE. IM REALLY SAD BECAUSE I KNOW YOU ARE VERY GOOD PERSON AND I LIKE YOU FOR THAT.I BELIEVE THAT THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG HERE, I THINK YOU NEED TO TALK WITH HER SERIOUSLY. YOU NEED TO ASK HER WHY SHE LEFT YOU.YOU KNOW, TELL THE TRUTH AND BE HONEST ABOUT YOURSELF...YOU DESERVE IT!!! Danny Thanks, but she does not have her cell phone, and i asked her to call me when she gets to puerto rico, but she hasnt called me yet. I really thought she was the one. i dont know if i should move on or wait for her to call me. Nayra MY HEART TELLS ME THAT SOONER OR LATER SHE WILL COMING BACK BUT I THINK FOR THAT, IT MAY BE TOO LATE. NEVER STOP FOR ANYTHING, DO AND SAY WHAT YOU WANT AND HAVE TO SAY, MAYBE IN THE FUTURE YOU THANK ME AND MAYBE YOU KNOW WHY I TELL YOU THIS Nayra PLEASE EXCUSE MY ENGLISH IS VERY BAD Danny So your saying to try to get her to come back to me? i cannot call her. she must call me first. THANKS nayra ill try Nayra TAKE MY ADVICE NEVER STOP BY ANYONE OK?...YOU ARE A GREAT PERSON AND YOU HAVE A FUTURE AHEAD. IF SHE CALL YOU ASK HER WHY...AND BY THE WAY SHES NOT IN PR SHES IN FLORIDA Nayra DONT TELL HER THAT WE HAVE THIS CONVERSATION Now i do not know what to do, im freaking out because she lied and still wondering why she left me with no explanation. My heart is in so much pain, i cant breathe, i cant drink or eat or sleep. Im not motivated for anything and my days are just dragging on and feels like my life is hanging on by a string. oh my god i need some advice and help.
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