without Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I find it very hard. I literally can't do it. It kills me to at least check his facebook but I do it anyway and I end up crying. What helped you do it?
whoknows11 Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I find it very hard. I literally can't do it. It kills me to at least check his facebook but I do it anyway and I end up crying. What helped you do it? Are you on his friends list?
Author without Posted July 13, 2012 Author Posted July 13, 2012 Are you on his friends list? No, as a matter of fact i deleted him...
whoknows11 Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 No, as a matter of fact i deleted him... Thats a good thing. I did the same. Its hard to i know. I cant see anything my ex does. Only if her picture changes. Shes been paying attention to mine. Yet we arent on eachothers friends list. And im not on her best friends list or familys friends. But she ll text me when she sees something she doesnt like. Its confusing and i see what your going through. I am as well. And its completly ok. I have to hold back tears each time because i miss her. Im trying not to look at hers at times but its really hard. Just try to take your mind off of it. Like do something when you think about it that occupies you. Trust me, i ended up having it as a routine looking at it reguardless if i couldnt see anything.
whoknows11 Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Yes Its really hard... Yes deff, especially if they broke up with you. Its been a nightmare for me. Trying to give my ex space. She came out of nowhere with it. Im trying not to look at her fb. Its been the hardest thing. Even if i can only see pictures. Just seeing her face breaks me down.
CopingGal Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I find it very hard. I literally can't do it. It kills me to at least check his facebook but I do it anyway and I end up crying. What helped you do it? 1-Deleting my facebook account 2-Concentrating on the important, great things in my life that really matter 3-Doing Chigong 4-Journaling 5-Remembering how dysfunctional and mean he was to me 6-Filling my time up with wonderful projects 7-Recognizing how mentally ill he is and that I have to stay away from him
Author without Posted July 13, 2012 Author Posted July 13, 2012 Yes deff, especially if they broke up with you. Its been a nightmare for me. Trying to give my ex space. She came out of nowhere with it. Im trying not to look at her fb. Its been the hardest thing. Even if i can only see pictures. Just seeing her face breaks me down. Yes, Indeed. I saw a girl that was his friend commenting on his cover , during the time i was in his friend list she didn't make any comments and I don't know... I just burst into tears because I thought maybe he likes her and they may go out... and this thought made me feel so much pain... 1-Deleting my facebook account 2-Concentrating on the important, great things in my life that really matter 3-Doing Chigong 4-Journaling 5-Remembering how dysfunctional and mean he was to me 6-Filling my time up with wonderful projects 7-Recognizing how mentally ill he is and that I have to stay away from him Thanks
whoknows11 Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Yes, Indeed. I saw a girl that was his friend commenting on his cover , during the time i was in his friend list she didn't make any comments and I don't know... I just burst into tears because I thought maybe he likes her and they may go out... and this thought made me feel so much pain... Thanks My ex was the same way. Would just get upset and scared that she thought there was someone else or that im doing something with a girl. Id always reasure her even after the breakup that im not. But yeah she isnt on my friends list but still gets mad when she sees something on there she doesnt like.
Author without Posted July 13, 2012 Author Posted July 13, 2012 My ex was the same way. Would just get upset and scared that she thought there was someone else or that im doing something with a girl. Id always reasure her even after the breakup that im not. But yeah she isnt on my friends list but still gets mad when she sees something on there she doesnt like. Well the thing is she broke up with you, she has no right to say that. But I didn't.
Gulf-Delta Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I tihnk about calling her every once in a while...but there's no point, and that's what keeps me from doing it. It won't result in her confessing her love for me, won't result in sleeping together, wouldn't even result in hanging out or going for a cup of coffee. I don't know why it wouldn't....she just seems to want nothing to do with me anymore. Which sucks, but I know if I contact her, I'll just get hurt. Also, it helps if you kinda, "procrastinate" it...instead of contacting her, say "We'll see in a week". Then the week comes, and I still feel like I'd end up hurt, and say "maybe next month" and so on.
whoknows11 Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 Well the thing is she broke up with you, she has no right to say that. But I didn't. Yeah i just dont get it. I havent done anything but why should it matter if she left me? Ive been waiting for her, its just hurting me more each day. Especially now with the i need space thing. She promised she hasnt and wont do anything with another guy but i just cant believe it now. Itd just kill me seeing or knowing shes with someone else.
CopingGal Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 You will get good at NC. When you go down so far and feel so hurt that you can't live like that any more, that is when you will rise up and be more consistent with NC.
whoknows11 Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I have never been good at NC. Me neither. Not in least bit. Ive broke it each time. Now theres no choice. Now i know what she wants i have to try and keep this way. Its just really hard especially it being the first day. Cause im just looking ahead weeks from now. It seems impossible. Its the worst feeling in the world knowing that the one person you care for and want to hear from wants nothing to do with you.
Stanza Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 You'll get there, the online stuff hurts, but it gives some information of where they are, the tears will be less about what you see.
jecca1976 Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 trust me Im worse then anyone and Im never capable of the NC thing but this time for me it was different, for the love I had and still do and I think of him so often its frustrating etc.. I realized I finally wanted someone to be here with me cause they wanted too not because I forced it...trust me Im worse then you but this time for me...the love I feel for him, made me wanna fight make him see what hes losing but I realized he has to see it on his own...I know it sounds silly but for every day that passes and trust me he has not said a word not once my heart breaks alil more but the NC has allowed me to catch my breath again...yes hes there in my mind, but the "rejection" that horrible feeling that kicks you in the stomach everytime you call or look at the face book...your not having to deal with it and not having that stress at least lets you smile at the good things from time to time you know... Trust me tho, I feel you... I miss everything about him to the way he snored?? so stupid but Im at 2 months n change and Im "ok" thats all I have...but its something
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