used this in "real life"?

[flitzanu]

just curious, how many of you have had the opportunity to use any of the tips and advice given in this forum with "real life" friends?

 

i just recently had a personal friend going through a bad breakup, and in explaining the events and things that were being said, i realized how CLEARLY i saw things now.

 

people really do follow patterns.

 

there's a connection online with posters, but it's still rather detached by not knowing any of you/these people in person. it's just been the first time the situation came up for me with someone asking my input.

 

and for this...i thank you.

 

it's kept me from being passive and neutral and making them feel hopeful about stupid breadcrumbs the dumper is offering.

[Edtheduck]

Unfortunately the majority of my mates are all loved up and happy so not applied the knowledge I've gained yet.

 

Yea, it sucks! I used to be there too prior to 3 months ago!

 

I'm much wiser though having read the countless threads on here, and advice offered by people.

[wilsonx]

people really do follow patterns. .

 

people said I was crazy when I said this last year. "Wait there's no one size fits all box. You can't be right about that situation."

 

/taps foot patiently... Still waiting to be wrong

 

Teehee, I now have a new partner in crime.

Edited July 12, 2012 by wilsonx

[radiodarcy]

i've tried. they seem like they're listening but then they do the opposite. so i don't bother anymore. all good. all that matters is it worked for me

[Ajax]

A friend of mine just got dumped by his girlfriend of three years on his birthday by text message. I thought I'd seen everything on LoveShack, but I was witnessing this surreal event unfold before me with my own eyes. I mean, even I was thinking, "did this seriously just happen???"

 

I've been trying to use the advice I gleaned from LS as well as my own experience to help him out, but we all know when someone's in this position they're not always receptive to it.

[CaliBabe]

One of my best girlfriends got dumped by her man. He was acting distant, didn't spend much time with her, didn't want to have sex all the time (HUGE red flag) and he eventually broke things off with her. Go figure she finds out two weeks later that there was another woman. I tried to talk things out with her but it took her finding out there was another woman for her to go NC and get to the healing process. But alot of the advice here has made me see things clearly. Hoping I could help her with the knowledge I gained here.

[flitzanu]

people said I was crazy when I said this last year. "Wait there's no one size fits all box. You can't be right about that situation."

 

/taps foot patiently... Still waiting to be wrong

 

Teehee, I now have a new partner in crime.

 

hells yeah. it's truly amazing how people want to believe they are the "exception" when all of us are just the "rule".

 

everything i'm witnessing is textbook right now, breadcrumbs, the anger in order to get a response, etc. it's almost fascinating watching it happen in real life where it's tangible.

 

not that it's less fascinating online or anything

[flitzanu]

i've tried. they seem like they're listening but then they do the opposite. so i don't bother anymore. all good. all that matters is it worked for me

 

are you hiding out? haven't seen you lately

[Samilia]

I used them with clarity on myself when he tried stringing me along, i knew exactly where that was going (FWB is where he thought he could lead me).

 

I was also giving advice to my coworker about his ex gf who had cheated on him with her boss.

 

I have become the expert "see through all the bullsh*t" when a friend tells me about this "it's complicated" relationship that they have.

 

Though I am still careful, I know everything isn't black and white. But for the most part, when it comes to relationship advice, it really is..