RogerWallace111 Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Oh and as I think the thread starter was looking for stories where they came back to you, I experienced that too. Though if she hadn't I'd be way further along now... Story goes: Yelled cruel things at her, did some not huge, but significant damage to her home in a drunken, hurt outburst. She would barely talk to me for weeks though I apologized SO profusely, then sent me an in-depth facebook message ( man can she can suck at times) saying how her friends/fam had advised her to cut me out of her life, and that she was taking their advice and severing all ties with me "permanently"... Anyway, I texted her/called for a week after to no avail, then gave up. I sincerely believed that was it for good, and started trying to move on. Didn't cling to hope. Of course, a month later, she contacts me, and is ecstatic I wasn't irrepairably pissed at her cold hearted letter and hadn't found a new girl. Then we started dating again for 4 months, which she ended cause she knew i wasn't commited to her "forever" at this point in my life and didn't want to just postpone the pain. She postponed mine though ! Aaaaha
RogerWallace111 Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Oh yes and the night she called me was of course the first night I was feeling pretty good about things. To the point I had a specific thought to myself saying something like "wow, I'm gonna be alright, I feel content in this moment". 20 minutes later, there she was. Kinda like that "swingers" line about them knowing to wait to call till you've moved on or forgotten...
AlexanderJames Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Oh yes and the night she called me was of course the first night I was feeling pretty good about things. To the point I had a specific thought to myself saying something like "wow, I'm gonna be alright, I feel content in this moment". 20 minutes later, there she was. Kinda like that "swingers" line about them knowing to wait to call till you've moved on or forgotten... This always happens! Remember I said I was heaps happy with NC and not hearing from her. And that with a bit of luck I never hear from her again? Then that VERY SAME night I got a note on my door asking to call her.... Murphy's Law. Has anyone one here ever wondered what might happen if their ex came on here and read EVERYTHING you had written about them and they way you felt?
Girlboots Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 I had 2... The first one was the guy and I had issues and I wanted to talk and he kept making excuses, so i jokingly said "If you ever come over, I'll force you to talk or just say bye :p" and he says "BYE" and doesn't speak to me for a day. He then texts me 2 days later saying "It's really hot outside" and I ignored it, then he sees me out with my best friend and he immediately texts me "Aww, best friends" and I ignored it, then finally he asks me what I'm doing and I responded and he asked if we could talk and he apologized for being an ******* towards me for an entire month. I was really upset about losing him, and I really thought it was done, but he came back and we ended anyways. The other time was this guy I was dating for 2 years, he started to act really cold and distant. One day I asked him if he wanted to go for a walk via text, and he's like "Walk by yourself" and I asked him if he's ok and he's like "You're really annoying. Give me space, for ****s sake" and it really hurt me, so I did. 2 months. It was HARD. I loved this guy. I spent a few days crying, but I kept myself busy. I felt in my heart that it was over, and I guess that's really what made it so easy. Well, month 3, I was starting to get happy again and move on, and he texts me and he's like "I don't know why I did that. I love you and I've been going crazy. I was too ashamed to speak to you because I thought you'd be upset" Well, I figured if a guy really loved me and wanted me in his life, he wouldn't let pride or the fear that I would yell at him stop him from continuing our relationship. My heart told me to forgive him and we could be a couple again, my brain said NO and gave me many valid reasons why. So, I basically told him "I'm pretty happy right now. If something hurts me badly the first time, I'd be insane to go back to it again expecting different results. You did not speak to me for 3 months and the last thing you said to me was probably the most hurtful thing you could say, I'm sorry. You had my heart and you did not treat it with care, so I don't trust you with it anymore. Bye" Oh, I was miserable. But, I found out he was cheating on me. The girl didn't know he was in a relationship, but she somehow found out he cheated on me with her and she sent me a message on FB saying she had no idea we were together and she broke up with him because she doesn't respect him at all and she called him scum. She's pretty nice. That's how I found out. He kept blowing my phone up and trying to get back with me and I just kept ignoring it and finally told his best friend to talk to him about leaving me alone, and then it stopped. So, that's a huge success! Haha
Notforever Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Bugged him with calls for two weeks while he kept me on the hook, the night he said it was over I never contacted him again and go through texts with his mom when I need to discuss rent (I still live in our apartment and he's not man enough to handle that). Finally am ridiculously happy and 95% over him after two months nc. He texted today saying how much he missed me and I deserved better. Nc is the best decision I made when it came to ending our relationship:)
RogerWallace111 Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 This always happens! Remember I said I was heaps happy with NC and not hearing from her. And that with a bit of luck I never hear from her again? Then that VERY SAME night I got a note on my door asking to call her.... Murphy's Law. Has anyone one here ever wondered what might happen if their ex came on here and read EVERYTHING you had written about them and they way you felt? Oh yeah, I remember that... Classic. And yes I've thought about that possibility. Might be a good thing. This is where i vent most openly and without bias, or someone inevitably in my ear telling me how much better off i am without her.
LoverOfDance Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 I think EVERYONE has a little bit of hope. Like the saying goes, "when there is life, there is hope". I don't think there's anything you can do about it. That hope will naturally die out with time. I think the good thing about going NC is that you end up in a win win situation. They either come back or you move on. Either way you win. I don't have a success story yet but I think I'll have one soon:)
LoverOfDance Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Haha, I actually meant to imply that yours was a success story. And I'm hapy to hear that. I may have a slight ulterior motive for NC but I'm in the process of giving myself the respect of doing it for the right reasons. I just need to figure out how to give myself no hope. Because right now I have a very small slice of it that I cant seem to ditch. I think EVERYONE has a little bit of hope. Like the saying goes, "when there is life, there is hope". I don't think there's anything you can do about it. That hope will naturally die out with time. I think the good thing about going NC is that you end up in a win win situation. They either come back or you move on. Either way, you win. I don't have a success story yet but I think I'll have one soon:)
lemonlime Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I had one. My ex and i broke up because of some mistrust, mistreatment, and communication problems. We went 6 weeks without any contact, emailed a few times, and went 6 weeks without anymore contact. I emailed him as a i feel like i owe it to what we had to try one last time before I move on type thing. We ended up meeting up, and it was like a new start. We still had to work at things, but it was good. Communication was so much better. The love was still there. Of course i think the big thing is both of us didnt move on to other people and actually worked on ourselves. Unfortunately I ****ed it up big time, and i dont think the same thing will happen twice.
Girlboots Posted July 13, 2012 Posted July 13, 2012 I have another one! I broke NC with my friend, and decided to talk to him and we spent 3 hours trying to fix what happened. We're friends again
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