sapfest2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I really don't even know why I'm writing. I just had to write something. My ex of over a year and a half broke up with me a month ago. We had been arguing a bit because I wasn't giving him enough attention or affection due to work and school stress. When he broke up with me, it happened on the phone, and he told me to contact him all I want, but he wouldn't respond. And he was right. I never thought I'd be one of those girls who would incessantly contact her ex to fix it, but I did. No matter what, I got no response. I couldn't understand why. I tried everything and he just avoided me. I still don't completely get our breakup. There were rumors that he was cheating with someone we know but that was proven false. I just kept begging him to contact me...even if just for closure. I also told him several times that I was holding onto hope that we would work things out. Sure enough, I found out he had a profile on a dating site. He wasn't even man enough to be honest with me that he didn't love me anymore and that's why we broke up. Instead, I have to find out that a month later he's looking for someone else. I love him so much and I want to move on, but it's so hard. I thought we were going to be together forever. I thought he was the one. Also, it's his birthday today, but I think it's best, reading through past threads, that I don't contact him. Can any of you give me insight or encouragement or something???
CherryRed27 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Hi, I know how you are feeling, I'm going through something simular minus the dating site. It is so hard when you really love someone and they don't love you. Especially when you go against your better judgement and beg for there love only to find out that didn't do any good and feel even more dumb and unwanted and unloved. I am in a situation where I feel those things too, I'm handling it with love movies and friends and family. I guess I'm focusing more on taking care of myself now that hes gone. I don't mind that at all. I'm trying to fix all the things I think are wrong with me so that I can love myself that much more, so the next time a guy decides to walk out on me I'll surprise him with an I DONT GIVE A **** face, and move on. I think once we realize our worht it is easier to see things and people that fit and also those that don't fit. Work on your self esteem, rebuld you from the inside out. Much Love, I would say good luck but you don't need it.
Samilia Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Hello, Don't beat yourself up about contacting him, he said he would leave the door open, he didn't. I find that a lot of people try to blame the break up on the dumpee, they're not honest enough to come up with the truth. I mean if you were that busy, that's something he should have brought up and not abruptly decide to walk away. It's got to sting to have discovered his dating site profile but I would find some weird comfort in realizing that I was lied to; his argument of you being too busy doesn't stand anymore. Gather your thoughts and make a plan. By that I mean, decide what you're going to do this week, this year, and follow that plan. That will keep you busy. Personally I decided to go back to school and take care of my niece, you got the idea. I hope you feel better
muzik_lvr Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I'm trying to fix all the things I think are wrong with me so that I can love myself that much more, so the next time a guy decides to walk out on me I'll surprise him with an I DONT GIVE A **** face Don't assume it will happen again! Say "if it happens again" instead. Hopefully it won't and you won't even need to give that face sapfest2012, really sorry to hear this is happening. Wish you well on your road to recovery. The last two posts had some great advice.
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