Flinty Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Hi, I really need some advice, at the beginning of the year when I was visiting a relative in hospital my then girlfriend met a ex from before me and slept with him. We had been dating for 5 years and living together for 3 years. In the week before I discovered she cheated we were planning a holiday and looking for a flat to buy. Anyway out of the blue a week later she said she wanted to break up which I could not understand. I knew something was wrong and discovered her infidelity. She tried to cover herself by lying of where she had been that night. Even when I confronted her she lied and eventually after a few painfully days she told the truth over the phone. Not even face to face. According to her he did not know about me but yet our relationship status was posted in a popular networking site which is how they got back in contact. Anyway I kicked her out the flat and moved a month later as it was too painfully to live there. That was 5 months ago but I still cannot sleep at night. I get images in my head of them together all the time. Its tearing me up inside. What really hurts is she did not even fight for me and she told me she does not even care from him but she no longer loved me any more. I feel some completely worthless. How can I move on? I am struggling to understand what I did wrong to deserve this treatment. I have kissed a few girls since then but it meant nothing and my mind wonders back to my ex and her cheating. I need to snap out this circle of negative thoughts and images in my head which I have created. Any advice would be appreciated.
Chi townD Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 You were with hr for 5 years. So, 5 months is nothing in the big picture of healing. You have to give it some time. Yeah, it's gonna hurt for a while, but you have to start moving forward and healing. Make some self improvements to your life. By the way, this wasn't your fault! It was her choice to cheat. You didn't force her into that. She had the power to say "no" and walk away. She chose not to. That's not your fault.
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