funlady Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 I feel stupid even writing this. I am in my 30s and I have a major crush on a guy at work. Cannot happen. He is on vacation and was supposed to be gone until the end of August. I figured that would give me enough time to get over this. He is coming back in two weeks. So what do I do? He is always nice and says hi and asks how I am etc and that's where it must end. I can only avoid him so much. I never talk about him with my other coworkers so nobody knows about this. I was even feeling jealous because another coworker liked him... I am not 12 yo so why do I feel that way and how do I stop this fast? Thanks.
Algermas Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Very easily explained, you see deep down most people still have that inner child if you will.
january2011 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Discover what it is that is fulfilled in you by having this crush. Does he represent something that is missing in your life? Do you actually want him or just what he represents? Perhaps you've been feeling stuck in a rut lately and he makes you aware of the possibilities - how your life could be? I suggest that you use these two weeks to find something else or a number of something elses to get your teeth into so that you increase the size of your world and he becomes just a very small part of it. 1
Author funlady Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 Discover what it is that is fulfilled in you by having this crush. Does he represent something that is missing in your life? Do you actually want him or just what he represents? Perhaps you've been feeling stuck in a rut lately and he makes you aware of the possibilities - how your life could be? Oh I know it is not him. I don't know him well enough for that. It is what he represents, however that doesn't stop me from acting like a fool around him. I swear if any of my friends came to me with this story I would think they were joking and/or losing their mind. I like the idea of "something else or a number of something elses".. hmmm...
mario_C Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 So, you're older and not allowed to be attracted to others? Not allowed to fantasize or "crush"? Having said that, be very careful if it's a co-worker. The worst case scenario is, it could hurt your career as well as your pride.
picaso28 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I really feel for you! I am in a very similar situation with a girl i work with. I'm 28 and i feel like such a kid! Get the whole jealousy thing when she works with other men or if she tells me about guys she likes...... It's really not like me, no one knows how i feel and i really wanna get over it! I have to work with her every day and its doing my head in!
ascendotum Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Enjoy the fact that you still have those feelings and get butterlies over someone. Its only really a problem if you are already in a relationship, which I suspect is the issue for you. If you are just enjoy the sexual frission, and then act it out on your bf back home. If you are single, then whats the problem here, beyond possibly not wanting to get involved with a co-worker?
Author funlady Posted July 12, 2012 Author Posted July 12, 2012 Enjoy the fact that you still have those feelings and get butterlies over someone. Its only really a problem if you are already in a relationship, which I suspect is the issue for you. If you are just enjoy the sexual frission, and then act it out on your bf back home. If you are single, then whats the problem here, beyond possibly not wanting to get involved with a co-worker? I just want to say, for the record, that I am single, I know he isn't married (not sure about GF). It is the co-worker thing. and BTW guys, thanks for all your comments and replies, I am glad I could finally discuss this "out loud".
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