paperboy48 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Do you care what your ex thinks of you? For instance, a lot of guys worry that their ex will compare the new guy to ourselves. Like, he is better in bed then me, etc. I am starting to not even care about these things. What about you?
Philosoraptor Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Of course early on I did. Then I learned to love myself best so it didn't matter at all what she thought. 1
Zammo25 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Yes. It is tough to go from being the only man on the planet to this.
Appleness Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Don't care. I get compliments all the time now. Fairly certain at this point that I look good enough and am smart enough to get whoever I want so long as I know that what I want. Guys shouldn't let their egos get in the way. It's a dangerous thing. You could end up spending the rest of your life trying to prove you were good enough/the best by taking it out on each subsequent girl you meet.
Thisisbs Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Right now I do care, hopefully that will change in a bit ;O
amaysngrace Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Which ex? Nope don't care about any of them cause I'm better than all of them so who are they to judge?
Mariana345 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 I just found this article, I hope it will help you Don't they care about me, didn't I mean something to them?
DuchessKaye Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 It shouldn't matter in the least bit what our exes think of us. They're no longer in our lives so why would we even care? So, to answer your question. NO, I don't give a damn to whatever my ex is thinking about me. 3
CopingGal Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Do you care what your ex thinks of you? For instance, a lot of guys worry that their ex will compare the new guy to ourselves. Like, he is better in bed then me, etc. I am starting to not even care about these things. What about you? Nah. I'm sure my ex is bad mouthing me to his ex girlfriends. He bad mouthed his exgirl friends to me. Funny thing is they were right to treat him that way. 2
Gulf-Delta Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 I only hope that she recognizes me as someone who always treated her well, and someone who cared about her. I just want her to at least remember me in a good light.
flitzanu Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 sortof. i honestly don't care what people think of me regardless of being an ex or a stranger, but what DOES bother me is that there's no simple indifference between us. i'd rather there be an amicable silence and NO feelings than the anger that she built against me. i've made amends with literally all my exes, and am very close friends (with no benefits) with them. knowing that there's one person out there that refuses to repair that bridge really bugs me. more so that it's a "person" though, less emphasis on her as an "ex". but that's just in my own arrogance, because the world loves me. 3
Samilia Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 No. I do care about what the guy in my life thinks of me, couldn't give a rat's ass about what the ex thinks, because he's the ex. And I do care about finding the new guy in my life lol
fucpcg Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 i've made amends with literally all my exes, and am very close friends (with no benefits) with them. knowing that there's one person out there that refuses to repair that bridge really bugs me. Of the 5 long term relationships I've had in my life, 4 of the girls are very good friends of mine, and one loathes me. Go figure. I've tried all I can to at least be cordial to one another, but she's not having it. 1
Author paperboy48 Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 I just found this article, I hope it will help you Don't they care about me, didn't I mean something to them? thanks for sharing this. This is helpful.
k100danny Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 This is quite hard to answer. In some ways yes I do care. I still want her to think of me as a good person and not regret the relationship ect and i suppose on some level we all have the worries of will the new guy (if there is one) be better or will she think he is better in bed ect, this shouldnt be the case as we are all different and what one person considers better other won't. It isn't a case of being better than the last person It's just will they be a better match and if so that's fine with me I wish her happiness that doesn't mean to say the fact we arent together doesn't hurt but i can see we weren't perfect for each other. Also feelings fade so just because someone seems wrapped up in a new person and so in love this is usually because the memories of how it felt before in a previous relationship have faded, this leads people to believe that new relationship are better than previous ones (not always the case but most of the time) This is a lot down to do with the actual obsession phase at the beginning of relationships and doesn't really show love ect. 1
Green21 Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 I have no idea what my ex is up to right now. I don't know where she is, what she's doing or who she's with. For me, this is ideal. I used to care about what she thought, but my lack of knowledge of the above pretty much precludes that. I've certainly never cared about how I compared to other people. She told me after break up that I was "incredible" and "the most loving, supportive and wonderful man", but if she meant any of that we'd still be together; it just made me wonder if she ever said the same to any of her ex-boyfriends before me. So worrying about that sort of thing would have been pointless.
youdunsay Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 To everyone: what if your ex starts bad mouthing you in front of your mutual friends whom they are your colleagues? What should you do?
Sugarkane Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 I agree with the previous poster who said if they're in the honeymoon phase with someone else, as they have rose colored glasses on they think the current SO is the best.
KatZee Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 I care about what OTHER people think about me. Throughout our almost 3 year relationship I did nothing but support my ex. Care for him. Respect him. I was the one who was always compromising, and sacrificing, and always accommodating HIM and HIS schedule. Looking back, everything was ALWAYS about him, but I was in love and I didn't mind doing nice things for him, showing him how much I loved him. Meanwhile, he was selfish. Semi-controlling and emotionally abusive (playing the ignore game). He would criticize me constantly, very self centered, everything in life always revolved around him, he lied to me CONSTANTLY and now that I'm out of the relationship I see that. He also cheated on me. Once the relationship was over, I still treated him with respect. I didn't beg, or plead, or scream, or get nasty. Nothing. He ended it, I returned his crap and I walked out. We didn't talk for almost 2 months. After two months he had the balls to send me a text message telling me to sell the jewelry he had gotten for me to pay my rent, that there was no "us." (Are you kidding me?? After two months not speaking, he didn't think I had gotten the hint???) Anyway, it was at THAT point, that I finally realized what a piece of sh*t he had been to me for a long time, and I FLIPPED on him. I sent him the nastiest text messages, and the harshest e-mail of life. He needed to know how much I despised him. I'm pretty sure he's now spinning the relationship in HIS favor. Making me out to be some crazy person, the bad person. He was really good at spinning things to make himself look like the victim. Never took ANY responsibility for his actions, never even took a deeper look inside himself to recognize his own flaws. I'm pretty sure there are mistruths, distortions, and flat out LIES being circulated around his friends and family. And THAT'S what I care about. Because I was nothing but the best person I could be to him, and I had some of his friends delete me on FB for what reason I have no idea. It makes me sick that he would just hide all he's done to me and make it out that I'm the one who hurt him or was bad to him.
KatZee Posted July 12, 2012 Posted July 12, 2012 Nah. I'm sure my ex is bad mouthing me to his ex girlfriends. He bad mouthed his exgirl friends to me. Funny thing is they were right to treat him that way. SAME WITH MINE!!! He talked so much sh*t about his ex girlfriend to me!! Bad mouthing her up and down, how much she sucked, her sexual ability, how stupid she was, how boring, blah blah blah this and that... and then he went and cheated on me with her! For how much he told me she sucked and was boring in bed, he ran right back to that!!! So I'm pretty sure everything he said to me about her was BS, and I'm pretty sure he's out talking all this sh*t about me now too.
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