thecobra Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 (edited) don't know if u remember about me about this girl i mentioned the other day... well her friend just tagged her in some pics on her friend's birthday and she's hugging with a guy i heard was her boyfriend when we were together... and her friend comment: "they look good" and in love they look cute" i live in NY she lives in the caribbean... what should i do? i feel used and i feel like nothing is working out help if it exist my cousing says upload pics of u kissing and upload pics of you with other girls in clubs having a good time... traveling since she lives in the caribbean and dont have visa i need revenge Edited July 10, 2012 by thecobra
Samilia Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Get off facebook. You can not do anything, stop looking at her page and take care of numero uno: you. I feel sympathy for you but torturing yourself isn't going to help.
Author thecobra Posted July 10, 2012 Author Posted July 10, 2012 i need revenge its been more than 2 months since we dont talk and we still facebook friends what to do?
Author thecobra Posted July 10, 2012 Author Posted July 10, 2012 . You can not do anything, stop looking at her page and take care of numero uno: you. I feel sympathy for you but torturing yourself isn't going to help. Get off facebook? and live? like that? like if ur enemy shot u and just stay like that? i need a guys opinion
Gulf-Delta Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 i need revenge its been more than 2 months since we dont talk and we still facebook friends what to do? unfriend her on facebook
ihateslowjams Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 (edited) im a guy and i deleted my Facebook because i didn't want to experience what you're going through right now. You can either block her or delete your own Facebook. Revenge is never a dish you need to serve. Be the bigger man and move on, she apparently did. If you add any pictures just to spite her, you'll give her the satisfaction of knowing she still has you wrapped around her finger. try to reach a point of indifference (not giving a rat's *** about her and her new guy) and become happy by yourself once again. Edited July 10, 2012 by ihateslowjams typo
Gulf-Delta Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Get off facebook? and live? like that? like if ur enemy shot u and just stay like that? i need a guys opinion I'm a guy....same exact situation as yours. Block her on facebook. Every other guy here will say the same.
Chi townD Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Look, you're angry and pissed and you want your pound of flesh. I get it. Been there, done than and bought the t-shirt. But, I can tell you in the end, it won't make you feel any better. So, you want your revenge? The best revenge you can get is to lead a damn good life. Yeah, not what your expecting. But, you know what? You get the type of revenge like posting pics with other girls and the ONLY thing that you've accomplished is to show her that she got to you if you have to stoop so low as to return the favor. Don't let her take your dignity. If you want to know what kind of revenge I'm talking about? Go to Tushaski's thread titled, "My girlfriend cheated on me" in this subforum, I posted a short version on my story. Read it. Maybe you'll understand what I'm talking about.
ihateslowjams Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Get off facebook? and live? like that? like if ur enemy shot u and just stay like that? i need a guys opinion Facebook isn't oxygen, you don't NEED it. I bet if you get off of Facebook, you'll realize just how much time you've wasted on it. I sure did, and I've become much more productive with my life now. Makes me wonder just how much i could have accomplished/completed if i didn't sign up for such a distraction for the past 7 years...
JesseMartin Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 I would unfriend her on facebook, unfriend any mutual friends, and deactivate your facebook for a while. Getting over your ex is very similar to getting over an addiction. Every time you see her or hear about her, it's like relapsing, and your recovery essentially resets. Instead of acting on revenge. Acknowledge that you are feeling hurt and angry. Tell yourself it's okay to have those feelings, because it is. You can't control your feelings, you can, however, control how you act on them. Acting out of revenge is a toxic mindset and counterproductive to your recovery. It comes from a place of insecurity, and you should acknowledge the urge but suppress it. Ask yourself what you would do if you were your best and strongest self. The answer should be, something to the extent of shrugging it off and focusing your attention on the people in your life that make your life better.
Thisisbs Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 There is no actual way you can get revenge anyway. Just delete her if you're that attached to facebook. Think about it, you post pictures of you with other girls, but she's over it so it doesn't matter, and it just shows your immaturity. You just wasted your time, effort, anger, and maturity.
Author thecobra Posted July 10, 2012 Author Posted July 10, 2012 i feel that if i live is like puss* boy that cant take it. she still have me as friend so i guess i could do the same and then delete or block like a burglar at night when she least expect it
youdunsay Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 You can unsubscribe to her news feed. That will keep you peace in mind.
Gulf-Delta Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 i feel that if i live is like puss* boy that cant take it. she still have me as friend so i guess i could do the same and then delete or block like a burglar at night when she least expect it Yes...crying over pics of her and her new BF is so much more manly 2
JesseMartin Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 i feel that if i live is like puss* boy that cant take it. she still have me as friend so i guess i could do the same and then delete or block like a burglar at night when she least expect it Deactivate facebook man. It will help you focus on what's important in life, not who your cousin hooked up with in Tahoe.
Kovalchoke Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Just don't go on FaceBook.. if you have to talk to your friends then install the Messenger App or something... and get off of it asap... if you keep going on her page it'll make you feel like ****. I haven't looked at my ex's stuff for like 3 weeks cuz i know it's no good for me
Author thecobra Posted July 10, 2012 Author Posted July 10, 2012 Just don't go on FaceBook.. if you have to talk to your friends then install the Messenger App or something... and get off of it asap... if you keep going on her page it'll make you feel like ****. I haven't looked at my ex's stuff for like 3 weeks cuz i know it's no good for me thx!!! delete or block? dats de question~!== what would hurt the most i feel i shoould not give up ALL my other friends from childhood just because dis one "girl"
Kovalchoke Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 thx!!! delete or block? dats de question~!== what would hurt the most i feel i shoould not give up ALL my other friends from childhood just because dis one "girl" If i were you, I wouldn't delete or block her. Just leave it. If you deleted/blocked her, she would know and think she has all the power. She would think you blocked/deleted her because you couldn't take it anymore. My honest opinion is that you should just get off facebook completely and start moving on with your life. You may think you still have something with her if you look at her stuff and overthink things, but after all the stuff she did, why would you want to continue clinging onto her. With that said, you know her the most and have been there since day 1... so ultimately the decision rests on you.
g450 Posted July 10, 2012 Posted July 10, 2012 Unfriend your mutual friends if there are any. They will understand. Do NOT just unfriend her. BLOCK her. That way she doesnt show up on others postings. If your going to do it, do it right. There are a lot of people here that do not understand the difference between unfriending and blocking. Blocking is your friend. Other option is just to stay off facebook or delete it completely. Who cares what she thinks. If you delete it or block her you are simply letting her know you dont want to hear about her BS. It's a good way to let her know that as a last word. You are telling her to stay the **** out of your life. And dont forget to block her on your phone as well. For the life of me I constantly see people come on here and complain that their exes are messing with them on FB or via Cell Phone etc yadayadayada. Yet they do nothing to stop it. It's not hard to do. Yours has to be the fifth FB drama posting I have read here today, no offense.
Author thecobra Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 Unfriend your mutual friends if there are any. They will understand. Do NOT just unfriend her. BLOCK her. That way she doesnt show up on others postings. If your going to do it, do it right. There are a lot of people here that do not understand the difference between unfriending and blocking. Blocking is your friend. Other option is just to stay off facebook or delete it completely. Who cares what she thinks. If you delete it or block her you are simply letting her know you dont want to hear about her BS. It's a good way to let her know that as a last word. You are telling her to stay the **** out of your life. And dont forget to block her on your phone as well. For the life of me I constantly see people come on here and complain that their exes are messing with them on FB or via Cell Phone etc yadayadayada. Yet they do nothing to stop it. It's not hard to do. Yours has to be the fifth FB drama posting I have read here today, no offense. thanks dude! but something similar happened to me with other girl I deleted her and she sent me another request. That's what i'm trying to get at and I'm unsure if deleting or blocking ... deleting she sees the 1st pic but can't see no more but blocking can't see anything and I want to create an urge similar to the other girl that ended up requesting me again after I deleted her. If I block her she will know and pretty much chances of her chasing me are low , I guess, that's what I want in the future to wake up her interest on me and ball game is on me... like the other girl
Author thecobra Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 If i were you, I wouldn't delete or block her. Just leave it. If you deleted/blocked her, she would know and think she has all the power. She would think you blocked/deleted her because you couldn't take it anymore. My honest opinion is that you should just get off facebook completely and start moving on with your life. You may think you still have something with her if you look at her stuff and overthink things, but after all the stuff she did, why would you want to continue clinging onto her. With that said, you know her the most and have been there since day 1... so ultimately the decision rests on you. God talk! true that
Author thecobra Posted July 11, 2012 Author Posted July 11, 2012 i want to wake up her inner curiosity of what i'm doing by deleting her and maybe adding me again like this other chick
edelveis Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 deleting her right now would be the worst thing u could actually do.in this way you ll show to her that you are jealous and still so much into her,thing that will give her great satisfaction.i know its hard but try to fight it inside you and dont show that to her.act in facebook just like you normally do. Revenge is a dish which is served always cold.and after 2 months i guess its still warm.if you really want a revenge you must have patience and wait for the right time..
CopingGal Posted July 11, 2012 Posted July 11, 2012 Delete Facebook. You say you want to be a man. Crying for Facebook and cuddling Facebook isn't manly. Come on man, don't be silly. Stand up and take your rightful place in society. Step one is deleting Facebook and healing properly. You would be more of a panty-waste if you become Facebook's bitch. Just stand up and delete the bleedin' thing. Be a real man. Be a strong man. Kick Facebook out of your bed. 1
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