hernameispey10 Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 My ex & I broke up after a 5-yr relationship. It's been about a week since it occurred. We have had no contact. It stings, but I am stronger than I thought I would be. He ended things, he always does. He tends to run from problems, not fix them... And that is a large reason why our relationship tends to fail. We've broken up several times throughout being together. Our relationship is still stuck in high school. We have a lot of minuscule conflict that turns into a war because we do not know how to handle it like adults. Each time, I did the whole begging and pleading thing, and of course, it never worked. Also, each time he told me, his friends, and his family he was never coming back, only to do so within a month's time. This last time though, I'm afraid he's being serious... and I'm LOST. We got pretty bad the days leading up to the breakup. It got extremely verbally abusive, and somewhat physically abusive (by me) because I pulled his hair. It was just a disaster waiting to happen. A part of me wishes I would have gave ourselves space to cool off, but then I think that would not have changed anything. I have done the Ex Recovery System but lost it off my computer. Here are some signals he is giving off, but I need to know what other's think of them. Does he care? Does he not? What should I do from this point? ** He immediately changed his relationship status, his profile picture, and his cover photo. ** Days later he went and deleted all of our photos. ** He added an old "girl friend" of his back to his Facebook that he knows I do not like. ** He told a friend of his that he already misses me and will always love me, but he just has to have the strength to not come back this time because we are no good together. His friend asked if he was okay, and he said he guessed... Yet he told my best friend (wife of his best friend) that he is happy. He is not hurting at all. He is losing weight because he is not stressed out by our relationship. That he just wants time do thing without a girl involved and does not plan to talk to other girls for a few months. Told her his is done for good this time, but he will always have love for me in his heart. ** My friend mentioned to him that we were both very mean to each other leading to the breakup and both owe each other an apology, and he said he agrees we do. ** He told me he will always love me, he just cannot be with me. And that he will tell our dog that his mommy loves him all the time while I am away. I mean I do not know what to do from here. I love him with all my heart, and I just do not want to give up...
big bear Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 Well first thing calm down. We were all maniacs when we started posting and a couple of weeks of Life and LS have told me one thing. Let the dust settle and then evaluate things. I would let more mature members handle your specific query but the question is " Do you want to be back or you are just afraid of a little pain"..
headsashed Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 My advice is to do nothing at all,let the dust settle down,if he wants you back then he will make it clear.
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