sonrisa Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 So I'm kind of mad right now. There's this guy that I used to talk to and that I kind of liked, I met him at his job. We were talking a lot and flirting as well. The thing is, at first I thought he wasnt interested, cause he never really made a REAL move on me (like straightly asking me out, it was always things like "i'll take you to my friends'dinner" "i thought we were spending the weekend together") and all this kind of stuff. I had his number, texted him like once he never replied so I dropped it and only talked to him when I saw him at his job. He started getting more and more personal with me, kept asking me if I met someone when I was telling him I went out clubbing, why I was dressed a certain way if I was wearing something sexy, who bought me an iphone for my bday stuff like that, but on his side he never said a word. I sometimes asked stuff like who are you going with on vacations, your girl ? And he'd just stay quiet for a few seconds and then say "I have friends over there" Or when we were supposed to hang out for a weekend, I said I was busy that weekend and that we should do it the weekend after and he just as usual stay quiet for a few seconds then said "Im taken on that weekend". I havent seen him in a very long time so last time I went to his job place I asked his coworkers where was he, and his coworker said that he quit his job ?! And another of his coworker said "too bad he was married huh " I just don't get it. Men if you have a woman and are happy with her why not telling other women instead of wasting their time ? I had that thought that he might be taken but since he was acting like a single man I thought he was, thinking about this I now understand why he wouldnt make a complete move on me I think he was torn between me and his girl, what do you think?
norajane Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 I think he was entertained by flirting with you, but, as you said, he never actually asked you out on a date or anything and the only time you talked was when you saw him at his job. I don't think that means he was torn between you and his wife. Lots of guys just like flirting - it makes them feel desirable and like they 'still got it". You were receptive and initiated, too, so it made him feel good about himself. Sure, he should have mentioned his wife, but maybe he didn't realize the flirting meant something to you.
carhill Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 what do you think? I think you dodged a bullet. I have some anecdotes where 'I love you' preceded 'Oh, btw, I'm married'. You got a gift, a learning experience, and some nice flirtation, which generally feels good. Next.
Algermas Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 So I'm kind of mad right now. There's this guy that I used to talk to and that I kind of liked, I met him at his job. We were talking a lot and flirting as well. The thing is, at first I thought he wasnt interested, cause he never really made a REAL move on me (like straightly asking me out, it was always things like "i'll take you to my friends'dinner" "i thought we were spending the weekend together") and all this kind of stuff. I had his number, texted him like once he never replied so I dropped it and only talked to him when I saw him at his job. He started getting more and more personal with me, kept asking me if I met someone when I was telling him I went out clubbing, why I was dressed a certain way if I was wearing something sexy, who bought me an iphone for my bday stuff like that, but on his side he never said a word. I sometimes asked stuff like who are you going with on vacations, your girl ? And he'd just stay quiet for a few seconds and then say "I have friends over there" Or when we were supposed to hang out for a weekend, I said I was busy that weekend and that we should do it the weekend after and he just as usual stay quiet for a few seconds then said "Im taken on that weekend". I havent seen him in a very long time so last time I went to his job place I asked his coworkers where was he, and his coworker said that he quit his job ?! And another of his coworker said "too bad he was married huh " I just don't get it. Men if you have a woman and are happy with her why not telling other women instead of wasting their time ? I had that thought that he might be taken but since he was acting like a single man I thought he was, thinking about this I now understand why he wouldnt make a complete move on me I think he was torn between me and his girl, what do you think? Haha such an ego, he wasn't torn at all. You were a quick and easy ego inflation device for him. Both genders do this all the time, it's not nice but it happens.
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