orangedreams Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 It's a very weird situation, basically I've been in a friends with benefits relationship for about 3 months. I'm 20 and he's 27. We've fought a lot and can't seem to get along. However, we both still talk to eachother and can't leave eachother alone.... This past month I decided to move back to my hometown for the summer so I could somehow forget about him. But we ended up talking again. I've tried to break things off several times but I can't let myself do it fully. 3 months isn't that long but the sex with him is great, he was so nice to me at first and really seemed to care about me. but i guess since i had sex too soon everything just spiraled downhill...we were texting today and he basically said he thought i was over him and he hasn't contacted me in a while. we ended up arguing again and he butt-dialed me. twice. i texted him and asked him if he called me by accident and he hasn't responded. i just honestly do not know how to let go.
without Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 Forget about him. Engage in different activities. Keep your mind off him. Meet new people.
YellowShark Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 Fighting often means you two aren't a good fit. Sex isn't everything. You'll have good sex with other men. Promise. And if you dump this guy, and go no contact, all this unnecessary drama will be gone. Won't that be nice?
carhill Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 I thought FWB was casual sex without any emotional involvement or, as my exW put it, 'sport-fµcking'. Who would fight with someone they're just fµcking? Enjoy the sex and move on. How to 'let go'? Simply erase the person. Next.
Oncehadluv Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 im not attacking you but your only 20, why are u with a 27 year old
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 He's much older than you...you're essentially only good for one thing. And that's sex and someone to indulge with when he's feeling like some sexual companionship..nothing more. The fact that you slept with him early is irrelevant because that was his agenda anyway, to sleep with you, nothing more...whether you would have waited or not would have only changed the fact of whether you would have been used for sex or not....not whether he would have a relationship. Older men don't settle down with a 20 year old that are 27, you're just a young piece of @ss that's good for the time being...ultimately he'll want someone he can relate to and have some sort of an intellectual conversation. Be one of his sex toys, or just move on...it's up to you. What men stick their pen!s is one thing, what they'll have a relationship with and even marry are entirely separate things. Regardless of how sweet they are and how they treat you. Accept that reality first, then maybe you can ween yourself off into moving on.
Author orangedreams Posted July 8, 2012 Author Posted July 8, 2012 Fighting often means you two aren't a good fit. Sex isn't everything. You'll have good sex with other men. Promise. And if you dump this guy, and go no contact, all this unnecessary drama will be gone. Won't that be nice? It would. But I've tried the no-contact thing in hopes that he'll come around. but it doesn't work...I won't talk to him for a a while like a week or two then I'll text him to see how he's doing and he's just rude. I miss him. I don't like anyone else.
Author orangedreams Posted July 8, 2012 Author Posted July 8, 2012 im not attacking you but your only 20, why are u with a 27 year old Because I am strongly attracted to him. I usually don't get attracted to people that easily but with him it was different. That's why I'm so hung up.
Author orangedreams Posted July 8, 2012 Author Posted July 8, 2012 He's much older than you...you're essentially only good for one thing. And that's sex and someone to indulge with when he's feeling like some sexual companionship..nothing more. The fact that you slept with him early is irrelevant because that was his agenda anyway, to sleep with you, nothing more...whether you would have waited or not would have only changed the fact of whether you would have been used for sex or not....not whether he would have a relationship. Older men don't settle down with a 20 year old that are 27, you're just a young piece of @ss that's good for the time being...ultimately he'll want someone he can relate to and have some sort of an intellectual conversation. Be one of his sex toys, or just move on...it's up to you. What men stick their pen!s is one thing, what they'll have a relationship with and even marry are entirely separate things. Regardless of how sweet they are and how they treat you. Accept that reality first, then maybe you can ween yourself off into moving on. We fought because he would try to change me and force me to open up to him. And he would keep saying he wanted me to be okay with "being in an open relationship" and i would just fight with him because that pissed me off that he would try to pull that one on me...i deleted his number several times but I have it in my phone records so I just go get it when I'm sad.. it's stupid but i don't know how to stop.
EightLions Posted July 8, 2012 Posted July 8, 2012 We fought because he would try to change me and force me to open up to him. And he would keep saying he wanted me to be okay with "being in an open relationship" and i would just fight with him because that pissed me off that he would try to pull that one on me...i deleted his number several times but I have it in my phone records so I just go get it when I'm sad.. it's stupid but i don't know how to stop. I'm confused by your posts... first you said it was FWB, now you are saying it's an open relationship. Sounds like you want a relationship with him, and he wasn't to just have sex. I agree with those that say, move on. There are a lot of attractive guys out there, many will treat you better.
without Posted July 9, 2012 Posted July 9, 2012 He's much older than you...you're essentially only good for one thing. And that's sex and someone to indulge with when he's feeling like some sexual companionship..nothing more. The fact that you slept with him early is irrelevant because that was his agenda anyway, to sleep with you, nothing more...whether you would have waited or not would have only changed the fact of whether you would have been used for sex or not....not whether he would have a relationship. Older men don't settle down with a 20 year old that are 27, you're just a young piece of @ss that's good for the time being...ultimately he'll want someone he can relate to and have some sort of an intellectual conversation. Be one of his sex toys, or just move on...it's up to you. What men stick their pen!s is one thing, what they'll have a relationship with and even marry are entirely separate things. Regardless of how sweet they are and how they treat you. Accept that reality first, then maybe you can ween yourself off into moving on. So you mean 7 years is too much? No man would want this? I think you're making a general statement based on yourself, I know couples who have 10 years of age gap and they're married.
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