Xjusticenlossx Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 (edited) Hello everyone! I have a problem...me and my ex girlfriend of 5 years broke with me a month ago and we have been in LC ever since. She tells me she is done but she always brings up the past experiences good or bad in every converstation. I did panic and acted like a madman...this was my first huge relationship. Her family likes me, friends probably loathe me. I admit I made some mistakes in the past during the relationship...but nothing that cant be fixed(my emotional breakdowns, silent treatment, etc.). 2 years long distance can take a toll. Again, I do want to work Things out, but I cant do that over the phone... Im here In Los angeles,ca she was in vegas living with her family for the past 2 years, I have been visiting like I should every month and this happens when I finally secure a job transfer....should I still go? And try to reconcile and build a new life for myself and her...or do I take her seriously and leave her be, even though she really wanted me there in the first place? * I just really feel she is testing me to see how serious I am. She has been hanging out with older ladies and I feel that they probably put it in her mind to break up since we were long distance...i just feel if I close the physical gap...we can still have a chance. Edited July 7, 2012 by Xjusticenlossx
BrokenAnna Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 Hello everyone! I have a problem...me and my ex girlfriend of 5 years broke with me a month ago and we have been in LC ever since. She tells me she is done but she always brings up the past experiences good or bad in every converstation. I did panic and acted like a madman...this was my first huge relationship. Her family likes me, friends probablh loathe me. I admit I made some mistakes in the past during the relationship...but nothing that cant be fixed {i checked her phone and found out she was on plenty of fish...but shes getting no attention, vegas doesnt like the thicker girls). 2 years long distance can take a toll. Again, I do want to work Things out, but I cant do that over the phone... Im here In Los angeles,ca she was in vegas living with her family for the past 2 years, I have been visiting like I should every month and this happens when I finally secure a job transfer....should I still go? And try to reconcile and build a new life for myself and her...or do I take her seriously and leave her be, even though she really wanted me there in the first place? * I just really feel she is testing me to see how serious I am. She has been hanging out with older ladies and I feel that they probably put it in her mind to break up since we were long distance...i just feel if I close the physical gap...we can still have a chance. I wish I could give you sound advice but unfortunately I am not in the right state of mind to think objectively. However l think you should go if this means that you can secure a better future for yourself career wise, whether she is in it or not.
KathyM Posted July 7, 2012 Posted July 7, 2012 I wouldn't recommend moving if you are broken up with her. It may not be possible to get back together, and then you will have moved for nothing. It sounds like you have some growing up to do if you have immature ways of dealing with conflict, such as giving her the silent treatment and going into temper tantrums over conflicts. I would suggest you work on yourself and learn how to handle conflict in a mature way, possibly getting some counseling and doing some research and self reflection so that you will have a healthier relationship with the next gf. I wouldn't recommend chasing after this one, since she is long distance, and until you have worked out your own issues, you are not likely to have a successful relationship even if you do get back together temporarily. So let this one go, and work on yourself, so you will be in a better position to have a good relationship for the next one.
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