Treasa Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 If she was the dumper, she needs to try harder than that. She could have said she wanted to talk about them, or said that it was really important to her, etc. I wouldn't go. If a guy is going to dump me and then just want to have a chat, I'd tell him where to stick it. Probably politely, but it'd go something along the lines of, "No thanks. But if it's important, go ahead and *call me* and let me know what it is." 1
wilsonx Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Do you personally know this Man ? The evidence is in this thread
Gulf-Delta Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 No... its not a risk... more projection of hope. Here's the facts, hes not ready, he knows it. Why go to the meeting. He doesnt have the confidence to handle a reconciliation with her. Can he do it, sure! But its going to fail because hes always going to second guess himself. Hes going to be walking on eggshells the entire relationship What woman wants to be with a guy that always second guesses himself? Theres no confidence Asking for advice is not a lack of confidence, IMO.
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 If she was the dumper, she needs to try harder than that. She could have said she wanted to talk about them, or said that it was really important to her, etc. I wouldn't go. If a guy is going to dump me and then just want to have a chat, I'd tell him where to stick it. Probably politely, but it'd go something along the lines of, "No thanks. But if it's important, go ahead and *call me* and let me know what it is." This is fair but she could want him back but be afraid he would not turn up if she plays all her cards first.
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Asking for advice is not a lack of confidence, IMO. If it was this site would not exist and wilsonx would not be on here.
wilsonx Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Asking for advice is not a lack of confidence, IMO. I dont ask for advice when I go out on dates or dealing with my ex. I just do it.
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I dont ask for advice when I go out on dates or dealing with my ex. I just do it. Bully for you. So why are you on here then ?
Gulf-Delta Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I dont ask for advice when I go out on dates or dealing with my ex. I just do it. Well, you ARE on this site.... Anyway, people ask for advice. It's human nature to do so.
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I am unsure if this wilsonx character is on a wind up or maybe a troll. He insults me, bounces a thread of mine when I was in a bad way to ridicule me and then says arrogantly " I don't need advice and sort out all my own problems with my ex " basically rubbishing the site and everyone that uses it. Not a nice bloke I think.
Author BlazePT Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 Hey, guys, Thanks for the quick answers. New update: I haven't responded and she says this: I'll try to translate this "BlazePT, I know you... If you don't want to see me, just say so... I don't wanna wait anymore... I have been waiting for the right time but I know that doesn't exist. I want to move on and know what you feel. If it hasn't been easy for you, it hasn't been easy for me either.When you asked for me to meet you, I went and listened. Possibly, you are hurt with me, I don't know, but I would like to be with you again to work things out in a better way. I feel I haven't said everything yet and couldn't explain the reasons why we broke up.You gave me my space and I want to respect yours. So be honest with me because I've always tried to be honest with you. Please don't play hard because I know this is tough. " Ok, this was it... Any thoughts? Thanks in advance
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Hey, guys, Thanks for the quick answers. New update: I haven't responded and she says this: I'll try to translate this "BlazePT, I know you... If you don't want to see me, just say so... I don't wanna wait anymore... I have been waiting for the right time but I know that doesn't exist. I want to move on and know what you feel. If it hasn't been easy for you, it hasn't been easy for me either.When you asked for me to meet you, I went and listened. Possibly, you are hurt with me, I don't know, **** but I would like to be with you again to work things out in a better way**** I feel I haven't said everything yet and couldn't explain the reasons why we broke up.You gave me my space and I want to respect yours. So be honest with me because I've always tried to be honest with you. Please don't play hard because I know this is tough. " Ok, this was it... Any thoughts? Thanks in advance **** there you are. What do the cynics says about this ? I say you would be mad not to give her a chance if you still love her.
wilsonx Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Hey, guys, Thanks for the quick answers. New update: I haven't responded and she says this: I'll try to translate this "BlazePT, I know you... If you don't want to see me, just say so... I don't wanna wait anymore... I have been waiting for the right time but I know that doesn't exist. I want to move on and know what you feel. If it hasn't been easy for you, it hasn't been easy for me either.When you asked for me to meet you, I went and listened. Possibly, you are hurt with me, I don't know, but I would like to be with you again to work things out in a better way. I feel I haven't said everything yet and couldn't explain the reasons why we broke up.You gave me my space and I want to respect yours. So be honest with me because I've always tried to be honest with you. Please don't play hard because I know this is tough. " Ok, this was it... Any thoughts? Thanks in advance Ignore her, dont respond SHE DOESNT WANT TO BE BACK WITH HIM, this is a string Shes looking for validation that the breakup on her part was the right decision 2
Thisisbs Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 She wants closure from you. If you think you can handle it, then go ahead, again it is your choice. It would probably seem and be more mature if you were to agree and talk to her, because she did come and meet with you when you asked. Goodluck. 1
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Ignore her, dont respond SHE DOESNT WANT TO BE BACK WITH HIM, this is a string Oh for Gods sake. And you say I am bringing my baggage to this thread. You most certainly are. Don't try and screw this blokes chances up because you are so cynical.
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 She wants closure from you. If you think you can handle it, then go ahead, again it is your choice. It would probably seem and be more mature if you were to agree and talk to her, because she did come and meet with you when you asked. Goodluck. How ? " but I would like to be with you again to work things out in a better way "
wilsonx Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 She wants closure from you. If you think you can handle it, then go ahead, again it is your choice. It would probably seem and be more mature if you were to agree and talk to her, because she did come and meet with you when you asked. Goodluck. ^^^^^^^ This is it. Now what we preach here on LS that closure comes from within, let her find her own closure
Thisisbs Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 How ? " but I would like to be with you again to work things out in a better way " Lol, she means to work out the end of the relationship in a better way. It's obvious based on the rest of the message. She said that she wants to move on and wants to know how he feels. They probably left it off badly and she feels guilty.
Ruby65 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Honestly, this is silly. She's just looking for some drama and emotional involvement. She gets off on it, she's probably missing being so important to someone by now. If she wanted to get back together, she'd just say so!
Thisisbs Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 ^^^^^^^ This is it. Now what we preach here on LS that closure comes from within, let her find her own closure That is true, she should find it herself, but if you do decide to go, don't expect at ALL for her to want you back. You're there because you're a nice, and very mature human being, and you want to help her, even if she doesn't deserve it.
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Lol, she means to work out the end of the relationship in a better way. It's obvious based on the rest of the message. She said that she wants to move on and wants to know how he feels. They probably left it off badly and she feels guilty. Maybe , maybe not. She cannot seriously be saying " I am not happy with the way I dumped you last time and want to dump you in a better way for both of us ". LOL.
Thisisbs Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Maybe , maybe not. She cannot seriously be saying " I am not happy with the way I dumped you last time and want to dump you in a better way for both of us ". LOL. She isn't, but she may have been very immature the last time they met, or very cold or whatever it was to make her feel guilty.
Gulf-Delta Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Hey, guys, Thanks for the quick answers. New update: I haven't responded and she says this: I'll try to translate this "BlazePT, I know you... If you don't want to see me, just say so... I don't wanna wait anymore... I have been waiting for the right time but I know that doesn't exist. I want to move on and know what you feel. If it hasn't been easy for you, it hasn't been easy for me either.When you asked for me to meet you, I went and listened. Possibly, you are hurt with me, I don't know, but I would like to be with you again to work things out in a better way. I feel I haven't said everything yet and couldn't explain the reasons why we broke up.You gave me my space and I want to respect yours. So be honest with me because I've always tried to be honest with you. Please don't play hard because I know this is tough. " Ok, this was it... Any thoughts? Thanks in advance If it were me, I'd go and talk. You have the power right now. When you meet, you need to lay out EXACTLY what it is you want from her. You need to lay down your limits and say "look, if you wanna work it out, this is the only way that can happen...". You need to be the man here and say you will NOT accept anything less that your..."demands", and this is her last chance. Keep in mind, she may not know exactly what she wants yet. So be prepared for a possible hurt.
Gulf-Delta Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Ignore her, dont respond SHE DOESNT WANT TO BE BACK WITH HIM, this is a string Shes looking for validation that the breakup on her part was the right decision Oh, I'm calling bull****. There's no winning with you. You keep moving your goalposts. "She needs to come out and say her intentions"....so she does and you still say "She doesn't want you". Come on dude. You seem kinda crazy.
Thisisbs Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 If it were me, I'd go and talk. You have the power right now. When you meet, you need to lay out EXACTLY what it is you want from her. You need to lay down your limits and say "look, if you wanna work it out, this is the only way that can happen...". You need to be the man here and say you will NOT accept anything less that your..."demands", and this is her last chance. Keep in mind, she may not know exactly what she wants yet. So be prepared for a possible hurt. This is assuming that she wants to get back together, and in the message she clearly said "I want to move on and know how you feel". Idk what in the message hints you guys to believe she wants to get back together with him. She did not mention anything that shows she wants to try again. If you go, it shouldn't be because you want to see if you guys can have another go. Otherwise don't go.
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