wilsonx Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 ignore it, if you have to ask the question, you aren't ready to talk
KatZee Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 OK, "to talk" ... clarify. To talk about what? If it's just to "catch up" then tell her to forget it. Unless she's planning on discussing the split, her part in the split, how she thinks things can change, and she wants to work on it, then forget it. She's just going to keep you following her trail of breadcrumbs.
Gulf-Delta Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 (edited) ASk her why...if her reasons aren't up to your standards, then blow it off. Unless you're okay with being ONLY friends and that's it. "I just wanna see how you are..." Blow off. "I want to apologize. I made a huge mistake, I love you, blah blah" Meet up Edited July 6, 2012 by Gulf-Delta
Chi townD Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I agree. Find out what for. If all she wants is an afternoon to see if she can get her ego stroked, I'm sure you can find better things to do with your time.
Author BlazePT Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 Ok, guys I asked her "about what?" and she said "Just to talk, if you don't want to, I understand". Ok, Ignore seems to be the best COA.
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Ok, guys I asked her "about what?" and she said "Just to talk, if you don't want to, I understand". Ok, Ignore seems to be the best COA. On the basis of this I say go for it as it would haunt you forever to not know what she wanted to say. I would take the chance myself.
Oncehadluv Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 i agree with wilson might just be a trail of bread crumbs, if you even want her back let her do the leg work, she maybe just bored and trying to keep spinning her plates ! 1
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 i agree with wilson might just be a trail of bread crumbs, if you even want her back let her do the leg work, she maybe just bored and trying to keep spinning her plates ! She has done the leg work though she has reached out for a meeting.
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 All this hard nosed bullsh*t. I think you are wrong on this. The guy has to meet her or he will be tormented if he did not take this chance. Carpe Diem and good luck. I hope it is what you want. 1
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 The trouble with this site is people are so so cynical and I wonder how many second chances have been blown with the NC mantra and negative emotions. Go for it and ignore the advice. 1
rAFC Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Ok, guys... lol what the hell do I do now? That depends entirely on YOU and what YOU want. You have the power now whether you know it or not. Would you feel okay after if you met up with her and it just turned out to be small talk?
Jono85 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 "just to talk. if you can't, i understand." does that sound like someone who wants to fight for you? i would be a bit let down with her response to be honest. enter at your own risk. 3
wilsonx Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 All this hard nosed bullsh*t. I think you are wrong on this. The guy has to meet her or he will be tormented if he did not take this chance. Carpe Diem and good luck. I hope it is what you want. LOL If he goes shes going to torment him MORE she said "Just to talk, if you don't want to, I understand" Bold, what she wants to do, "catch up" Italics, STRING... can you say puppetmaster? 1
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 "just to talk. if you can't, i understand." does that sound like someone who wants to fight for you? i would be a bit let down with her response to be honest. enter at your own risk. You don't know what she wants to say. You are being cynical and in the LS frame of mind that everything will always turn out bad and that is one of the major negative factors on this site.
Oncehadluv Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 rAFC is also right, OP IF you put alot of hope and emotion into it your only hurting yourself further and buffing up her ego and status and all you get is wasted time and further humiliation...she is holding ALL the power and control at this point
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 LOL If he goes shes going to torment him MORE Bold, what she wants to do, "catch up" Italics, STRING... can you say puppetmaster? How do you know that ? That's right, you don't.
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 You won't get any positive responses on here ONLY negative. Do what you feel is best but sometimes I think it is better to have taken that final chance and know for sure than regret not doing so.
wilsonx Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 You're projecting hope for yourself onto him. Its clear as day. READ. You are so entangled in your emotions you cant read the obvious
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 You're projecting hope for yourself onto him. Its clear as day. READ. You are so entangled in your emotions you cant read the obvious No, the ex and I am over, finished, done and dusted. I think he needs to take this meeting. This is my honest opinion.
wilsonx Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Im the #1 proponent for second chances on this forum... right now... BAD idea. My first post in this thread illustrates why If someone doesnt have the ability to seek validation within themselves to talk to an ex and not have to ask people what to do, how are they going to have confidence in the meeting to handle the situation. Like I said, not ready.
Oncehadluv Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 No, the ex and I am over, finished, done and dusted. I think he needs to take this meeting. This is my honest opinion. why should he take this meet up? is there mortgage, children, legal issues to chat about?
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 What a bunch of cold cynics. Very sad. I have said my piece but the negativity on here is all consuming so I am off.
wilsonx Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 What a bunch of cold cynics. Very sad. I have said my piece but the negativity on here is all consuming so I am off. I knew it, youre projecting hope from a previous ex. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/334105-i-need-get-my-sh-t-together-fast
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