Jono85 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 You don't know what she wants to say. You are being cynical and in the LS frame of mind that everything will always turn out bad and that is one of the major negative factors on this site. lol not at all bud. the fact that he ASKED HER talk about what, and she said "just to talk, if you don't want to, i understand" is pretty non-committal. if she is the prize here and the only one with value, by all means, he NEEDS to take the meetup like you suggest. but if this guy has any value at all, he'd realize if she really wants to make things work or try things again, she'll have to do more than that nonsense. "if u don't want to i understand" oh really? ok then. he's already asked her about what, indicating that he IS interested in talking to her, but is obviously interested in what will be discussed. she won't commit to even telling him "about us" than screw her. if she wants to try things she will make sure to convey something more than that. 1
Gulf-Delta Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Im the #1 proponent for second chances on this forum... right now... BAD idea. My first post in this thread illustrates why If someone doesnt have the ability to seek validation within themselves to talk to an ex and not have to ask people what to do, how are they going to have confidence in the meeting to handle the situation. Like I said, not ready. While I do agree with that, I disagree with your assumption of her trying to pull strings...there's no way that you (or anyone, actually) can know what her intent is. You could be right, but there's an equal chance your wrong.
Oncehadluv Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 What a bunch of cold cynics. Very sad. I have said my piece but the negativity on here is all consuming so I am off. why are you "off" this isnt conspiracy or anti female / anti male we see things the OP doesnt and it looks like you dont either
Gulf-Delta Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 lol not at all bud. the fact that he ASKED HER talk about what, and she said "just to talk, if you don't want to, i understand" is pretty non-committal. if she is the prize here and the only one with value, by all means, he NEEDS to take the meetup like you suggest. but if this guy has any value at all, he'd realize if she really wants to make things work or try things again, she'll have to do more than that nonsense. "if u don't want to i understand" oh really? ok then. he's already asked her about what, indicating that he IS interested in talking to her, but is obviously interested in what will be discussed. she won't commit to even telling him "about us" than screw her. if she wants to try things she will make sure to convey something more than that. She could be "non-committal" because she doesn't know how he feels. His ex is a human too. It's not like she'd just come out and say "OMG, I love you, take me back forever!" That doesn't really happen.
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 while i do agree with that, i disagree with your assumption of her trying to pull strings...there's no way that you (or anyone, actually) can know what her intent is. You could be right, but there's an equal chance your wrong. finally !
wilsonx Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Its a string, she doesnt know shes doing it or wont know until after its all over. It's not a conscious decision. She's not doing it on purpose. It just happens.
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I knew it, youre projecting hope from a previous ex. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/334105-i-need-get-my-sh-t-together-fast NO I AM NOT. His situation is completely different so don't be so condascending and abusive and bounce threads. That is called Trolling.
Gulf-Delta Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Its a string, she doesnt know shes doing it or wont know until after its all over. It's not a conscious decision. She's not doing it on purpose. It just happens. Possibly. But she could be using "I just wanna talk" as a front to test the waters.
wilsonx Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I just want to talk = I just want to talk testing the waters = hey, how are you, are you seeing anyone? or they will be 100% blunt about what they want 1
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 She could be "non-committal" because she doesn't know how he feels. His ex is a human too. It's not like she'd just come out and say "OMG, I love you, take me back forever!" That doesn't really happen. This is the right answer. I swear most of the people on here would self sabotage any positive thing that came their way to stay in their pit of despair. The problem with LS is that it is a group of hurt and damaged people who are cyncial and for that you will not get a reasoned argument. It is all NO, SHE IS PLAYING YOU, DON'T DO IT, STAY NC and I think for this reason people will miss chances and lose out of possible positive situations.
wilsonx Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 This is the right answer. I swear most of the people on here would self sabotage any positive thing that came their way to stay in their pit of despair. The problem with LS is that it is a group of hurt and damaged people who are cyncial and for that you will not get a reasoned argument. It is all NO, SHE IS PLAYING YOU, DON'T DO IT, STAY NC and I think for this reason people will miss chances and lose out of possible positive situations. Hi pot! I'm Kettle. Echante.
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I just want to talk = I just want to talk testing the waters = hey, how are you, are you seeing anyone? or they will be 100% blunt about what they want No, do you live in this World ? People say all sorts of things in all manner of life's situations. You know NOTHING of this Girl's intentions apart from what your cynical heart tells you to.
Gulf-Delta Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I just want to talk = I just want to talk testing the waters = hey, how are you, are you seeing anyone? or they will be 100% blunt about what they want Eh, I guess this is just where we differ opinions, I suppose. Everyone is different, and I know personally, I would never do that. My ex wouldn't either. However, I have friends who probably would. IMO, it's impossible to really predict people's actions/intentions, especially if you've never even met them. I'm not bashing you or being an *******, I'm just saying I don't tihnk you can accurately say something like that.
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Hi pot! I'm Kettle. Echante. I think you have some issues and are not a very nice human being if you want me to be honest.
wilsonx Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Right, tell him to go to the meeting then, prove me wrong. Like I said you are projecting. You have so much bitterness from your last relationship and you are projecting hope from the EX from the previous relationship that you are not over. 1
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Right, tell him to go to the meeting then, prove me wrong. Like I said you are projecting. You have so much bitterness from your last relationship and you are projecting hope from the EX from the previous relationship that you are not over. I have no beef with you but I do have an issue with you bouncing threads of mine on here and insulting me.
rAFC Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I'm pretty sure that if she was trying to get him back, she wouldn't have added the, "if you don't want to, I understand" part. However, none of us know what she really wants to talk for, she might not even know. If you can go and talk to her without it setting you back too much then go ahead and talk to her.
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Right, tell him to go to the meeting then, prove me wrong. Like I said you are projecting. You have so much bitterness from your last relationship and you are projecting hope from the EX from the previous relationship that you are not over. How would you react if it went well and they got back together ? Not too well I guess as that would shatter your " every single event is doomed " attitude.
Gulf-Delta Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Right, tell him to go to the meeting then, prove me wrong. Like I said you are projecting. You have so much bitterness from your last relationship and you are projecting hope from the EX from the previous relationship that you are not over. Life is about risk. I don't tihnk he's saying "OMG, she wants me back." I think he's saying there's no reason to not check it out.
wilsonx Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I have no beef with you but I do have an issue with you bouncing threads of mine on here and insulting me. Right... LOL You mistake "Cynical" for "Direct" I call you out on your BS and you attack me. Mirror mirror on the wall. You have an issue with people's views that dont agree with your own. You can't face the fact that you might be wrong 1
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I'm pretty sure that if she was trying to get him back, she wouldn't have added the, "if you don't want to, I understand" part. However, none of us know what she really wants to talk for, she might not even know. If you can go and talk to her without it setting you back too much then go ahead and talk to her. I don't see that at all. It is a kindly comment to me.
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Right... LOL You mistake "Cynical" for "Direct" I call you out on your BS and you attack me. Mirror mirror on the wall. You have an issue with people's views that dont agree with your own. You can't face the fact that you might be wrong Oh the Irony !
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Life is about risk. I don't tihnk he's saying "OMG, she wants me back." I think he's saying there's no reason to not check it out. I agree with this.
wilsonx Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Life is about risk. I don't tihnk he's saying "OMG, she wants me back." I think he's saying there's no reason to not check it out. No... its not a risk... more projection of hope. Here's the facts, hes not ready, he knows it. Why go to the meeting. He doesnt have the confidence to handle a reconciliation with her. Can he do it, sure! But its going to fail because hes always going to second guess himself. Hes going to be walking on eggshells the entire relationship What woman wants to be with a guy that always second guesses himself? Theres no confidence
Zammo25 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 No... its not a risk... more projection of hope. Here's the facts, hes not ready, he knows it. Why go to the meeting. He doesnt have the confidence to handle a reconciliation with her. Can he do it, sure! But its going to fail because hes always going to second guess himself. What woman wants to be with a guy that always second guesses himself? Theres no confidence Do you personally know this Man ?
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