indiff Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Hey people how is everyone? let me get straight to the point. what the hell is wrong with me? I have joined up to several dating sites, oasis and plenty of fish both witch seem to be pretty reputable and I know lots of people who have had success on these sites. but not me. I have put up a profile and pictures and I do not get a single email, or I constantly get rejected. or I get emails from girls saying that im not attractive enough. what the hell is going on?? I do not think I'm a bad looking person ( maybe I am delusional ? and I really am but ugly?) and my profile seems to be decent. what gives? I need you people to be brutally honest with me. whats wrong with me? maybe I am ugly as sin? http://i.imgur.com/k6pa5.jpg http://i.imgur.com/aXPBB.jpg http://i.imgur.com/OSUbu.jpg and this is my profile on the dating sites "Im straight forward, open and know what I want in life. been through my bachelor stage and over the kid games. So yes, I am after commitment Would like to settle down with a mature women that has her head screwed on. Is there such a thing?....im being serious.
nessaaa Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 No idea. Didn't know goodlooking ppl sign up on dating sites.
Author indiff Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 Your profile text is abysmal... Yeah I'm not good with this stuff man. I have no one to help me with it either... what does a good profile look like??
Author indiff Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 Look like a normal guy, a bit on the metrosexual side, i've seen that haircut your sporting on a lot of homosexuals, that's probably a plus to most women. Outside of America, in a sane country, you'd probably be considered a relatively handsome man. What is your income, what is your height, and what is your body type? Women care about facial looks much less than men do in regards to women in my experience. Not to mention internet dating is borderline impossible for the vast majority of men. I would say leave the profile up if you want, but definitely focus on meeting women in person. Internet dating is a no-man's land unless you are the total package (as defined by hollywood). im 6 foot and have a mascular body. but yea thanks heaps man. not sure....guess Ill take each day as it comes.
TLY22 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 You look like Ben Affleck. But you really need to put some depth into your text descriptions - a girl wants to know exactly who she's dealing with, and if you can't type things about yourself, then how are you to interact in reality? She doesn't know what to expect. Women that email you just to say you're too ugly is horrific and they're just nasty. Don't listen to them. Maybe just go out and try to meet women that way.
ThingsAreComplicated Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 troll post? obviously you are not ugly. As a man (hey I'm not gay^^) I'd even say you look above average. So the problem must be somewhere else.
Author indiff Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 I agree with right above me, flaunt what you get if you want chicks. I've been told I have a really gorgeous cock , so when I had an internet dating profile my main pic was one I took pointing the camera down. LMFAO oh man thanks for the laugh. and no of course im not trolling....
Seneca Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 I would update your profile pics with a professional one. And the text you can add a little more details.
Eternal Sunshine Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 Your pictures are fine but I would never respond to your message because of the text. I use it to gauge how smart a guy is and I am looking for something original and well written. I am not too sure if you should get someone to write the text for you; because that's sort of like pretending that you are something you are not.
Author indiff Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 Your pictures are fine but I would never respond to your message because of the text. I use it to gauge how smart a guy is and I am looking for something original and well written. I am not too sure if you should get someone to write the text for you; because that's sort of like pretending that you are something you are not. is this better? Hey people Christopher here so where do I start. well. I'm a tall, athletic guy, with a Greek background. I'm bubbly and spontaneous and could probably talk under water if you let me..hehe I do have my mellow side though. I am cheeky,sarcastic and not many people can handle it. its a shame though because I'm a damn nice guy if you get to know me I am confident, down to earth and take pride in my appearance and work out at the gym regularly. I have tattoos, and they mean alot to me as they represent who I am as a person. not just meaningless art on my body. I am after a sweet bubbly cheeky girl that can bring a smile to my face. not really asking for much
brahmabull117 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 You're actually pretty handsome The problem is online dating is absolutely atrocious form of meeting women. You'll have better luck in real life
TheFinalWord Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 is this better? Hey people Christopher here so where do I start. well. I'm a tall, athletic guy, with a Greek background. I'm bubbly and spontaneous and could probably talk under water if you let me..hehe I do have my mellow side though. I am cheeky,sarcastic and not many people can handle it. its a shame though because I'm a damn nice guy if you get to know me I am confident, down to earth and take pride in my appearance and work out at the gym regularly. I have tattoos, and they mean alot to me as they represent who I am as a person. not just meaningless art on my body. I am after a sweet bubbly cheeky girl that can bring a smile to my face. not really asking for much You're a good looking guy. It's not that. Don't have cleaning supplies on the window, it detracts attention. Unless you randomly hang out in the bathroom and take pics of yourself. LOL Take natural pics of yourself instead of staged ones IMHO. Main thing: Why bash yourself in an advertisement? Do you see commercials saying "buy our product, you might have to use it a long time to like it and it could be low quality" (you do see this in drug ads, but they read that part about side-effects at light speed ) Never tell someone what to think about you. Let them draw their own conclusion. Otherwise, you are putting a trigger in their mind and also showing a lack of confidence. So cut out the "not many people can handle it, I'm nice if you get to know me". Makes it sound like you're a hot head or something Also, maybe describe what kind of woman you want a bit more. Sweet and bubbly...that's 90% of women. Unless you really just don't have any specific type of preference. Good luck!
Author indiff Posted July 6, 2012 Author Posted July 6, 2012 You're a good looking guy. It's not that. Don't have cleaning supplies on the window, it detracts attention. Unless you randomly hang out in the bathroom and take pics of yourself. LOL Take natural pics of yourself instead of staged ones IMHO. Main thing: Why bash yourself in an advertisement? Do you see commercials saying "buy our product, you might have to use it a long time to like it and it could be low quality" (you do see this in drug ads, but they read that part about side-effects at light speed ) Never tell someone what to think about you. Let them draw their own conclusion. Otherwise, you are putting a trigger in their mind and also showing a lack of confidence. So cut out the "not many people can handle it, I'm nice if you get to know me". Makes it sound like you're a hot head or something Also, maybe describe what kind of woman you want a bit more. Sweet and bubbly...that's 90% of women. Unless you really just don't have any specific type of preference. Good luck! Thanks heaps man! awesome post great help
veggirl Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 You are very cute, I am really surprised that girls are telling you that you aren't attractive enough for them on these sites. They really say that? The updated profile text sounds much better. Try to use proper capitalization though! and yes def remove the "I'm nice when you know me" part, that sounds really bad! I'd be scared of you if I read that!
Mallow Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 You're a good looking guy, there's no issues in the looks department. You state that you go to the gym in your profile, do you have any full body shots? Not shirtless, but full body in general. Just like men, women like to make sure that a guy is what he says he is. Face pictures are great, but you need some variety too. My suggestion is never state that you're a "nice guy" in a profile, it usually gets negative reviews. I normally run from men who claim that they're nice. If a guy is decent, I'll be able to tell, they don't need to inform me of such. I also agree with the other posters, you should include more of what you're looking for. Also maybe include some of your hobbies and traits.
venusianx13 Posted July 6, 2012 Posted July 6, 2012 You are definitely not ugly. I have a male friend who has no luck with women, and it's not that he's not attractive, it's more that he comes on too strong. He'd really like to find a nice girl to settle down with, but he shouldn't elude to that right from the get go. I say: Talk about yourself in your profiles, but leave a little mystery - make your potential dates want to find out more. If the right girl comes along, tell HER (in time) about your aspirations to settle down.
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