quess Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 i don't know what exactly i was thinking but i contacted a man on an online dating site who is about 2 states away from me. based on his profile, he seemed like a quality guy who was looking for a serious relationship to settle down. distance was far but i figured "what have i got to lose?" to my surprise, he replied back! it turns out he tries to visit my city as much as he can if the opportunity arises since his family resides here. however, he's a really busy guy due to his career - works some weekends too. he's planning to move back here in an year to be with his family. since i don't have an profile pic uploaded, i sent it to him right after his initial reply and he thanked me. now, i'm a bit confused. i have experience with only 1 other guy for online dating since i'm pretty new and when i'd sent him a picture of myself, he sent me a lovely compliment and was very interested. not this guy though....i suppose everyone's different but since he didn't make positive comment on my photo, should i assume he doesn't like the way i look? he's an outgoing man so i'd assume he'd compliment me if he thought i looked good. :/ yet, we've passed along a few emails back and forth and frankly, it's getting boring. i'd love to meet him in person as i think he'd be interesting in person but emailing is boring. i can't gauge his interest level and it's frustrating. there's no mention of the next time he'll be here and i feel rude asking since he writes about how busy his schedule is, esp. since he works overtime a lot of the days. i know i initiated but i don't even know what to write anymore. we used to email every few days but now it's my turn and i held it off for a week. i don't want to be rude and just cease in responding. i would like to meet him someday.... how should i go about this? help! has anyone been through something similar?
january2011 Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 I suggest emailing him and saying, "I'd like to meet in-person - when are you next in town?" Then take it from there. Another alternative is to escalate to telephone calls or Skype. Though if the conversation is getting a little boring, that's a potential yellow flag. Some people don't do so well when it's not face-to-face but you shouldn't be running out of things to say to each other, in my opinion. If you're going to reply, I'd suggest doing it soonish. Leaving a week between messages allows the "bond" to go cold and very easily comes off as disinterest. 1
FitChick Posted July 5, 2012 Posted July 5, 2012 You can also get support and information from other long distance daters on the Long Distance forum. Plenty of people make it happen if there is a strong connection.
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