Think I've figured out what has caused my recent ex's behaviour

[supermanthatho]

From all my other posts I'm sorry for being annoyin but as you can tell by them that I'm hell confused as what happened but to keep it brief:

 

1. Gf of 3 years

2. She had a miscarriage of my baby

3. She started to get insecure and went a bit weird but still loved me heaps

4.????

5. She left me

6. She started flirting and seeing someone else a month after we broke up

 

Now as the title says, I think I know what has triggered her to leaving me and behaving like this. She has totally flipped and is not herself at all. Number 4 is that she went to the doctors and had Implanon (birth control injected into her arm) and I believe that is to blame because one minute she rings me up all sad the next all angry at me. Then out of the blue she does unpredictable things. Shes not herself at all. I still love her and want her back but she will never realize what she has lost until that thing is out of her arm.

 

What do people think? I've read so many similar stories and heard so many similar things that happened when girls went on this. The side affects of this drug thing amplifies this type of behavior. I have read so many stories on the net similar to this.

[Chi townD]

possible. But, good luck trying to convience a woman that you know more about her than she does.

[supermanthatho]

possible. But, good luck trying to convience a woman that you know more about her than she does.

 

I'm not saying I know more about her than she does.. I'm saying i think i know the culprit that's got her acting this way.

[Chi townD]

Right, I get it. But, if you try to tell her that you think the reason of why she left is because her horomones are out of whack. I don't think she's gonna buy it (and you know what? I agree! I might BE the implant) but she won't believe you. That's what I'm trying to get at.

[supermanthatho]

Right, I get it. But, if you try to tell her that you think the reason of why she left is because her horomones are out of whack. I don't think she's gonna buy it (and you know what? I agree! I might BE the implant) but she won't believe you. That's what I'm trying to get at.

 

ohhh ok.. yeah its fkd cause i know she wont believe it, and there's no way i could tell her to get it removed

[jdids247]

Super,

 

I've posted in another one of your threads, and please consider my advice. I was in your shoes with an almost identical situation. She isn't herself and she won't be herself...that person you loved is long gone. One minute she'll be happy with you and the next minute she'll want you dead...I've been there. The more you try to make it right, the further she'll run. Her hormones are so far out of whack she doesn't even know who she is anymore. Don't count on her hormone and mental levels to go back to normal for a long time...they might not ever go back to normal. She's grieving the only possible way she knows and that's to not be reminded of the issue at hand so that's why she running away and trying to meet new people. When the problem is out of sight, it's out of mind.

 

You can try and talk to her until you're blue in the face, but that isn't going to make her listen. Right now you're painted black and she's moving on.

 

Stop and heal yourself. I know right now is a hard and confusing time, but you need to focus on you instead of what could be wrong with her. I focused on my ex too long after the breakup and didn't focus on myself until 2-3 months later and it was the dumbest thing I could have done.

[supermanthatho]

Super,

 

I've posted in another one of your threads, and please consider my advice. I was in your shoes with an almost identical situation. She isn't herself and she won't be herself...that person you loved is long gone. One minute she'll be happy with you and the next minute she'll want you dead...I've been there. The more you try to make it right, the further she'll run. Her hormones are so far out of whack she doesn't even know who she is anymore. Don't count on her hormone and mental levels to go back to normal for a long time...they might not ever go back to normal. She's grieving the only possible way she knows and that's to not be reminded of the issue at hand so that's why she running away and trying to meet new people. When the problem is out of sight, it's out of mind.

 

You can try and talk to her until you're blue in the face, but that isn't going to make her listen. Right now you're painted black and she's moving on.

 

Stop and heal yourself. I know right now is a hard and confusing time, but you need to focus on you instead of what could be wrong with her. I focused on my ex too long after the breakup and didn't focus on myself until 2-3 months later and it was the dumbest thing I could have done.

 

I accept and open to that answer. Sorry if iv made no replies to my other thread u posted on. Still figurin out how to use this site ay. But um as for my situation i believe logically she will get back to herself once removin the implanon the trick is how to convince her to remove it. Hey i gotta try right? If its to get the love of my life back id do anything

[g450]

I accept and open to that answer. Sorry if iv made no replies to my other thread u posted on. Still figurin out how to use this site ay. But um as for my situation i believe logically she will get back to herself once removin the implanon the trick is how to convince her to remove it. Hey i gotta try right? If its to get the love of my life back id do anything

 

Yeah I tried to tell my XW it could be horemones that caused our divorce since she just got over menopaus. Didnt go over well LOL.

 

Thing is, your GF went straight to another guy right? That in my book is inexcusable, horemones or not. It shows her true character. So my question to you is, why would you want somebody like that back?

[Downtown]

Super, I agree with Jdids that it is time for you to focus on healing yourself and moving on. Moreover, it remains very unclear whether the injection had anything to do with her hostile behavior toward you.