Does anybody notice that they spend more time on LoveShack than out dating?

[Celtica]

Could I be addicted to virtual reality?

[bson1257]

I never date, so it dont matter how much time I spend on here

[snug.bunny]

I don't think it just applies to dating though, everything (IE. Social Media, etc.). I have so much gunk going on in real life, not enough time in the day to get online and only really do so when I have some down time. Sometimes I have more down time, other times not, it all depends on the week.

[Teal]

I just do it because browsing a forum for entertainment takes a lot less than driving out to meet someone, paying to eat out when I really should be eating at home, and being kind and entertaining to someone I'm most likely not going to be compatible with for an evening.

 

Oh, and gas costs money. Public transportation costs money, too. Walking/biking is a chore.

 

Maybe I'll have more luck when I get back into a local chess group and get to know people outside of that atmosphere.

 

If you think about being online when you're offline and are preoccupied with it, that's a pretty strong sign of potentially having what's referred to as an Internet addiction. Replacing offline things with online things is hit and miss, you could just be avoiding something rather than dealing with an addiction.

Edited July 4, 2012 by Teal

[mario_C]

The idea, as with socially oriented dating sites (OKCupid, Plenty of Fish) is that we discuss best practices, learn from each other, develop our socialization and go out and get 'em, as the saying goes.

Instead, arguments go on and on in whirlpool spirals, nobody learns anything or derivates from their agenda, and if anything, we come out less dateable because we see the opposite sex's neuroses, resentment and bitterness up close on a daily basis.

Just look at it...I'd rather masturbate too.

But that goes for any social site, bulletin board and chat on the great verbal circle jerk that is the internet. I used to love and believe in the internet, but there are days I wish I've never seen a computer.

[iambookworm]

haha yeah, I like reading through stories here are its like real-life soap opera, plus I can vent the anger and disappointment I felt and help others too

[Celtica]

hmm, yes this has been a recent trend in my life... But more so because I have been avoiding the outside world.

 

It spirals into a cycle; the less time I go outside, the more time I spend becoming socially anxious as I feel that I have limited skills.

 

It's like having pale legs and refusing to go outside because you have pale legs rather than going outside to tan. You will never get tan if you don't go outside.

 

It's like a science student theorizing without doing the lab work or experiments.

 

It's part of the self-help book era; we spend massive amounts of time reading how to do things without actually doing them. Yet the best way to learn from anything is through experience (IMO)...

 

Here, you mostly get immediate feedback and you remain mostly anonymous, therefore no risk of actual rejection of your REAL character and being. Only the risk of rejection of your virtual self. So the PROS being, LS allowing people to take risks that they otherwise wouldn't.

[USMCHokie]

I think everyone on LS notices that I spend more time on LS than out dating...

[Mr Scorpio]

Given that I haven't been on a date in the "getting to know a new person" sense since 2005, yeah, it is fair to say I spend expotentially more time on here than "dating". I have too many issues that prevent me from dating. I rather doubt that I ever will again.

[Radu]

I think everyone on LS notices that I spend more time on LS than out dating...

 

Heh, me too.

No time to date now though [or in the next few months], might as well live vicariously through other ppl moaning, bitching and whining about their relationships ... lucky bastards.

 

On a serious note, LS is good therapy ... it's like a crash-course in relationships reading about so many and relating to your past ones.

[SmileFace]

I don't know if you head but I LS on dates.

[USMCHokie]

I don't know if you head but I LS on dates.

 

You are the coolest.

 

On a serious note, LS is good therapy ... it's like a crash-course in relationships reading about so many and relating to your past ones.

 

I've read recently that writing is great therapy...so for me, LS is an avenue for that...