winebrens21 Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Me and my ex starting dating last January while we were away at college. Everything was great and we never fought. I had to move home for the summer, which is an hour away from him. I have made every effort to try and spend time with him while we are apart. Out of the blue he suddenly breaks up with me and I was so confused because everything seemed great. We meet up a week later and he explained to me that for the past few weeks since I had been home I had been distant and that is why he had broke up wtih me. I admit I could have texted him more and or even called more. But I truely did care about him. When we met up to discuss things he was bout in tears, and said I was great girl. He just didn't want to be hurt again. I am trying to figure out why he is being so sensitive. It's summer and I am doing the best I could considerign I dont' even have a car I want him back and to show I care. When we talked he kept putting his arm around me and saying how great I was. Has anyone had a similar breakup?
Samilia Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Me and my ex starting dating last January while we were away at college. Everything was great and we never fought. I had to move home for the summer, which is an hour away from him. I have made every effort to try and spend time with him while we are apart. Out of the blue he suddenly breaks up with me and I was so confused because everything seemed great. We meet up a week later and he explained to me that for the past few weeks since I had been home I had been distant and that is why he had broke up wtih me. I admit I could have texted him more and or even called more. But I truely did care about him. When we met up to discuss things he was bout in tears, and said I was great girl. He just didn't want to be hurt again. I am trying to figure out why he is being so sensitive. It's summer and I am doing the best I could considerign I dont' even have a car I want him back and to show I care. When we talked he kept putting his arm around me and saying how great I was. Has anyone had a similar breakup? You say you have made every effort, has he?.. I think it's bull and he's putting the responsibility on your so he doesn't feel guilty. I would say, either he met someone else, or he's that insecure that he freaked and broke it off, but I don't believe it is the latest.
KatZee Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 This is classic blame shifting. Don't fall for it. He's trying to make it seem like it was YOUR fault for the relationship ending. He's grasping at straws trying to ease the guilt he has for doing this. Relationships are two way streets and if a guy is noticing the girl he loves is becoming "distant" the guy will talk to the girl. Try to find out if something's wrong. He won't just go and dump her. He doesn't want to be with you, he doesn't want to put the effort in. it's summertime he just wants to be free. THAT is the truth here. Not that he's scared of being "hurt" again. Please. Don't allow him to make you feel like you did something wrong. Just let him walk.
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