SJC2008 Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 I met an older women at my job, about 50. She was very nice, chatty and spunky! Anyway I'd never go for anything serious with that big of an age gap but you only live once so tell me if you would of taken this as interest: After I cashed her out I was going over an estimate with her. I had my card stapled to it with my cell written on it and circled. When we finished talking about it I told her to call me, in a business tone like any other customer but when I said it I tapped on the hand written number.
threebyfate Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Depends on what I can read in your eyes, facial expression or body language. If it startled me, I would be giving you a searching look with eye contact, to ensure I read you properly. If she didn't do the above, thanked you and walked away casually, doubt she picked up your signal or possibly, wasn't interested.
january2011 Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 (edited) I may have picked up on your body language but I'd probably ignore it since you just said "call me." Which to me is not specific enough to indicate that you want to meet up in a non-business context. And since you used a business tone, all the signs would point to, "call me to discuss the estimate." And I'd write-off the body language as, "I find you attractive but we're here to do business." Edited July 1, 2012 by january2011
Author SJC2008 Posted July 1, 2012 Author Posted July 1, 2012 Depends on what I can read in your eyes, facial expression or body language. If it startled me, I would be giving you a searching look with eye contact, to ensure I read you properly. If she didn't do the above, thanked you and walked away casually, doubt she picked up your signal or possibly, wasn't interested. She was preening her arse off when I was talking to her (before I went over the estimate with the card). She walked out pretty confidently and gave a nice sounding "Thanks x". I'm sure she understands what on the down low is. There were people in there being a store and she's 20 years older than me so it's not like I was about to bust out "So...." lol.
darkmoon Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 (edited) well. yes, speaking as a 60 year old, we might be represented in the media newly as "cougars" with the newly assigned sexy role, but as you yourself said, i get asked but... "I'd never go for anything serious with that big of an age gap" sorry, a fair few women of any age say no, we can tell whether you are looking for love or sex, and alot of us have the experience to sum up the situation quickly we might be very careful of STDs we might be looking for a companion or not want to be used i think she changed her mind half way thru, sorry Edited July 1, 2012 by darkmoon
Author SJC2008 Posted July 1, 2012 Author Posted July 1, 2012 well. yes, speaking as a 60 year old, we might be represented in the media newly as "cougars" with the newly assigned sexy role, but as you yourself said, i get asked but... "I'd never go for anything serious with that big of an age gap" sorry, a fair few women of any age say no, we can tell whether you are looking for love or sex, and alot of us have the experience to sum up the situation quickly we might be very careful of STDs we might be looking for a companion or not want to be used i think she changed her mind half way thru, sorry Seems like I struck a cord with the age comment! So what if I tried to pick up an older women? I wouldn't lie to her or lead her on, THAT would be using her.
nessaaa Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 I met an older women at my job, about 50. She was very nice, chatty and spunky! Anyway I'd never go for anything serious with that big of an age gap but you only live once so tell me if you would of taken this as interest: After I cashed her out I was going over an estimate with her. I had my card stapled to it with my cell written on it and circled. When we finished talking about it I told her to call me, in a business tone like any other customer but when I said it I tapped on the hand written number. she prob thinks you're a creeper waow
darkmoon Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 (edited) Seems like I struck a cord with the age comment! So what if I tried to pick up an older women? I wouldn't lie to her or lead her on, THAT would be using her. i think she changed her mind half-way thru, as i already mentioned nobody is saying you would lie or lead her on as you're not looking for anything serious, she might have noticed it apparent in how you came across you're entitled to pick up who you want i am an older woman who knows other older women offering insights, she might just be dying to screw you, but sadly, nothing's happening atmo Edited July 1, 2012 by darkmoon
Disenchantedly Yours Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 She was preening her arse off when I was talking to her (before I went over the estimate with the card). She walked out pretty confidently and gave a nice sounding "Thanks x". I'm sure she understands what on the down low is. There were people in there being a store and she's 20 years older than me so it's not like I was about to bust out "So...." lol. To be honest, you sound kind of condsending toward her. It's kind of like your making fun of her because she felt good that a man was flirting with her. Consider being 20 years older and asking out a girl 20 years younger, consider her saying something like, "well, I guess if he wants to take me out, that's no skin off my back." So you take this young lady out, pay for her dinner, really try to wine and dine her, then she says "Thanks, got to go. See you later." And that's that. I don't think it would feel so good for you right? Now she made you no promises, you made her no promises. So you spending money on her wouldn't mean she was using you...or would it......... Please don't use women.
Author SJC2008 Posted July 1, 2012 Author Posted July 1, 2012 #1:To be honest, you sound kind of condsending toward her. It's kind of like your making fun of her because she felt good that a man was flirting with her. #2:Consider being 20 years older and asking out a girl 20 years younger, consider her saying something like, "well, I guess if he wants to take me out, that's no skin off my back." So you take this young lady out, pay for her dinner, really try to wine and dine her, then she says "Thanks, got to go. See you later." And that's that. I don't think it would feel so good for you right? Now she made you no promises, you made her no promises. So you spending money on her wouldn't mean she was using you...or would it......... #3: Please don't use women. #1: She was preening= I think she was interested/attracted to me. She walked out confidently=I think she got it! #2: Minus the age gap in and that's basically been my dating career. I never thought I was used I just wondered what happened. #3: Don't use PEOPLE. I have never used anyone, man or woman.
Author SJC2008 Posted July 1, 2012 Author Posted July 1, 2012 she prob thinks you're a creeper waow lol nessaaa! I thought guys that used cheesy pickup lines were creepers now you wanna loop me in with them too? It's all good. By da way girl call da cops cuz it's GOT to be a crime to look dat gooood!!!
spiderowl Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 (edited) Probably wouldn't get that it was a flirt but even if I did, I wouldn't bother. I don't like being told to call a guy; I'd expect him to ask to call me. If the age gap was too big, I'd assume he was only looking for a bit of fun (which your post nicely illustrates) and so I wouldn't want to know. It's insulting that young guys chase older women in the hope of sex when they have no interest in getting to know her as a person and in a proper relationship. All in all, as a mature woman, I don't think I'd take such an approach seriously. Edited July 1, 2012 by spiderowl
FitChick Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 You gave her a nice little ego boost. Nothing more. She probably went home to tell her husband/boyfriend and they both had a laugh. By the way, how do you know she was 50? She could have been a 35-year old alcoholic, chain-smoking sun worshiper.
sid3 Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 I met an older women at my job, about 50. She was very nioce, chatty and spunky! Anyway I'd never go for anything serious with that big of an age gap but you only live once so tell me if you would of taken this as interest: After I cashed her out I was going over an estimate with her. I had my card stapled to it with my cell written on it and circled. When we finished talking about it I told her to call me, in a business tone like any other customer but when I said it I tapped on the hand written number. WTF? You need to get out more. 50 something looking that good while you're 30? Really??? Tapping on a card is suddenly a sign to show a woman you're interested? I'm thinking I should change my bet to who gets a GF first to sumdude. Dam dude. What's up in your neck of the woods? How can we help turn this around for you? Honestly, you seem to get by ok when you meet them, so I'm guessing its an attitude issue and not a physical one.
Author SJC2008 Posted July 1, 2012 Author Posted July 1, 2012 You gave her a nice little ego boost. Nothing more. She probably went home to tell her husband/boyfriend and they both had a laugh. By the way, how do you know she was 50? She could have been a 35-year old alcoholic, chain-smoking sun worshiper. Lol at the bold part! I know becaue I'm a pretty good jugde of age one and two I seen her ID. She's divorced by the way and she may have a boyfriend but I don't know. she works part time and lives off of a modest income and seems to be content with her life and I don't mean that in a bad way.
Author SJC2008 Posted July 1, 2012 Author Posted July 1, 2012 WTF? You need to get out more. 50 something looking that good while you're 30? Really??? Tapping on a card is suddenly a sign to show a woman you're interested? I'm thinking I should change my bet to who gets a GF first to sumdude. Dam dude. What's up in your neck of the woods? How can we help turn this around for you? Honestly, you seem to get by ok when you meet them, so I'm guessing its an attitude issue and not a physical one. HAHA sid you always tell it like it is. I don't pursue older women and my dating range is 24-32. I'm attracted to all types of women, age and race wise. I felt a good vibe and it was more of when opportunity knocks thing more than anything. I don't care what the man haters here say I was hoping on the slim chance she'd be down for a younger guy and like I told the man haters I wouldn't lead her on or use her or antything.
sid3 Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 HAHA sid you always tell it like it is. I don't pursue older women and my dating range is 24-32. I'm attracted to all types of women, age and race wise. I felt a good vibe and it was more of when opportunity knocks thing more than anything. I don't care what the man haters here say I was hoping on the slim chance she'd be down for a younger guy and like I told the man haters I wouldn't lead her on or use her or antything. Cool! I thought I was witnessing your regression for a minute there. I imagine she was cute if you'd make a move. So OLD isn't producing so well for you these days, what else are you doing? Still think you cut the other one off a bit too soon, Hell I've been on two vacations within a short amount of time due to circumstances. And screw the man haters, glad you're smart enough to figure them out. That would have been my best advice to a guy ten years younger than me.
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