whoknows11 Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 When an ex sends the wrong text to you, is it usually on purpose? Why do you believe they do it?
Author whoknows11 Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 My guess is that they could be saying it to try and scare you or make you jealous. Especially if your arguing or something or they have feelings for you still.
TaraMaiden Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 because maybe it could be a genuine mistake...? Why bother even trying to think why? Delete, block, sorted. 4
Author whoknows11 Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 because maybe it could be a genuine mistake...? Why bother even trying to think why? Delete, block, sorted. Because my ex was mad/upset with me. She said i was being a prick to her about something. And then while talking after somewhat arguing, i get a text that says, " country and rock mainly. You?" randomly during it. Then she goes, scare you? Put after, thats what you get for being an ass to me. Now think twice before you treat me like that.
todreaminblue Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Because my ex was mad/upset with me. She said i was being a prick to her about something. And then while talking after somewhat arguing, i get a text that says, " country and rock mainly. You?" randomly during it. Then she goes, scare you? Put after, thats what you get for being an ass to me. Now think twice before you treat me like that. It is manipulation she manipulated you to get a reaction....whatever you felt is what she set out to achieve....she told you why she sent it so it wasnt an accident.... it was revenge by manipulating you
TaraMaiden Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Delete. Block. Sorted. You really don't need to do anything else, other than this. She's your ex- for a reason. It wasn't working. It's still not working. She's still your ex. Ignore everything from now on. 1
Author whoknows11 Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 It is manipulation she manipulated you to get a reaction....whatever you felt is what she set out to achieve....she told you why she sent it so it wasnt an accident.... it was revenge by manipulating you Thats exactly what i believe it was. She said it honestly wasnt meant for anyone. And she knew itd scare me. Its just the text was so random. Idk how she came up with something that random. Wasn sexual or anything.
todreaminblue Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Thats exactly what i believe it was. She said it honestly wasnt meant for anyone. And she knew itd scare me. Its just the text was so random. Idk how she came up with something that random. Wasn sexual or anything. she probably didnt want it too be too obvious or she is passive agressive and takes a more subtle way to get reactions......or that could be the way she initiates contact by talking about music......you know your ex does she often manipulate you and it is mostly subtle....maybe she avoids direct conflict......deb
Author whoknows11 Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 she probably didnt want it too be too obvious or she is passive agressive and takes a more subtle way to get reactions......or that could be the way she initiates contact by talking about music......you know your ex does she often manipulate you and it is mostly subtle....maybe she avoids direct conflict......deb We never talk about music. Ive always known what she likes. But i do feel she said that to not make it look so obvious and to scare me/get me going. Cause it did. I tried not to. Luckily we were texting.
todreaminblue Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 We never talk about music. Ive always known what she likes. But i do feel she said that to not make it look so obvious and to scare me/get me going. Cause it did. I tried not to. Luckily we were texting. If she is your ex why are scared that she might be dating someone else.....do you want to get back together?
Author whoknows11 Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 If she is your ex why are scared that she might be dating someone else.....do you want to get back together? Yeah, its a long story
g450 Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 I still remember when my GF texted me by accident a txt that was meant for her XH who she was trying to hook up with. I actually took a photo of the text. I save it as a reminder to never say never. Anything can happen in life and even lightning can strike twice in the same spot. In your case though I would say she is playing games. Your thread should not even exist though. Set her number on ignore or block it. It's easy to do. No excuses to not do that unless you had kids together or something.
Author whoknows11 Posted July 1, 2012 Author Posted July 1, 2012 I still remember when my GF texted me by accident a txt that was meant for her XH who she was trying to hook up with. I actually took a photo of the text. I save it as a reminder to never say never. Anything can happen in life and even lightning can strike twice in the same spot. In your case though I would say she is playing games. Your thread should not even exist though. Set her number on ignore or block it. It's easy to do. No excuses to not do that unless you had kids together or something. Yeah youre right. I just was asking overall why exs do it. And get opinions. Cause i always got the idea that once they leave, they never wanna bother you anyways or waste effort messing with you. Idk why they try to.
g450 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Yeah youre right. I just was asking overall why exs do it. And get opinions. Cause i always got the idea that once they leave, they never wanna bother you anyways or waste effort messing with you. Idk why they try to. Well not all exes do. My XW for example only contacted me when she needed something. That was the first year after our divorce. After that, I simple did not exist to her. No contact. Zilch. She was much better at NC that I ever was. Now that Im remarried I will probably never speak to her again unles my Son gets married or something. Usually when an x still keeps in contact, it's because they are not done with you. Most of the time it's just their way of keeping you on the back burner or to lighten their own feelings of guilt. Either way, not a good thing for you as it is disrespectful to you and untimately harmful emotionally and phycologically.
mike588 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 What did the text say?? Maybe your ex. was drunk and "accidently" sent it to you but then again why would he/she still have your number on their call list?
kyle77 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I would say that this happens for two reasons: 1: it is a genuine mistake! 2: its a nonchalant way of opening a conversation with you....by sending the message and it appearing to be a mistake your ex has a free pass to go oh well whats new haven't talked to you in a while, this could be because he or she may just be curious or because they may be interested in you.... THAT BEING SAID! Your reaction should be the same regardless of what reason you got that message! You should react as if it is situation 1 every time no matter what. (just be like what? and then let the conversation die as fast as possible, or better yet ignore it....thats what i should have done looking back at it now) Even if your ex is trying to pique your interest or is curious about how you are doing, she is ultimately looking for something. What I mean is maybe she is looking for some validation in the form of an ego boost...if you respond as if your very interested in talking to her then she will only bring you pain by getting your hopes up and then crushing them. She is trying to manipulate you. Don't let her.
WeAllMightBeNuts Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 Singing-"All My Ex's Sending Text's" I couldn't help it.
mike588 Posted July 4, 2012 Posted July 4, 2012 I would say that this happens for two reasons: 1: it is a genuine mistake! 2: its a nonchalant way of opening a conversation with you....by sending the message and it appearing to be a mistake your ex has a free pass to go oh well whats new haven't talked to you in a while, this could be because he or she may just be curious or because they may be interested in you.... THAT BEING SAID! Your reaction should be the same regardless of what reason you got that message! You should react as if it is situation 1 every time no matter what. (just be like what? and then let the conversation die as fast as possible, or better yet ignore it....thats what i should have done looking back at it now) Even if your ex is trying to pique your interest or is curious about how you are doing, she is ultimately looking for something. What I mean is maybe she is looking for some validation in the form of an ego boost...if you respond as if your very interested in talking to her then she will only bring you pain by getting your hopes up and then crushing them. She is trying to manipulate you. Don't let her. So true. My ex. contacted me 6 months after dumping me and after a few days I responded...now I regret it. I had to find out what she wanted and all she did was get an ego stroke and to dump her guilt. 1
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