tenspoons Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Basically, I ran into a woman in college a few months ago, nice chemistry, I asked her out on a romantic date recently, and she accepted. We had a fun time, and she agreed to a second date. We haven't gone on that second date yet because we had to schedule it a few weeks from now due to work. The first date was a few weeks ago. We live about 1 hour and a half's drive away, so we can't just meet up quickly. communication is low when we are apart. I know she is a big girl with her own life and that's fine we all got lives of our own, but why would someone be dating another person, and not be willing to start a conversation with them? Especially since we live so far away from each other, and we wont see each other on a regular basis. She used to get online more often talk to me before we started dating, now we only speak when I start a conversation with a phonecall/text message or get her to come on Skype video. (she knows i'm online most of the day, and she told me her life is basically on the internet. she just wont go online to talk for whatever reason) She doesn't seem annoyed or unwilling to talk to me when I start conversations, in fact she seems happy to talk. But she is also acting very uninterested with her actions toward me, and she ends up stopping the conversation between 5-20 minutes after we started because it is "cold in the room" or she is "heading out". I've tried giving her time to talk to me on her own time by not talking to her for about a week or so. she doesn't say anything until I do. When we are in person face to face, it's a lot different. She seems really interested in me, her chest and face turn red, and she does the hair flipping. She also gets all nice looking for me. She is not shy btw, far from it. Although I don't know how open she is when it comes to love and such. Any Ideas about what happened? Perhaps I'm expecting too much of her attention too soon.
dixiepix Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Only one date with a 2nd one planned and now yall are "dating"? Really now... I doubt she sees it this way. Yes she does have a life and likely not spending most of the day on the internet. Texting and chatting online is cold and distant. Women are emotional beings and like face to face communication. After I have done my 40 hr job, I still have tons to do as I try to include things I want to do. Texting is not one of them. Neither is the phone; yes people can catch up on the phone but quickly. If I am going to invest my time in conversation I want it all... the facial expression, body language, eyes contact, smiles. Not some awkward computer thingy between myself and whomever. The computer technologies are great for my friends that live several hours away that I only get to see a few times a year, otherwise it is a waste of my time and I am bored very quickly. Someone would do better mailing me a handwritten letter. Maybe she shares some of my same thoughts. If I returned texts like I get them, I could spend the day going back and forth, but I would be miserable. It is a time consuming waste of energy.
Author tenspoons Posted July 1, 2012 Author Posted July 1, 2012 I completely understand and agree with you. I am actually someone who is like that, but I do with what I got. I also may have been selective when I said it was the second date coming up. It's actually the 4th, but it feels like the second because it's the second one I have initiated. The other 2 where her, not to say they don't count, it's just that after I asked her out she stated labeling them as dates instead of hanging out.
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