gant29 Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 You may want to go back and read my old post, to understand the complete back story. But long story short. NC with ex for about a month now. I heard from her last night via text. She sent me a message asking if I still had a picture of her dad and his motorcycle in my phone. I text her back and said I would look. I found that pic and sent it to her. She said "Thanks a lot" and asked I then asked how everything was with her and received no response. Am I reading too much into this text? I kept my responses short and sweet, just asked how she was. I felt pretty hopeful for a moment...
TaraMaiden Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 god this is like watching car-crash tv.... The text last night was to ask you for the photo. Your dumbass action was to follow it with a 'how are you' text... tell me - what part of No Contact do you not understand - ??! I hate it when people expend time, energy and goodness trying to support someone who then patently demonstrates they have no intention whatsoever of paying attention. All she wanted was a photo. You sent it. Done. Finished. Now? Back to NC. Total. please, please get it....
Author gant29 Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 Tara, I completely appreciate your input and your brutal, honest, straight-forward advice. I intend to stick with NC. But i was surprised by the contact, and genuinely wanted to know how everything was in her life right now-being that her brother is terminally ill and she recently reached out to me about him. I WILL NOT BREAK NC. She contacted me. I am just asking people on here, based on their previously experience, if she maybe did want more than just a photo. If maybe she was seeking some sort of contact with me. That was the intention of this post.
TaraMaiden Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Never, ever try to second-guess what their motive is. you shouldn't care, or give it another thought. Trying to second-guess their motives drives you nuts... All she wanted was the photo. Leave it be, and just go on, moving on. Really, any motive is immaterial. 1
whoknows11 Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Honestly, id be suprised as well if i were you. Especially not hearing from her after a while. But if she was just contacting about a picture, id think nothing of it. Unless she starts contacting you more frequently. As for the how are you, its not your fault. Most people would ask at times. Your only human. And you miss her. If she didnt respond, id say leave it be. She probobaly couldnt be intrested anymore. But you never know. Wouldnt she if gotten rid of your number? But idk, id say continue no contact until you here from her again. Then just make it a short response.
KatZee Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Why are you so surprised about the contact? She wanted something from you that you had that probably means something to her. A photo of her dad. She didn't inquire how you were, she got in she got out and you fell for the "bait" if you even want to call it that. There was absolutely nothing there that should have given you any hope or indication of anything. She wanted her dads picture. End.
Author gant29 Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 Wow. I feel incredibly foolish now. No room for hope in this forum I take it. It was just a photo-got it. You all are probably right. Wish more of you thought in color. It is so black and white here sometimes. Many of the posts have been helpful regardless. Thank you. Just feeling really down today. This truly sucks.
BlazePT Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Wow. I feel incredibly foolish now. No room for hope in this forum I take it. It was just a photo-got it. You all are probably right. Wish more of you thought in color. It is so black and white here sometimes. Many of the posts have been helpful regardless. Thank you. Just feeling really down today. This truly sucks. Mate, I get you. You are maybe hoping that someone gave you a different perspective of what happened. Maybe you were hoping for something like "Oh! It really was an excuse for her just to contact me!" But the truth is, as much as many of us would like to give you some hope, the text really meant nothing, believe me ... It's not about being black and white; it's about what it is logic and obvious... If she keeps contacting you in a way other than asking you for stuff and then cutting you off again, by all means share it with us so we can give our opinion about it. Hang in there
Samilia Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 (edited) You may want to go back and read my old post, to understand the complete back story. But long story short. NC with ex for about a month now. I heard from her last night via text. She sent me a message asking if I still had a picture of her dad and his motorcycle in my phone. I text her back and said I would look. I found that pic and sent it to her. She said "Thanks a lot" and asked I then asked how everything was with her and received no response. Am I reading too much into this text? I kept my responses short and sweet, just asked how she was. I felt pretty hopeful for a moment... Yesterday I asked him for a few pics of me (on which I look hot and will use on my page ). That was nothing more, I didn't say anything else, I only want the pictures. Yeah you read too much into this. PS: it's not that there is no room for hope, but most dumpers will string you along with hope, the guys and gals here will tell it like it is, in a kind way more of the time, that's why we find comfort..truth and hugs. Edited June 30, 2012 by Samilia
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