Men think they know when a woman fakes...but they really don't.

[ThingsAreComplicated]

It's all in your head.

[Leigh 87]

I am a women who cannot orgasm from sex alone. I have only had one vaginal orgam in my life - when I was about 15. And it was from fingering, not sex, and from a guy who I did not at all like, and he sure did not like me much either.

 

Obviously, it is NOT about the partner! I love my boyfriend, the fact he cannot make me orgasm though sex DOES NOT stop me from enjoying sex! I LOVE sex with him, I am crazy about sex, and sex with him feels SO GOOD without having to orgasm.

 

Just because a women cannot orgasm through sex alone, and needs to be finished in other ways, such as oral, it DOES NOT mean the sex does not feel good for them!

 

Let me clear this up, with the misinformed people here:

 

- sex for a women CAN feel great, without her having an orgasm.

 

- it is not about having the " wrong" partner. I doubt many men have the right shaped dick, and the right movement to suddenly " make" me orgasm through sex.

 

- did I say that I am very satisfied with the sex I have with my boyfriend?

 

My boyfriend and I both believe he can make me orgasm eventually, and it does happen for some women later on; a friend of mine was 28 before she had her first orgasm, through sex.

 

I faked the first few times with my boyfriend, because he had NEVER, and I repeat, NEVER had a women who he did NOT make orgasm through sex. EVERY girl he had EVER had sex with, apparently orgasmed through the sex.

He never gave oral before sex, so it was just the sex.

 

He was BAFFLED as to WHY I am the first girl that he has failed to make orgasm through sex. For that very reason, I faked the first coupleo f months, because I DID love the sex with him, it felt great, it is just that my vagina is not made so that orgasms come easily to me.

I have since told him, and he got used to it. It took time, at first he felt that there was something wrong with the sex.

 

Eventually, he realized that I do make a lot of real noises during sex, and that I very clearly enjoy sex WITHOUT the orgasm. Not orgasming through sex IS NOT a sign that your going to be sexually unsatisfied!

My boyfriend just goes down on me before sex sometimes, to make me orgasm.

Otherwise - I have my hand when he wants a quicky.

 

 

 

 

 

To the guy who says I am a low life and low quality because I faked a few orgasms - f*ck you. I have integrity and am not low quality. I faked because I did not want to hurt his feelings, and I did not want to make thiings confusing for him in a NEW relatioship - he told me he made every girl orgasm when i asked him, and it scared me into faking a little.

I HAVE told him the truth now, and I am certainly NOT a low life for faking a few times.

Who the hell are YOU to judge my character, you jerk. You do not know me, and I am a very compassionate, honest, and lovely person.

[Leigh 87]

WTF.

 

YOU guys are SERIOUSLY misinformed.

 

it is NOT ABOUT HAVING THE RIGHT GUY.

 

a lot of women simply cannot have vaginal orgasms!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

My boyfriend has make every women he has been with orgasm besides me.. he did not particularly like ANY of his sexual partners, besides TWO women, including me. So it is not about the right guy, seeing as my bofriend has had meaningless sex with women he did not have feelings for, and made his one night stands orgasm.

 

Have you guys been living under a rock!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is well documented that a LOT of women simply cannot orgasm through vaginal sex! They need CLIT stimulation, either during sex, or for some that is not enough, and they need their partners to get them off after or before sex.

 

I can orgasm if I am SUPER horny, and my clit rubs against his body when he has sex with me. however, I masturbate too much, and this makes it VERY hard for him to make me orgasm through his body rubbing against me when we have sex. I need more clit stimulation like oral, to get me to orgasm.

[ThingsAreComplicated]

are you alright?? serious question...maybe you need some treatment from your perfect BF...sorry couldn't resist

 

It's funny that you post his claims in a thread called " Men think they know when a woman fakes...but they really don't."

[Disenchantedly Yours]

That author discredited herself in the first sentence and I found a bias permeating everything thereafter to the point I couldn't put up with reading. To take her personal experience and make a generalization that a women--the whole gender--fake it and that she has a percentage which represents fact is nonsense. The rest of the article goes on to defend or justify this sensationalist attention-grabbing diatribe. Do some women fake? Yes. But beyond that this is a very personal thing that each person experiences in their own way with their unique partner. Just because someone may have faked it once or with one guy does not mean that she's disposed to doing this all the time or worse "not knowing the difference" between a faked orgasm and a real one. And not all men are just slugs with the same small range of sensitivity. I find this kind of commentary sexist and muck-raking.

 

I think that's a little harsh Feelin Frisky. I'm not sure how often women fake but I do think that when a woman fakes, it's not so unbelievable that a man wouldn't be able to tell. That's not his fault neither is he a slug just because he doesn't know what's going on.

 

I think there are tons of reasons why women fake, ranging from just wanting to get it over, stroking their man's ego and a woman's own body/sexual issues that may be infringing on her ability to let go and have a good time. The key is communciation and perhaps some sensitivity from men about a woman's inability to orgasm while not making the goal of getting her to orgasm to consume him. Unfortunetly, sometimes the end result consumes guys then enjoying the journey.

 

When men face issues with ED, sometimes men don't want to be open and hoenst about what's going on with them. At this point, a woman needs to be sensitive and patient with her guy. I think the same thoughts in dealing with someone with ED should extend to dealing with a woman that may not be orgasm. However, this does require a woman to be honest about what is happening or not happening. Just as a man would need to be honest as well about what's going on with his body too. But I dont get the impression that the OP is saying men are slugs at all.

[Disenchantedly Yours]

WTF.

 

YOU guys are SERIOUSLY misinformed.

 

it is NOT ABOUT HAVING THE RIGHT GUY.

 

a lot of women simply cannot have vaginal orgasms!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

My boyfriend has make every women he has been with orgasm besides me.. he did not particularly like ANY of his sexual partners, besides TWO women, including me. So it is not about the right guy, seeing as my bofriend has had meaningless sex with women he did not have feelings for, and made his one night stands orgasm.

 

Have you guys been living under a rock!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is well documented that a LOT of women simply cannot orgasm through vaginal sex! They need CLIT stimulation, either during sex, or for some that is not enough, and they need their partners to get them off after or before sex.

 

Leigh well said. I agree with you. the ablility to orgasm or not has nothing to do with being with the right person.

[kaylan]

WTF.

 

YOU guys are SERIOUSLY misinformed.

 

it is NOT ABOUT HAVING THE RIGHT GUY.

 

a lot of women simply cannot have vaginal orgasms!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

My boyfriend has prolly make every women he has been with orgasm besides me.. he did not particularly like ANY of his sexual partners, besides TWO women, including me. So it is not about the right guy, seeing as my bofriend has had meaningless sex with women he did not have feelings for, and made his one night stands orgasm.

 

Have you guys been living under a rock!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is well documented that a LOT of women simply cannot orgasm through vaginal sex! They need CLIT stimulation, either during sex, or for some that is not enough, and they need their partners to get them off after or before sex.

 

I can orgasm if I am SUPER horny, and my clit rubs against his body when he has sex with me. however, I masturbate too much, and this makes it VERY hard for him to make me orgasm through his body rubbing against me when we have sex. I need more clit stimulation like oral, to get me to orgasm.

How is it not about the right guy?

 

Did you miss the part where she said she was not attracted to her current guy and has had good sex in the past with other men? Did you not read the thread in its entirety?

 

Also, your boyfriend has been faked out by women before. Guys who say every woman they were with came every single time during sex, really are talking themselves up. Its one thing to say you dont think a girls ever faked you out, but its another thing to say they all came through sex each time.

 

I may not think Ive been faked out before(or many times), since I communicate with chicks and they communicate with me. But I know every session did not end in orgasm, and I know a couple of the girls I was with didnt orgasm from intercourse alone.

[nofool4u]

Men think they know when a woman fakes...but they really don't.

 

Its easy, either you feel the pulsation of her contractions, or you don't.

[Quiet Storm]

WTF.

 

YOU guys are SERIOUSLY misinformed.

 

it is NOT ABOUT HAVING THE RIGHT GUY.

 

a lot of women simply cannot have vaginal orgasms!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!

 

My boyfriend has make every women he has been with orgasm besides me.. he did not particularly like ANY of his sexual partners, besides TWO women, including me. So it is not about the right guy, seeing as my bofriend has had meaningless sex with women he did not have feelings for, and made his one night stands orgasm.

 

Have you guys been living under a rock!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It is well documented that a LOT of women simply cannot orgasm through vaginal sex! They need CLIT stimulation, either during sex, or for some that is not enough, and they need their partners to get them off after or before sex.

 

I can orgasm if I am SUPER horny, and my clit rubs against his body when he has sex with me. however, I masturbate too much, and this makes it VERY hard for him to make me orgasm through his body rubbing against me when we have sex. I need more clit stimulation like oral, to get me to orgasm.

 

You may want to think about getting a bullet vibe and hold it on your clit while he has sex with you. I bet that would work.

[Quiet Storm]

Its easy, either you feel the pulsation of her contractions, or you don't.

 

If your muscles are strong from kegals, you can mimic those contractions. This is TMI, but I just tried it. It's not difficult to get the timing & rhythm right.

[Leopard]

Ummm, you do know that it's possible for someone to be a non-psycho who is also willing to put in the time and effort needed to learn how to get his partner to orgasm (or to just assist her in getting one, if nothing they try works).

 

This is my boyfriend. Non-psycho (well, I wouldn't say entirely, he's sort of clingy and insecure) but he still is willing to please me. It just doesn't happen.

 

When this topic comes up it says more about the dishonest nature of women who do things like fake orgasms than any male inability to tell the difference. Women who fake orgasms are liars, some talented liars, some bad, but all liars. Cosmetic lying such as bra stuffing, hairpieces, lifts, etc. are understandable deceptions to a degree, but going to the trouble to "act out" something that isn't true for the purpose of tricking someone? Women who fake orgasms are just low quality garden variety liars in my book.

 

I don't agree. If all women in the world stopped faking orgasms, then over 60% of the world's women would be single because men would lose confidence or no longer feel good about themselves.

 

You misunderstand.

 

It doesn't matter if the incompatibility is based on sex or personalities or whatever - if you have to fake it, he's not the right partner for you. His other benefits do not make up for it, cannot make up for it.

 

I think they can. If this statement was true, then a man who you have great sex with but who doesn't have other great qualities is one you would rather choose?

 

I know you need to find a balance, but I think we all settle in some aspect. There is no such thing as perfect and to be humbly honest, I think that most women settle on the sex part.

 

It's far easier to be with someone who you have mediocre sex with, than someone who is rude or cheap for example. Some things are just more easy to settle with than others. In this case, physicalities (looks, sex, things that have to do with the body) are easier to settle for than the more important qualities (kind, generous, treats you well etc).

 

They can't fake excessive leaking, and uncontrollable spasming/contracting of their legs.

 

Yes they can. We can do kegels (when you hold and release your pee, that muscle also contracts during orgasm). And a woman can get super wet during sex, doesn't mean she is orgasming.

 

Given the number of good looking men with poor character who are able to help a woman achieve an orgasm, I'd happily take a man with sterling character who never gave me one.

 

...but I will ask you this... is it necessary to 'lie' to your BF about this? Why not just tell him you aren't orgasmic or can't have them?

 

This is what I am doing with the current guy (bolded part).

 

I did tell him once. Well, he found out through a message to a friend anyway. He told me not to fake anymore and I was SO relieved and happy. But then after a few weeks he got very discouraged and the relationship was going downhill. He was so unhappy and asked me why I couldn't orgasm.

 

I started faking again after that (not as often though) and he was glowing and so happy after. It's like he was infused with endorphins.

 

Why aren't you attracted to him?

 

It's nothing specific to be honest. We just don't have chemistry. He has a pudge belly and he looks like a frog (his face), I would attribute it mostly to that. I don't even enjoy kissing him.

 

I guess I am settling for him, but I don't think I will ever find a man as incredible as him, who loves me like he does, but in a package that turns me on. The men that I have been with, who were sexy or I liked physically, turned out to be selfish alphas and the relationships were awful.

 

"I came but it wasn't very good."

 

Was she faking it?

 

I wouldn't know lol

 

Lol, youre settling. Why am I not surprised this is why you cant orgasm. Dont settle. Find a guy who gets you going physically, emotionally, and mentally. You need all those for a happy lasting relationship. Youll get orgasms, a loving connection, and someone you really click with personality wise.

 

People who think like this end up old and alone. I can't just wait around for mister perfect because he doesn't exist. We all have to settle in some aspect or another.

[RedRobin]

Leopard,

 

Finding a man with good character whom you enjoy your time with is like finding gold.

 

That said... I'm not at the stage of life yet where satisfying sex has lost it's appeal... not at all. I'm still happiest with a man I connect with... whether I orgasm or not is besides the point.

 

If you are set on this... I'd try to find something to love physically about him.

 

I know a man... who was burned horribly in a childhood accident... who just emanated love and care... His glowing presence was probably the tipping point in my decision to work at a place that (prior to coming across him) was a negative experience. He is very happily married with children, BTW.

 

It is only on LS (and maybe a handful of other places) where people put their genitals above just about everything else.

 

I don't know what to tell you about the honesty part. I have to believe that deep down he knows and is also 'settling'. People do this. People settle on all kinds of things. One just never knows.

[kaylan]

^ No OP. People who think like me end up old and with someone they truly enjoy. They dont end up in unhappy unfulfilling relationships like yours. Sit in denial all youd like though. Youll see we were right one day.

 

Im not wasting my time or someone elses by settling. I wont hurt them or myself by doing so. You have a defeatist and selfish attitude and obviously dont think you can do better. But what about your guy? Dont you think hed wanna be with a woman who doesnt lie to him? Dont you think he wants a woman whos happy with him in every way and doesnt fake any of their relationship?

 

And Id rather be old, alone romantically, but surrounded by great friends...then to be old and shackled in marriage to someone who doesnt make me COMPLETELY happy.

 

PS - Finding a good man whos time you enjoy is not like finding gold. Wow...I know plenty of good guys who are beginning to settle down or have settled down already. Maybe instead of assuming their arent good guys out there, you two girls need to figure out why other women are attracting this "gold" yet you arent.

 

What you two keep missing is this: Sex doesnt come before anything else. Sex is an equally important part of a relationship...just like emotional and mental connection is. The phsyical part is equally important. If you had any of these things lacking in a relationship, Id tell you to reevaluate things...its a shame you cant see thats the issue. Your relationship isnt a complete one...its not just about sex

Edited June 30, 2012 by kaylan

[ThaWholigan]

I guess it depends on how happy one is with the idea of settling. I'm personally not for the idea, and would rather be alone if that's the case. If you are comfortable with it then that's fine. Just as long as you don't change your mind later.......

[kaylan]

If your muscles are strong from kegals, you can mimic those contractions. This is TMI, but I just tried it. It's not difficult to get the timing & rhythm right.

Lol....riiiight. Next youre going to tell us chick can fake the extra fluid that comes when they orgasm. Id like to see a girl fake that xD. At the end of the day, the fakers are losing out, because Im getting mine and plenty of other women out there are too.

 

Props to the non fakers who communicate with their lovers. I know I hate how some chicks think a guy is supposed to know what they like without showing him. Everyones different.

[RedRobin]

No OP. People who think like me end up old and with someone they truly enjoy. They dont end up in unhappy unfulfilling relationships like yours. Sit in denial all youd like though. Youll see we were right one day.

 

Spoken like a 25 year old.

 

Me and my ex-H had great sex.

 

He was an a**hole and a liar. No, Kaylan. I'll take a guy who I have mediocre sex with who has a heart of gold. Anyday.

 

Since so few of you men feel the need to develop your character or learn how to be interesting people... you'd rather spend your days in the gym so you can f*ck your little brains out and call it 'love'...

 

Uh huh. Pop in when you are 50 (or earlier for some) and that noodle starts to go soft. THEN talk to me, little one.

 

And Id rather be old, alone romantically, but surrounded by great friends...then to be old and shackled in marriage to someone who doesnt make me COMPLETELY happy.

 

Be careful what you wish for.

 

PS - Finding a good man whos time you enjoy is not like finding gold. Wow...I know plenty of good guys who are beginning to settle down or have settled down already. Maybe instead of assuming their arent good guys out there, you two girls need to figure out why other women are attracting this "gold" yet you arent.

 

According to LS, it is because I'm over 30. So much for men's 'character'.

 

What you two keep missing is this: Sex doesnt come before anything else. Sex is an equally important part of a relationship...just like emotional and mental connection is. The phsyical part is equally important. If you had any of these things lacking in a relationship, Id tell you to reevaluate things...its a shame you cant see thats the issue. Your relationship isnt a complete one...its not just about sex

 

Ah, no. Having an orgasm isn't 'sex'.

 

I know in your little testosterone infused 25 year old brain, you think it is...

 

but it isn't.

[Desinova]

I am getting my popcorn ready, dis gon b gud.

[ThaWholigan]

I'll take a guy who I have mediocre sex with who has a heart of gold. Anyday.

 

Like I say, as long as you're happy with that . You're a better person than I.....

 

Since so few of you men feel the need to develop your character or learn how to be interesting people... you'd rather spend your days in the gym so you can f*ck your little brains out and call it 'love'...

 

^Unfair IMO. I don't believe you know enough of us to assume it's "so few".

 

Uh huh. Pop in when you are 50 (or earlier for some) and that noodle starts to go soft. THEN talk to me, little one.

 

My noodle will still be strong by then :bunny:

[RedRobin]

Like I say, as long as you're happy with that . You're a better person than I.....

 

I haven't had any problems finding men I have good sex with. Finding ones who have good hearts is a bigger problem.

 

If forced to choose, yes. I know which one I'd pick.

 

Unfair IMO. I don't believe you know enough of us to assume it's "so few".

 

If you are following your d*ck, you (as in universal 'you', not you in particular) are automatically on the wrong path.

 

My noodle will still be strong by then :bunny:

 

If you exercise regularly and don't smoke, then yes, you have a good chance of keeping your noodle strong. No worries.

[kaylan]

 

Spoken like a 25 year old.

 

Me and my ex-H had great sex.

 

He was an a**hole and a liar. No, Kaylan. I'll take a guy who I have mediocre sex with who has a heart of gold. Anyday.

This is so stupid. Why are you acting like you can only find good sex or good personality in a mate? Everyone isnt one or the other. Plenty of people have found both things in a person. Jeez.

Since so few of you men feel the need to develop your character or learn how to be interesting people... you'd rather spend your days in the gym so you can f*ck your little brains out and call it 'love'...

Its not my fault you havent found any guys with decent character to date. Like I said, they are out there. And I am friends with these guys and many of them have girlfriends. Why can YOU find them?

 

Uh huh. Pop in when you are 50 (or earlier for some) and that noodle starts to go soft. THEN talk to me, little one.

Someones bitter because shes older and hasnt found anyone yet, so she tells people they will end up like her and have to settle. Sorry, everyone life isnt like yours. Though I do sympathize for you =P

Be careful what you wish for.

Careful? Why...Id love to be happy and grow old with my friends. It beats the heck out of growing old with some women Im not happy with.

According to LS, it is because I'm over 30. So much for men's 'character'.

Thats according to the bitter guys on LS. Plenty of guys, such as myself, have told women like you that we see good guys out there. Hell, some of the women have been saying it too. Whos the common denominator in your love life?

 

Ah, no. Having an orgasm isn't 'sex'.

 

I know in your little testosterone infused 25 year old brain, you think it is...

 

but it isn't.

Can you read? I never said an orgasm equated sex. Learn to read and lose the bitter old hag attitude. Dont be upset with me.

 

An orgasm is a part of sex...and almost anyone would love their sexual activities to always end with a good one. OP doesnt need to have orgasms to have good sex...I never said that.

 

My point was that the sex part of her relationship stick, with or without orgasms. She isnt attracted to her guy AT ALL...and actually finds him physically repelling from the way she describes him. What kind of life is that to live. If I was missing the physical, or emotional, or mental click with a girl, she wouldnt be my long term partner.

 

My point was that OP has no sexual chemistry whatsoever with her guy and thats why she should bail. If she was having good sex, was attracted to him, but didnt have orgasms, then Id give her some tips and tell her to still enjoy herself. The problem is she doesnt seem to enjoy herself at all.

 

So again...I never said orgasms = sex. Stop being a bitter loser who puts words in my mouth.

[Ninjainpajamas]

I think the problem for men is sex is generally about the big O, not the other components that a woman feels that makes it an enjoyable and pleasurable experience for her.

 

As far as faking orgasms, I think both sides can lie about sexual pleasure and fake orgasms, especially if the others persons feelings will be hurt or it's a sign that a woman would wants the sex to finish.

 

Men egos are pretty vulnerable because they all want to believe they are giving maximum pleasure and know exactly what they are doing...regardless of the whether the woman is telling them what they're doing is wrong ,And It's an important part of sex for men, so men have a hard time believing why it's not the beginning and end for women.

 

Women feel obligated to portraying a satisfied woman but they also don't often communicate with men out of fear of hurting their feelings and emotions. And a lot of women don't know how to explain or break this down to a man, If you're a man that knows how to please her then you've probably figured her out better than she could explain it.

 

Intimacy is a complex beast and includes a big psychological, emotional component which I think men fail to properly combine...for them it's always a complete physical interaction or at least for the most part...that might work or do well when you've just met a person and she's already horny over you and into you but as the real relationship starts to develop a lot of those missing proponents will start to be a big deal. That's why the honeymoon phase won't last forever If you're just relying on this initial peak interest and attraction chemical injections in your brain to hold together the relationship. Especially as the trust, bond, and companionship, support is properly tested and revealed.

[RedRobin]

This is so stupid.

 

You are right. It is stupid arguing with someone who has no real experience in life and wouldn't have the first clue of what really matters.

 

It beats the heck out of growing old with some women Im not happy with.

 

The OP is happy with her BF. She doesn't care if he gives her orgasms.

 

OP doesnt need to have orgasms to have good sex...I never said that.

 

Good, we agree.

 

If I was missing the physical, or emotional, or mental click with a girl, she wouldnt be my long term partner.

 

Your choice. GIG your way through life.

[Quiet Storm]

Lol....riiiight. Next youre going to tell us chick can fake the extra fluid that comes when they orgasm. Id like to see a girl fake that xD. At the end of the day, the fakers are losing out, because Im getting mine and plenty of other women out there are too.

 

Props to the non fakers who communicate with their lovers. I know I hate how some chicks think a guy is supposed to know what they like without showing him. Everyones different.

 

 

I don't fake with my husband ever. I agree that fakers lose out.

 

But that doesn't change fact that I can contract my kegals to mimic what happens when I really come. I squirt a lot during sex, both before and during orgasm. It is very possible to squirt without orgasm. TMI again, but all you have to do is push out with your kegals when it's hitting the g-spot and you get that "I have to pee" feeling. Squirting & lubrication are not always simutaneous with orgasm. If you watch squirting porn, do you really think they are cumming the whole time? Google: Skene's gland.

 

These women aren't saying they aren't turned on. They have no problem getting wet and aroused, they just can't orgasm.

[Els]

Err, just to be clear, I am not insisting that the only solution to this issue is for her to leave him. I would be the last person to advocate leaving due to lack of orgasm on one party's behalf if that person herself is fine with it.

 

What I AM saying is that Rs should be founded on honesty, and there is no problem with her not orgasming if she's happy with it AND isn't making up a lie all the damn time.

[kaylan]

You are right. It is stupid arguing with someone who has no real experience in life and wouldn't have the first clue of what really matters.

Actually its stupid of you to assume everyone life is or will be like yours. You do know there are posters on this forum who have a partner they click with on all 3 of the levels I mentioned right? They get a good personality and good sex. So its very real.

 

You jelly?

The OP is happy with her BF. She doesn't care if he gives her orgasms.

If she was really happy, she wouldnt be in this thread talking to us about her sex life or lack thereof. She knows she isnt truly happy and that something is lacking.

Good, we agree.

We should have never went through that exchange. Next time refrain from putting words in my mouth.

Your choice. GIG your way through life.

Im sorry. Im not a proponent of settling and being in an unfulfilled relationship such as yourself.

 

Since your in such good support of settling, wheres your husband? Oh yeah...thats right....

I don't fake with my husband ever. I agree that fakers lose out.

 

But that doesn't change fact that I can contract my kegals to mimic what happens when I really come. I squirt a lot during sex, both before and during orgasm. It is very possible to squirt without orgasm. TMI again, but all you have to do is push out with your kegals when it's hitting the g-spot and you get that "I have to pee" feeling. Squirting & lubrication are not always simutaneous with orgasm. If you watch squirting porn, do you really think they are cumming the whole time? Google: Skene's gland.

 

These women aren't saying they aren't turned on. They have no problem getting wet and aroused, they just can't orgasm.

oh em gee. So much TMI....lolz I love it. And wow...do women think men are stupid? We all know squirting porn is fake and most of us hate it.

 

I do find it funny how women always seem the need to be able to hold claim to this faking thing though. God forbid a guy say a certain aspect isnt easily mimicked before a chick runs in saying it can be done with good skill and patience. Why would you want to be good at something unfulfilling?

 

For the most part, most women arent going to put all this thought into faking, nor are many going to be good enough to truly mimic their legitimate orgasms. To be real, Id think the person on the other end would be able to more accurately record your reactions than the orgasmer could.

 

Think about it...while you are having a true orgasm...are you really able to concentrate and focus enough on your response in a way that allows you to know exactly every which way your body reacts? Every single contraction, every single limb movement, your skin tone, your fluid amounts. In a true orgasm...how is one about to record that?

 

My ex could tell me more about how I react to orgasm than I could. Why? Because Im too incapacitated and enjoying my orgasm too much to focus on all that stuff lol

Edited June 30, 2012 by kaylan