JHparkes Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 (edited) Hello I have been seeing this guy who I work with since about four weeks. for one of those weeks he was on holiday and sent messages constantly throughout the day whilst away. He also confessed to me that he was caught between looking forward to his holiday and not wanting to go because all he could think about is getting home to see me. He wanted to come over as soon as his flight landed back in the UK but I said to leave it till the next day. On the sunday he came over and we spent all day sunday together and overnight and then monday evening. As I work with him he was in my office (i work on my own) three times during Tuesday and sending messages. When I got home, I got a phone call off him. I then said I had to go for a shower and he sent a message asking to come over to see me, which I declined as I felt tired from the weekend. An hour or so later I received another call from him about some other random matter to do with work (some gossip) Last night he had his son so not able to come over but was sending messages all evening and today has been in the office literally about five times and asked me to go to the canteen with him at lunch. He is also coming over to see me tonight after work. He has said to me that he really likes me and is pleased that we finally got together as we have been eyeing each other up since February. He also relishes in people at work finding out about us and loved it when someone said they had spotted my car outside of his. But.....I'm wondering if this keeness suggests that he has deeper issues or am I being too cynical? Edited June 28, 2012 by JHparkes
Philosoraptor Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I think you're just being cynical. Sounds like he's head over heels for you and not afraid to express it. 2
Jaina19 Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 (edited) Hmm... that sort of behaviour would worry me too. He does seem overly keen. My ex was like that, wanted to be around all the time, sent texts every half hour. It can get exhausting and suffocating. Your guy sounds like he's very insecure, or is not sure of the relationship that he feels he has to always be around and keep tabs on you via messages. Have you talked to him about it? I think that would be the best thing to do. He may just be head over heels for you, and in that case having a talk with him should sort it. But if you're finding the amount of messages he sends bothers you then it's a problem you need to address as early as possible. Edited June 28, 2012 by Jaina19
Philosoraptor Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Hmm... that sort of behaviour would worry me too. He does seem overly keen. My ex was like that, wanted to be around all the time, sent texts every half hour. It can get exhausting and suffocating. Your guy sounds like he's very insecure, or is not sure of the relationship that he feels he has to always be around and keep tabs on you via messages. Have you talked to him about it? I think that would be the best thing to do. He may just be head over heels for you, and in that case having a talk with him should sort it. But if you're finding the amount of messages he sends bothers you then it's a problem you need to address as early as possible. I can't disagree. If it makes you uncomfortable then be open and let him know what you're feeling and what you preferred communication would be. 1
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