threebyfate Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 Has this ever happened to you? Specifically, being physically attracted to someone (wanting to have sex with them) despite not liking their personality. How did you deal with it? No, it hasn't happened to me. If I don't like them as people, my loins get girded much like an Ironman mechanical suit. 1
EasyHeart Posted June 30, 2012 Posted June 30, 2012 I don't think I want to hold out much longer with regard to the sex. Things came to a head last night and I'm pretty sure next time we're together it's going to happen. There was a storm last night and he got caught in the rain; when he was here I noticed he had a small plastic bag with a pharmacy label on it. I thought he'd been presumptuous and bought condoms, so was kind of annoyed...until I saw there were none. He'd just used it to protect his phone and wallet. He reiterated to me that while he's really attracted to me, he doesn't just want to get me naked--and so far he's consistently backed up those words with actions. I think maybe I was off in my estimation of this guy.With all this buildup and anticipation, I almost feel sorry for this poor guy once TigressA gets him nekkid. BE GENTLE, TIGRESSA!!! Don't break the poor kid. 1
Author tigressA Posted June 30, 2012 Author Posted June 30, 2012 With all this buildup and anticipation, I almost feel sorry for this poor guy once TigressA gets him nekkid. BE GENTLE, TIGRESSA!!! Don't break the poor kid. I think you need to worry about him breaking me! He bites me all over, pins me down and pulls my hair; I find a new mark on my body just about every day, it seems. Once he gets started it's hard for him to stop. () He's a Leo, so it's fire with fire. 2
Author tigressA Posted July 2, 2012 Author Posted July 2, 2012 Well, I changed my mind. I've decided to keep my options open and still date others--and I'm still not going to have sex with this guy. I realized that I am accepting his word that he isn't interested in being intimate/going on dates with other women, while he is still active on the dating site. I shouldn't be settling for that sort of inconsistency. So I refuse to do so. Until he makes clear that he's taking his profile down (and follows through), he's an option. I accepted a date offer earlier from someone else on the site.
RedRobin Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 No, it hasn't happened to me. If I don't like them as people, my loins get girded much like an Ironman mechanical suit. Yep, this point was emphasized to me just yesterday... I'm hanging out in this little trendy town, not far from where I live... and who strolls by? an old 'flame'... a very handsome, tall, well-built, yoga-doing, artistic, outdoorsy, world-traveled, with an amazing and sexy British accent... 'flame'. I invited him to join me. We got caught up on things. Oh, I enjoyed basking in all that wonderful... 'oomph'... but I'll never forget his angry rages. These were things he displayed within the first couple of weeks (lucky for me)... also solidified my commitment to really get to know a guy and trust my instincts before sleeping with a man. Charming yes, a-hole, definately. So after we visited for awhile, I bid him politely adieu and got back to work...
Els Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 Hrmmm... nope, never happened to me. I mean, I can acknowledge that someone is objectively good-looking even if I dislike them, but that doesn't mean I'm attracted to them. Attraction goes way beyond physical appearance, for me. Pah, such is the fickle nature of dating potentials. Like buses. None come, then as soon as one comes, all 5 of them come flying round the corner . I know, right??? This is a gripe I've had all along. No effing idea why stuff works that way. I had a crush on two guys who were uninterested in me all the way up til I had my first bf. Several years later, they come out of the woodwork to confess that they're interested in me - one while drunk, one while heartbroken. Cheesus crust.
todreaminblue Posted July 2, 2012 Posted July 2, 2012 (edited) Has this ever happened to you? Specifically, being physically attracted to someone (wanting to have sex with them) despite not liking their personality. How did you deal with it? I'm in this situation right now and it's an interesting, new dynamic. I'm still deciding on what to do with it. Discuss. sounds like mechanics...i couldnt have sex with someone i didnt like personality wise.....but i have issues....i actually thought it was a guy who wrote this and had to edit my post..... a guy probably wouldnt mind if you didnt like his personality .....and you could just have wild sex......good luck.....deb Edited July 2, 2012 by todreaminblue because i had to
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