tigressA Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Has this ever happened to you? Specifically, being physically attracted to someone (wanting to have sex with them) despite not liking their personality. How did you deal with it? I'm in this situation right now and it's an interesting, new dynamic. I'm still deciding on what to do with it. Discuss.
Arabella Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Yeah, I've been there before. I hated his guts but we were attracted to each other so bad it hurt. Sex was positively mind-blowing and years later, I can still say that was probably the most passion I've ever felt for anyone. We tried dating, but the whole thing was a terrible mistake and ended very, very badly. If you want my advice... get him out of your system by having sex with him, and then move on. That's what I should've done. -A 2
sally4sara Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I'd say don't bother. You could have sex with damn near anyone so why have it with someone you can't stand being around other than to look at? 4
jobaba Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Hello. I'm a man... I've walked into a room and wanted to have sex with every woman in the room more times than I can count. I have never LUSTED after a person who has a sh@tty personality if that's what you mean though. Just too much of a turnoff. I might want to have sex with them, but it won't be a strong pull at all.
Emilia Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I'm blessed with the ability to turn off sexual interest when I start disliking someone. For that I'm eternally grateful 2
ThaWholigan Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Welcome to a man's world j/k I've met girls who were extremely rude, sometimes to me, and on a primal level I would still have sex with them . 1
Emilia Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Welcome to a man's world j/k I've met girls who were extremely rude, sometimes to me, and on a primal level I would still have sex with them . Is that because you want to teach her a lesson? If I was a man and did the penetrating I would probably feel this way too. On the other side of the coin though, I won't let someone I dislike penetrate ME (not with my consent anyway). That's the difference I think 2
Algermas Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 It has never happened to me as im not a female, hence I have no bad boy phase.
ThaWholigan Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Is that because you want to teach her a lesson? If I was a man and did the penetrating I would probably feel this way too. On the other side of the coin though, I won't let someone I dislike penetrate ME (not with my consent anyway). That's the difference I think I don't know, I never thought about it like that, I'm just a horny guy .... My mum says that about rude women though - "What they need is a man to give them a good f*ck so they can hold their corner" . Sometimes they're just sexy and rude. As much as I meet a lot of very nice beautiful girls, they're some sexy "bitches" out there .
stillafool Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 It has never happened to me as im not a female, hence I have no bad boy phase. What about a "bad girl" phase? Some guys get that ya know. 3
AD1980 Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Theyres enough good looking people who are also decent human beings i see no reason to fixate on someone whos an ahole because they are decent looking If someones rude or just plain bad it turns me off..hell i dont even know Kim Kardashian but her vapid personality has turned me off to her after crushing..
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Is this the guy from your other thread? I thought you liked him??? What happened?
veggirl Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Yes, once. The sex was awesome, but in the end it wasn't worth it and I wish I hadn't wasted my time. I would caution you against this. If you have sex with him and get attached because of that, you will be in for a world of hurt.
Mme. Chaucer Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 My opinion of the situation: I think it might be pretty common, but if you really actively dislike a person, I don't think you are doing right by yourself to share something as intimate as sex. You both are human beings, after all - not just bodies. I'm not trying to make a big deal out of what would be casual sex, but "dislike" really doesn't seem to have a good place in that context. 3
PJKino Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 (edited) Life would be so much better if i was so good looking that women would want to have sex with me even if they didnt like me,problem is women like me and they still dont want to have sex with me:laugh: Thats why i dont buy this women are attracted more by emotions crap,theyre just as visual and think with their hormones as much if not more then Men its just taboo for them to admit it or act on it at times Edited June 28, 2012 by PJKino 1
ThaWholigan Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 My opinion of the situation: I think it might be pretty common, but if you really actively dislike a person, I don't think you are doing right by yourself to share something as intimate as sex. You both are human beings, after all - not just bodies. I'm not trying to make a big deal out of what would be casual sex, but "dislike" really doesn't seem to have a good place in that context. I'm more interested to know how this dislike came about! I read the other thread and things were great, then it was possible FWB, now it's dislike!!
Pierre Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Has this ever happened to you? Specifically, being physically attracted to someone (wanting to have sex with them) despite not liking their personality. How did you deal with it? I'm in this situation right now and it's an interesting, new dynamic. I'm still deciding on what to do with it. Discuss. You are thinking like a man. All of us loved to f**** some women that were not particularly attractive.:laugh:
SteveC80 Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 You are thinking like a man. : That's a myth,now that its not as taboo and womens sexuality is more free by the day you see that women think just like men when it comes to this stuff,the idea that women need some deep connection and arent turned on by just good looks is bs there hormones rage just like Mens. Its always been that way they just coludnt act on it,throghout history look at how women act when some good looking dude comes on the screen or that they see in concert they lose their godamn minds its even more intense and creepy then dudes reactions to hot females When i was in my physical peak in my 20's it was like shootign fish in a barrel even if i acted like a douche and totally indifferent some women didnt care 1
FitChick Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Has this ever happened to you? Specifically, being physically attracted to someone (wanting to have sex with them) despite not liking their personality. How did you deal with it? I avoided him because I knew nothing good would result.
seachangeoflove Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Has this ever happened to you? Specifically, being physically attracted to someone (wanting to have sex with them) despite not liking their personality. How did you deal with it? I'm in this situation right now and it's an interesting, new dynamic. I'm still deciding on what to do with it. Discuss. yes, I sleep with them. Sometimes, more then once. Eventually they do or say something to piss me off/annoy me enough that I stop being attracted to them. Then, I stop sleeping with them, problem solved. it seems to work pretty well for me. 1
seachangeoflove Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 (edited) Life would be so much better if i was so good looking that women would want to have sex with me even if they didnt like me,problem is women like me and they still dont want to have sex with me:laugh: Thats why i dont buy this women are attracted more by emotions crap,theyre just as visual and think with their hormones as much if not more then Men its just taboo for them to admit it or act on it at times you know, this is where you are wrong. The men that I've disliked but been attracted to, it had nothing to do with their looks. Often times my female friends are like "What? EW? no way? That guy is SO not hot. you want to do WHAT with him?" it's almost the dislike that is the attraction...I am thinking of one particular man in that I was attracted to. It was all chemistry and not looks, we were ran in the same social circle and so that is how we met. and every time Id see him at social events Id think "ohhh he just rubbs me the wrong way" and we would often get into heated discussions, vehemently arguing our viewpoint to each other. I just can't explain, that whole oppesites attract thing I guess.. And he had such passion and did not hold back saying how he felt. one night after drinking and 'fighting' we closed out a party and well... yeah. Edited June 28, 2012 by seachangeoflove
Woggle Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 One time I was so we became FWBs and it ended up with me almost having to get a restraining order against her. She was so damn annoying in the end it didn't matter how hot she was. I just wanted to get her the hell away from me.
zengirl Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Yes, actually. However, I was already dating him at the time. I would say I actively disliked my college boyfriend, despite being attracted to him. The active dislike was the whole reason I was able to date him, as I was wildly screwed up at the time (still mourning my HS sweetheart who passed away the year before). None of it went or ended well or did much for me, but that wasn't casual sex, really. I feel ill-equipped to really advise on casual sex, but I would think you could do far better than someone you actually dislike, unless you have some reason for not wanting to like the guy you knock boots with, like I did back when. Even if it's still casual, at least someone you think is fun or something.
stillafool Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 That's a myth,now that its not as taboo and womens sexuality is more free by the day you see that women think just like men when it comes to this stuff,the idea that women need some deep connection and arent turned on by just good looks is bs there hormones rage just like Mens. Its always been that way they just coludnt act on it,throghout history look at how women act when some good looking dude comes on the screen or that they see in concert they lose their godamn minds its even more intense and creepy then dudes reactions to hot females When i was in my physical peak in my 20's it was like shootign fish in a barrel even if i acted like a douche and totally indifferent some women didnt care :laugh:This is so true. Even little girls crying at the sight of Justin Beiber. They are crying because they want him so bad. You never see men cry over the sight of a female they don't know. But women will cry and faint over some man who they've never met or know on a personal level. I'm a woman but I've always thought that behavior odd and a little bit sick.
yongyong Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 If I say that as a guy 'I don't like her personality but I just want to have sex with her' all women are going to say how selfish I am blah blah, you know all B.S If you are women, we guys don't care as long as you give good service on the bed.
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