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i dont really know if this is a good idea or not? but i have been thinking about talking to her mum or brother if there is one thing that i could have made more effort in it would have been getting to know her family better but because of my anxiety i find it hard to be in certain situations and didnt feel to comfortable siting talking to her mum and dad so i tried to avoid doing it all the time but did try and make the effort to do so i even went on holiday for 2weeks with her family and her and for me that was hard. i think i just want her mum to know how much i care for her daughter. i did send her mum a msg on fb about a month ago just saying thanks for takeing me on the family holiday and that i was sorry for not makeing enough effort to get to know everyone and i hope they dont think im a bad person for that. she got back to me and said that no1 thinks im a bad person and things just dont work out sometimes and she wished me the best for the future. but i never said anything back to that. i dont know if it would do any good trying to talk to her mum more or if it would just be stupid to do so???

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Don't do it. It will probably upset your ex.

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Do it if you're prepared for the consequences. If you guys reconcile then you are at least on better footing for her parents.

I talked my ex's mom right after we broke up. My ex got really pissed at me, but now we are on good terms and if we reconcile than I know her mom will be friendly to me. Her mom even hugged and kissed my cheek when I helped move my ex out. So who knows, just be prepared if your ex gets mad it will put you a few steps back in reconciling.

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Do it if you're prepared for the consequences. If you guys reconcile then you are at least on better footing for her parents.

I talked my ex's mom right after we broke up. My ex got really pissed at me, but now we are on good terms and if we reconcile than I know her mom will be friendly to me. Her mom even hugged and kissed my cheek when I helped move my ex out. So who knows, just be prepared if your ex gets mad it will put you a few steps back in reconciling.

 

 

thanks for the advice. my ex knows that i sent her mum that msg a month ago her mum must have told her and she text me saying that was nice of me to say thanks to her mum for the holiday and for accepting me in2 the family. but she did say i havent to try and use her family to change her mind about me and her so im not sure what to do.

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anyone else got any advice on this? i would like to know what other people think if its a good idea or not?

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I still keep in regular contact with my ex's mum, i speak to her more than him! But it's not something i would advise personally, every time I see or speak to her it reminds me of him and sets me back a few paces, so tread really carefully here. You don't need to bring her family into it if you can help it, and you need to think of possible ulterior motives on your part here. You need to ask yourself what are you actually going to gain here except more hurt on your half, trust me when i say you don't really want to know what she's doing when it might hurt you. Focus on your healing for now, you are the important one here. take care

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thanks for the advice. my ex knows that i sent her mum that msg a month ago her mum must have told her and she text me saying that was nice of me to say thanks to her mum for the holiday and for accepting me in2 the family. but she did say i havent to try and use her family to change her mind about me and her so im not sure what to do.

 

Here is your answer, don't do it!

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i dont really know if this is a good idea or not? but i have been thinking about talking to her mum or brother if there is one thing that i could have made more effort in it would have been getting to know her family better but because of my anxiety i find it hard to be in certain situations and didnt feel to comfortable siting talking to her mum and dad so i tried to avoid doing it all the time but did try and make the effort to do so i even went on holiday for 2weeks with her family and her and for me that was hard. i think i just want her mum to know how much i care for her daughter. i did send her mum a msg on fb about a month ago just saying thanks for takeing me on the family holiday and that i was sorry for not makeing enough effort to get to know everyone and i hope they dont think im a bad person for that. she got back to me and said that no1 thinks im a bad person and things just dont work out sometimes and she wished me the best for the future. but i never said anything back to that. i dont know if it would do any good trying to talk to her mum more or if it would just be stupid to do so???

 

Don't do it. Especially because you weren't close to begin with.

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Ok so what if i dont speak to her mum but speak to her brother instead we both got on well and i new him before i new my ex his sister it was because of him that i met her.

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