jakelongot Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Dating would be a lot easier if we had letters inscribed on our forehead. "S" for single and "T" for taken. Obviously this isn't the case, so what is the best way to tell if a girl is single before you go over and talk to her?
Dire Wolf Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 No ring, no male company and a gentle smile in your general direction can't hurt. Still may not be single though...I too wish it were more cut & dry.
HopelessinDTW Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Yea, there is no sure way...sorry. The ring of course. But even if they look at you, or even flirt with you it doesn't mean anything. My advice is if your interested, then bust a move. Worst that could happen is she says no I have a boyfriend/married etc. 1
yongyong Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 It doesn't matter. just approach unless she has a big shiny diamond on her finger. A lot of girls are willing to sleep with you if you are cool. It doesn't mean anything if she has a guy.
MaxNoob Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 It doesn't matter. just approach unless she has a big shiny diamond on her finger. A lot of girls are willing to sleep with you if you are cool. It doesn't mean anything if she has a guy. Yeah, but I'd rather not waste 2 hours flirting with her, and then finding out she has a boyfriend and was just using me for validation / ego boost. I could've spent that time hitting on a single girl instead. Signs of availability: - dressed well, or dressed better than others. Yes, some girls always try to look nice, but on average, someone who's available will be putting more effort into their appearance. -slowly scanning the room; she's looking for someone new -preening; playing with her hair, smoothing out her clothes. -curvy posture; putting more weight on one foot -pulling shoulders back to expose the chest, raising the head to expose the neck
FitChick Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Signs of availability: - dressed well, or dressed better than others. Her husband/boyfriend is rich -slowly scanning the room; she's looking for someone new Trying to find her husband/boyfriend in the crowd -preening; playing with her hair, smoothing out her clothes. She just arrived in her husband/boyfriend's Porsche convertible -curvy posture; putting more weight on one foot Her shoes are killing her feet! -pulling shoulders back to expose the chest, raising the head to expose the neck She's just come from the chiropractor, who straightened her spine Maybe, maybe not... 1
pteromom Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 The ring is your only real indicator. Anything else largely depends on personality. Some married girls put a lot of effort into their looks and love to flirt. And some single girls don't wear makeup and dress for comfort rather than style, and are more introverted and won't make direct eye contact with you, etc. So rather than waste 2 hours on a girl, have the question of her relationship status come up in the first 15 minutes or so, so you don't waste your time. 1
MaxNoob Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Her husband/boyfriend is richClothing has become a lot cheaper in the last decade. Almost anyone can put effort into looking nice, which they're more likely to do if they're single. Trying to find her husband/boyfriend in the crowdSomeone who's looking for a boyfriend will be quickly scanning the room; they know what they're looking for. Slow scanning means they're checking people out. She just arrived in her husband/boyfriend's Porsche convertibleMaybe, but preening while looking at me is unusual and a sign of availability. Her shoes are killing her feet!Well you'd see that in her face. She's just come from the chiropractor, who straightened her spineA chiropractor can't straighten a spine; it's impossible to do that with your hands. Anyway, it's not one sign that can give it away, but a number of signs that make it more likely. So rather than waste 2 hours on a girl, have the question of her relationship status come up in the first 15 minutes or so, so you don't waste your time. But this is a complete stranger; if I ask that right away it could backfire. If I'm obviously flirting with her and she's aware of it, she could've told me.
justrandomchicks1 Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 The ring is your only real indicator. Anything else largely depends on personality. Some married girls put a lot of effort into their looks and love to flirt. And some single girls don't wear makeup and dress for comfort rather than style, and are more introverted and won't make direct eye contact with you, etc. So rather than waste 2 hours on a girl, have the question of her relationship status come up in the first 15 minutes or so, so you don't waste your time. wow I'm like both of those examples put together ha... I dress and care about my looks but then not into eyecontact and am more introverted...
MaxNoob Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 wow I'm like both of those examples put together ha... I dress and care about my looks but then not into eyecontact and am more introverted... Well that's doing something at least. And some single girls don't wear makeup and dress for comfort rather than style, and are more introverted and won't make direct eye contact with you, etc. If a girl is not giving out any buying signals whatsoever, then chances are she is not interested and doesn't want to be disturbed. Think of the advice given to the singles on this board: "Dress nice, go to the gym, fix your hair, smile!" "Yes, I'm doing all that, I'm trying!" If a girl wants a relationship, but is not giving out any hints at all, then guys won't approach her, and it's up to her to change. Consider that when a guy approaches, 90% of the time it's because the girl gave out buying signals first. The fact that some girls give out misleading signals does not mean it's useless to even look for these things. The signals given out before you approach is very much a part of the flirting process.
2.50 a gallon Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I always assumed that if she was good looking enough to catch my eye, she had a boyfriend.
fucpcg Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 If she's a super hot blond with a killer body, sultry voice, dressed to kill, pulls up in a minivan, and offers to nail you in the back of it within a few minutes of talking, yes she's single. I know cause that's my ex NO she didn't always use to be this way, that's not the woman I fell in love with:(
mortensorchid Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I guess the only clincher is if she has a ring on her finger. Otherwise there is no way of knowing unless they tell you yes or no directly. I'd never thought about this question before.
Thieves Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 The only surefire way to tell if a woman is single is to either... 1. Talk to her. 2. Ask. So, basically, unless she's wearing one of these articles of clothing: This This And yes, this... Then, you're SOL. 1
monkey00 Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I think these days, women that flirt for fun/show off flirtatious body language is easier to tell that she's taken than women that don't. Women who are taken are usually the biggest flirts around - we call them attention wh*res. Single women though..that's a tough jiffy. I would say a woman who is shy/nervous around you is more likely to be into you than a woman who's too confident around you. I would say this might be a good sign at a distance but not set in stone: checks you out constantly, you catch her looking and she quickly darts away. OR if she's the confident type, both make eye contact, both smile each other (and guy's turn to approach and break the ice) All other indicators of interest will have to wait until you're in her presence.
Ninjainpajamas Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Sharp limp and a glass eye!...yarrrr who would be datin her. 1
writergal Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Plenty of married women don't wear their wedding rings, so you can't rely on looking for a wedding ring to see if a woman is single. You just have to go with your gut, ask them questions and hope they tell you the truth. There are no specific indicators you can rely on from afar. The only way you can tell is to go up and talk to the woman and ask her, "are you single?" and hope she tells you the truth.
Shaun-Dro Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Yeah, but I'd rather not waste 2 hours flirting with her, and then finding out she has a boyfriend and was just using me for validation / ego boost. I could've spent that time hitting on a single girl instead. Signs of availability: - dressed well, or dressed better than others. Yes, some girls always try to look nice, but on average, someone who's available will be putting more effort into their appearance. -slowly scanning the room; she's looking for someone new -preening; playing with her hair, smoothing out her clothes. -curvy posture; putting more weight on one foot -pulling shoulders back to expose the chest, raising the head to expose the neck Nonsense. Married women and women in relationships do this all the time. When will the majority of men ever realize that women are going to go on playing mind games with us since it keeps their boring lives interesting?
MaxNoob Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Nonsense. Married women and women in relationships do this all the time. When will the majority of men ever realize that women are going to go on playing mind games with us since it keeps their boring lives interesting? That's the reason I've been reading up on the subject; to see if I can understand all this BS that has misled me in the past. Some of the signs are done subconsciously and are harder to fake. For example, a girl won't be paying attention to the direction of her feet, but they could be pointed towards the one she's interested in. When she's smiling, look for crows feet around the eyes to see if it's a genuine smile. If she's really interested in you, her eyes might be a little watery and glistening, and she could be mirroring your posture.
Pasttense Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I'm surprised that no one has mentioned that if there are one or more kids around calling her mommy that it is less likely she is single.
MaxNoob Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I'm surprised that no one has mentioned that if there are one or more kids around calling her mommy that it is less likely she is single. That's a 25% chance of being single
PhillyDude Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 It doesn't matter. just approach unless she has a big shiny diamond on her finger. A lot of girls are willing to sleep with you if you are cool. It doesn't mean anything if she has a guy. So you are promoting that someone should approach a woman when she is with another guy? What the hell are you talking about?
pteromom Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 If a girl is not giving out any buying signals whatsoever, then chances are she is not interested and doesn't want to be disturbed. If a girl wants a relationship, but is not giving out any hints at all, then guys won't approach her, and it's up to her to change. Consider that when a guy approaches, 90% of the time it's because the girl gave out buying signals first. The fact that some girls give out misleading signals does not mean it's useless to even look for these things. The signals given out before you approach is very much a part of the flirting process. I understand what you are saying, but sending out signals is VERY difficult for some people. I disagree that if someone isn't giving signals it means they aren't interested. Different personality types have different responses to people they are attracted to. Some women may even actively AVOID contact with a guy she is attracted to, if she is very shy and introverted. 15 minutes is enough talking for the question of being single/taken to not be awkward. You can always do the old "Oh, I bet your boyfriend likes that" line, and if she is interested, she'll be all "Hee hee hee I don't have a boyfriend."
MaxNoob Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I understand what you are saying, but sending out signals is VERY difficult for some people. I disagree that if someone isn't giving signals it means they aren't interested. Different personality types have different responses to people they are attracted to. Some women may even actively AVOID contact with a guy she is attracted to, if she is very shy and introverted. Yes, when we rely too much on making judgments from a distance, the shy girl ends up with no dates at all. But she still might be giving out some subtle signals. The shyest girl I ever knew wouldn't look at or talk to anyone, and would stay in the corner of a room. Although she did put a tremendous amount of effort into her appearance and looked amazing. One day when I said something to her, she glided her hands down her waist to smooth out her shirt, and it really turned me on. What I didn't realize at the time is that when a girl raises her arms to preen herself in the presence of someone she finds attractive, she's actually releasing pheromones to build attraction. So, despite her shyness, there were some signals she was giving out. Going up to a girl and talking to her to gauge interest is a modern invention. Before we learned how to speak, we were relying on pheromones and other non verbal signals which can be picked up from a distance. We still have these capabilities. 15 minutes is enough talking for the question of being single/taken to not be awkward. You can always do the old "Oh, I bet your boyfriend likes that" line, and if she is interested, she'll be all "Hee hee hee I don't have a boyfriend." True, but that's still too long if it means the one single girl has left in the mean time. So it could have helped to make observations first, to try to spot who's single.
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