Feelsgoodman Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Good illustration. During sex, bonding hormones (oxytocin in women, vasopressin in men) is released. Each new sexual partner, the strength of the emotional bond is weakened. It does have consequences even for men. I'm sorry but you are talking out of your man-pussy right now. First time I had sex, I had absolutely no bond with the girl. In fact, that was my one and only time sleeping with her. Subsequently, I've had bonds that ranged from strong to non-existent and there has been no liner progression or regression...the results were all over the place. Men do not develop chemicals bond with women...at least not in a way the article you cited describes. That's just feminist propaganda. Men are genetically wired to try to impregnate as many women as possible. We only develop a bond for someone we really like (and I would argue it starts even before sex) and whom we really want to keep got ourselves (thereby preventing her from mating with other men).
TheFinalWord Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 (edited) I'm sorry but you are talking out of your man-pussy right now. Men do not develop chemicals bond with women...at least not in a way the article you cited describes. . Based on your consistent stream of negative posts and foul language, I wouldn't expect anything less! Edited June 28, 2012 by TheFinalWord 2
Shaun-Dro Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 It just seems these days that a friends with benefits arrangement is becoming more common than committed relationships. What's going on? This seems to be more the case with the younger generation. I was just with my sweetheart today, except that she doesn't want to be considered my girlfriend, and we made out like usual. She told me after we were done that we can hang out and keep doing this stuff, but nothing more.
DuchessKaye Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 It just seems these days that a friends with benefits arrangement is becoming more common than committed relationships. What's going on? Because there's the increasing of people who are just good enough to f-ck, but as for anything more, forget about it... 1
manup Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I will take "nothing" over compromising what I believe in But you've had this type of arrangement before haven't you.
manup Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I'm sorry but you are talking out of your man-pussy right now. First time I had sex, I had absolutely no bond with the girl. In fact, that was my one and only time sleeping with her. Subsequently, I've had bonds that ranged from strong to non-existent and there has been no liner progression or regression...the results were all over the place. Men do not develop chemicals bond with women...at least not in a way the article you cited describes. That's just feminist propaganda. Men are genetically wired to try to impregnate as many women as possible. We only develop a bond for someone we really like (and I would argue it starts even before sex) and whom we really want to keep got ourselves (thereby preventing her from mating with other men). He's right bozo, it's a simple FACT. it's called science mmkay
udolipixie Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 It just seems these days that a friends with benefits arrangement is becoming more common than committed relationships. What's going on? Likely less stigma about non relationship sex, convenience, less people are relationship material, and far far far less guys interested in committed relationships as it's no longer the main chance of sex or consistent sex. 1
oldshirt Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 My Teacher once said "Sex is like sellotape, the first time you use it, the bond to the material is as strong as possible. Every time you remove it and place it on something else, the bond gets weaker and a part of it remains with the previous material. Eventually, the tape won't be able to stick to anything." He was a wise man me thinks. That analogy is a warm romantic notion but it doesn't hold any water in the real world. If that were true then noone would ever fall in love with, marry and have a home and family with the 2nd or 3rd or 10th or 27th or 189th person they had sex with and it happens all the time. How many people end up with the first person they ever had sex with in modern times?? My guess is not too darn many. How many people have the stars line up and meet "the one" after being with several others prior? My guess is a lot. I don't think the "bonding tape" gets weaker but what I will agree is that some people click in bed and some people don't. The more people you go to bed with the more likely it is that eventually you will end up in the sack with someone that you really don't click with AT ALL. When that happens it might be easy to think that you are losing something special but when that right one comes along the fireworks go off just the same whether it's your first, your 10th or your 100th. And let's be real honest here, how many of your first times were really that enjoyable at all? Sex is like any other skill-set. the more you do it the better you become and more you learn about what works and what doesn't as well as what you like and what you don't.
calndn Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 I think it's become so prevalent because it's the only option for a lot of women. And it's the women's fault. Women started allowing this arrangement to happen and it's an ideal situation for a lot of men. Therefore women can't stand their ground anymore about wanting a commitment because the man can always find a girl that will go along with it. I like this....I think it's spot on! A lot of women won't say what they want and it ends up being a situation like this or a situation that feels much more thanh fwb but still has no commitment...
ThingsAreComplicated Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 That analogy is a warm romantic notion but it doesn't hold any water in the real world. If that were true then noone would ever fall in love with, marry and have a home and family with the 2nd or 3rd or 10th or 27th or 189th person they had sex with and it happens all the time. How many people end up with the first person they ever had sex with in modern times?? My guess is not too darn many. How many people have the stars line up and meet "the one" after being with several others prior? My guess is a lot. I don't think the "bonding tape" gets weaker but what I will agree is that some people click in bed and some people don't. The more people you go to bed with the more likely it is that eventually you will end up in the sack with someone that you really don't click with AT ALL. When that happens it might be easy to think that you are losing something special but when that right one comes along the fireworks go off just the same whether it's your first, your 10th or your 100th. And let's be real honest here, how many of your first times were really that enjoyable at all? Sex is like any other skill-set. the more you do it the better you become and more you learn about what works and what doesn't as well as what you like and what you don't. quote to repeat
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