criky Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Hey. I'm new here, do not often write on the forums, I usually am the reader. However, my life situation is complicated. My girlfriend and I've been dating for 7 months. This is my first GF, so I'm not good lover, unfortunately. I've got problems with ejaculation, my orgasm's really fast. What can I do?
stillafool Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 You might try masturbating before you see her. That may slow you down a bit.
Emilia Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 post in the sexual practices forum and go through the threads there
HopelessinDTW Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Are you overweight? If so, you may want to try working out more. It will help you last longer. But it could be that you just need to practice...and that will take some time.
billy35 Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 There're many different people and different bodies, I think. Maybe you should think it over and try to solve it together. Solution can be f.ex. some erotic toys
january2011 Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Here's a relevant thread posted a few hours ago in the sexual practices forum that Emilia mentioned: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/mind-body-soul/sexual-reproductive-health-practices/332980-i-cant-control-ejaculation I strongly advise you to follow the link that HeavenOrHell posted on orgasm control and look for natural methods to achieve the result that you want.
naomi23 Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I think you should talk with your girlfriend about this, because it’s 100% normal that at the beginning of your sexual life, you can have problem with long lasting. You need time, and i think that your “second-half” will understand that. You just need time and practice. Believe me;)
fuit Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 (edited) You need time, and i think that your “second-half” will understand that. You just need time and practice. Believe me;) I agree with that. Condoms do not inhibit you orgasm? I think that you should not worry about that because skills will increase. Edited June 29, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
billy35 Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I agree with fuit. practise will come with time. I thinkt courses like this can improve your relationship. You can leran how to identify your partner's needs. It won't be a waste of time and can help you solve the problem.
Feelin Frisky Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 See a urologist. Seriously. Don't buy into any sensational-branded OTC remedies (like Gush-control) or w/e. Learn your biology and learn your chemistry. Your doctor may prescribe a real medication (perhaps an SSRI) which has the "sexual side effect" known as "anorgasmia". Such medication does not at all reduce the ability to stay hard and excited, it just makes achieving orgasm more difficult for some people. Therefore this technique is in use for many men and is just what the doctor ordered--control. If it does anything you don't like, you just speak up and he'll discontinue it or try something else. Do no harm.
FitChick Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Your doctor may prescribe a real medication (perhaps an SSRI) which has the "sexual side effect" known as "anorgasmia". Such medication does not at all reduce the ability to stay hard and excited, it just makes achieving orgasm more difficult for some people. I didn't know that. A good way to figure out if a guy is taking antidepressants.
Feelin Frisky Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 I didn't know that. A good way to figure out if a guy is taking antidepressants. Right. A lot of people confuse the side effect of SSRI anti-depressants with the side effects of classical anti-psychotics. They are not alike. The SSRI anti-depressant (Like Prozac) has the "sexual side effect" of "anorgasmia" in which there is no shortage of "wood" and no shortage of desire, there is however more effort that needs to go into achieving orgasm. The quality of the orgasm is not diminished either usually. Anti-psychotics (Thorazine, Haldol etc) are libido killers which can also cause flaccidity. It's unfortunate that TV and magazine commercials for anti-depressants mention that "certain sexual side effects" may result but they do not go on to stipulate that it is not the dreadful kiss of death the anti-psychotics usually mean. Many people avoid treatment wrongly because they fear the loss of sexual ability and many others who don't take medication at all give bad advice by whitewashing all medication as being bad. The side effect of anorgasmia is actually a solution which is helping many guys who can't seem to discipline themselves to last so that their partners can enjoy getting their joy out of sex on her schedule instead of his skimpy one.
fuit Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 See a urologist. Seriously. Don't buy into any sensational-branded OTC remedies (like Gush-control) or w/e. . believe that these sites can help does not say that in this particular problem. You can always learn something that might help you. do not criticize something that you do not know.
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