mickleb Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Oh she's playing. allready tried to use the "you made me cry" crap over text. I tried to just go out with her & not have sex & just get to know her but she refused. She has given me two options. Sex & exclusive/GF or goto hell. I took Hell and she called me 8 times in a row last night. I've told her most of the above. Next step would be to tell her she's acting like a stage 5 clinger. I like your 'I tried not to have sex with her' bit above. Which part of the above have you not told her yet?
ascendotum Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Just bang her, ignore her, repeat. Treat it as FWB, and tell her you're not going to change your behavior. Once she sees using sex isn't going to work, then she'll leave. I was initially inclined to think along these lines. She's no 'play misty for me' woman, but she's desperate for sure, and I think the drama that will come with it is not worth it, especially since he now seems practically turned off by her behaviour. If she >40 with no children and desperate for a child and desperate for OP, leaving a used condom lying around could even be risky thing. He's better off taking the 'go to hell' path.
Leigh 87 Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 OMG how many times have you actually even met this woman in person? I would tell her "you are being crazy. Please leave me alone." This^^^^^ Look, she needs to know how she comes across is socially deviant. The best help you could give her, is to say " the way your acting is not going to get you a decent guy. I am saying this to help you" 1
Author phineas Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 Because of you she lost weight, so that's your good deed. Tell her to take some new photos to put on her profile and she will have new men falling all over her. Tell her you have a new girlfriend and hope she finds someone, too. Then ignore. Did she lie about her age or just use old photos? Her age was correct. She was 42 at the time & her pics were when she was about 38 & slimmer. This is what happens when you are desperate and decide to bang an ugly chick. YEP! 100% I have since not even gone there with anyone. OMG how many times have you actually even met this woman in person? I would tell her "you are being crazy. Please leave me alone." Once. I was lonely. lesson learned. I like your 'I tried not to have sex with her' bit above. Which part of the above have you not told her yet? I've yet to tell her she's gone stage 5 clinger. I have told her she's acting real clingy & that was why I stopped talking to her last time & i've also told her we've only met once so i'm not about to make someone my GF after that. So far she's told me it's up to me to contact her. Then later on told me "sorry to bother u" and that she can only text tonight because of work. The whole guilt trip thing... didn't even respond. I honestly think she's married or living with a guy based on how hard it is to actually talk to her on the phone. I hate texting "go away" lol!
Author phineas Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 This^^^^^ Look, she needs to know how she comes across is socially deviant. The best help you could give her, is to say " the way your acting is not going to get you a decent guy. I am saying this to help you" Oh i've done that. I've called her out on everything & explained to her how it makes her look & she just calls me a jerk or acted like I never said it. Today i'm just ignoring her.
SmileFace Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Wait, did you guys have sex that one time? Anyway, one time! Yeah just stop replying she will get it. If you wanted her to stop contacting you - you would have stopped replying. You met one time - how much of a clinger can she a attempt to be. Does she know where you live, work or know your friends? Forget explaining to her how she looks. She is 43 not 13... she should now she is acting like a wacko. Well doesn't seem like she is acting.
january2011 Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Today i'm just ignoring her. Fixed it for you. I agree with FitChick, you left her in a better condition compared to the one you found her in. You don't have anything more to say to her so respond with silence from now on. 2
mortensorchid Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 Aside from the NO CONTACT rule, say no to the person once and ONLY once then walk away. Have a cell phone and keep it on you at all times - keep it on your person in a pocket. And change all your numbers, email addresses, screennames, etc. Per the FBI website, here is what you should do : Do everything you can to avoid all contact with your stalker Inform those close to you (family, friends, coworkers) about what is going on Obtain a restraining order or peace bond Make sure you have quick access to critical telephone numbers and transportation Arrange a safe alternative place to go if needed Keep your doors locked at all times (house and vehicle) Park your vehicle in well-lit areas, and do not go out to the parking lot alone Change your routine (such as traveling a different route to work each day) in order to avoid any activities that may be predictable to your stalker Report all incidents of stalking to your local police As the police require evidence in order to charge an offender with stalking, be diligent in keeping all physical evidence you have received (such as letters, gifts, voice mails, and emails), and keep a written log of the intangibles (such as dates, times, and locations where you saw your stalker following or watching you, and the names/numbers of other witnesses)
Author phineas Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 Wait, did you guys have sex that one time? Anyway, one time! Yeah just stop replying she will get it. If you wanted her to stop contacting you - you would have stopped replying. You met one time - how much of a clinger can she a attempt to be. Does she know where you live, work or know your friends? Forget explaining to her how she looks. She is 43 not 13... she should now she is acting like a wacko. Well doesn't seem like she is acting. Like I said ignored her 3 months ago when she got whacky. I only responded now because I did feel bad about how things went down. my mistake. Fixed it for you. I agree with FitChick, you left her in a better condition compared to the one you found her in. You don't have anything more to say to her so respond with silence from now on. Yes. Yes you did. fix it. LOL! I pretty much was ignoring her & last night is when things went over the top and the rapid fire phone calls happened. My cell is my only phone & I don't like turning it off. I've since learned my carrier allows me to block a number online.
Author phineas Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 Aside from the NO CONTACT rule, say no to the person once and ONLY once then walk away. Have a cell phone and keep it on you at all times - keep it on your person in a pocket. And change all your numbers, email addresses, screennames, etc. Per the FBI website, here is what you should do : Do everything you can to avoid all contact with your stalker Inform those close to you (family, friends, coworkers) about what is going on Obtain a restraining order or peace bond Make sure you have quick access to critical telephone numbers and transportation Arrange a safe alternative place to go if needed Keep your doors locked at all times (house and vehicle) Park your vehicle in well-lit areas, and do not go out to the parking lot alone Change your routine (such as traveling a different route to work each day) in order to avoid any activities that may be predictable to your stalker Report all incidents of stalking to your local police As the police require evidence in order to charge an offender with stalking, be diligent in keeping all physical evidence you have received (such as letters, gifts, voice mails, and emails), and keep a written log of the intangibles (such as dates, times, and locations where you saw your stalker following or watching you, and the names/numbers of other witnesses) I don't need to go that far. she is a Canadian citizen that needs to come here for business. i'm pretty sure a threat of lodging a complaint with some agency connected with the border patrol will make her go away if it comes to that.
veggirl Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 WOW! You met up once and she is this cray cray now :eek: I am embarrassed on her behalf!! You need to be blunt and tell her "it's not going to happen, please don't contact me anymore" and then noooo contact. Yikes!! 1
Leigh 87 Posted June 28, 2012 Posted June 28, 2012 hahahahaahhaahaha I laugh at women like her, it is actually funny how deluded people can be. I will re hash though - I WAS like that! Once. I was also overweight and not attractive. So, I lost weight and learnt that I was crazy. No guys actually told me I was crazy - I figured it out on my own, after o guys was interested in me. At least the OP told the girl to lose weight and that she would have a better chance at getting guys if she was less crazy. OP - what exactly did you " tell " her? " hey, your a little overbearing, please leave me alone"? I would have flat out said " look, your coming across CRAZY, it is in your best interest to STOP this crazy behaviour immediately. If you keep on lie this, no guy will be interested in you" Girls like this sure make me feel better about being too clingy at times, too demanding, or being tired and occasionally taking my moods out on my bf a little. I mean. At least I was not cra......... hang on:o Actually, my boyfriend likes crazy girls:) Crazy in a GOOD way haha - Not stalking him when I first met him.
Author phineas Posted June 28, 2012 Author Posted June 28, 2012 I've found telling crazy people their crazy just makes them act crazier. I've told her a load of things to directly let her know I will never GF her up. And now that I think about it, taking the time to tell her these things has probably fueled her on so not going to talk to her anymore. i've never dealt with this before but it seems the best course of action right now is to ignore,ignore,ignore. If blocking her number doesn't make it clear & she resorts to another phone or email I can just block that also. I actually got sleep last night. I blame myself for this. I can't help but think if I wasn't so good in bed this never would of happened. see, my sense of humor is returning. 1
MooBear Posted June 29, 2012 Posted June 29, 2012 Having flashbacks to my clinger days *cringe* I had this baaaaad habit of acting all cool on the first date, take the guy home, and then when I'd wake up in the morning it was like BAM Fatal Attraction. When I decided I wanted to be with someone, there was no telling me it wouldn't happen. The more a guy said no, the more I wanted him! One day, the guy I had been chasing down for MONTHS, finally said yeah let's give it a go. 2 weeks later I dumped him cause I realised I wasn't into him. I was so caught up in the chase and the thrill. Maybe she is a bit the same? Because you've said no she thinks it's a challenge and now she has to win! I'm not suggesting you do what my dude did though - it may not work and it would be SO much worse!!!!!!!. Just putting a different spin on things
Author phineas Posted July 1, 2012 Author Posted July 1, 2012 Update. Can't block her. Corporate phone. She sent me 5 or 6 texts asking if we were getting together sat night. Then drunk dialed me at midnight. I was sleeping & just picked it up without looking. I told her I don't see us going long term & it would just be hanging out & sex until I found someone I do want to date long term and then she'd be dumped so it's best if we go our separate ways. She wanted to know why I was so mean to her. then accused me of drunk dialing her. LOL! Told her I was being nice by telling her exactly how it was going to be & that any other guy would just use her for sex then dump her. She raged, said she never faked an orgasm as hard as she did with me & said something about her husband was listening to me talk to her like that before hanging up. Yes, she said "husband" that's twice she's done that. Not once did I even raise my voice to her. Sent me a txt right after telling me not to contact her again calling me names. I ignored. Sent me another txt telling me to find a prostitute because she isn't a whore & calling me more names. I ignored. Next morning I get a txt" "Ok, i'll be FWB" I think it's a trap. Have not responded.
Art_Critic Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Next morning I get a txt" "Ok, i'll be FWB" I think it's a trap. Have not responded. Don't you dare do a FWB with this woman... a trap...that's mildly putting it. If you value not going to jail and keeping a drama free life then don't see her face to face again. She sounds like she might do the flip on you and have you nailed with a TPO or even worse she might self injure... Honestly.. if the calls don't stop then you at the very least should contact your local authorities to at least do a report so it is written down. These things have a way of going south very fast.. if she is really married it can be made to look very bad for you.. 1
RedRobin Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 (edited) Update. Can't block her. Corporate phone. She sent me 5 or 6 texts asking if we were getting together sat night. Then drunk dialed me at midnight. I was sleeping & just picked it up without looking. I told her I don't see us going long term & it would just be hanging out & sex until I found someone I do want to date long term and then she'd be dumped so it's best if we go our separate ways. She wanted to know why I was so mean to her. then accused me of drunk dialing her. LOL! Told her I was being nice by telling her exactly how it was going to be & that any other guy would just use her for sex then dump her. She raged, said she never faked an orgasm as hard as she did with me & said something about her husband was listening to me talk to her like that before hanging up. Yes, she said "husband" that's twice she's done that. Not once did I even raise my voice to her. Sent me a txt right after telling me not to contact her again calling me names. I ignored. Sent me another txt telling me to find a prostitute because she isn't a whore & calling me more names. I ignored. Next morning I get a txt" "Ok, i'll be FWB" I think it's a trap. Have not responded. This is very similar to the kind of exchange one of my male friends had with a woman he dated briefly, except in his case, he was looking for a relationship and didn't originally go into it with just sex in mind. Didn't matter... she became just like the woman you mentioned above when he tried to break it off... When he told her to stop calling him or he'd contact authorities? She filed a restraining order on HIM. Went through months of hell. Gotta love NY State. They never even looked at his evidence before proceeding. When the court date arrived, she didn't show up. ... my suggestion. Save every record of every conversation with her. Don't pick up the phone if she calls, but make a note when she does. Cell phone companies make note of who is doing the calling. 99.9% of the time, this kind of stuff fades out if you go total NC. for that last 0.1%, you need good documentation. I personally am not a fan of involving police unless they are threatening bodily harm or you are seriously 'disabled' by their attention in some other way (ie lack of sleep, intrusion into work, etc). Going down that route tends to make things worse before they get better... is my observation. One last thing... consider getting a Google Voice number for all of your internet dating interactions. You can keep your main phone number hidden, but the calls still go directly to your phone. Even better, you can set it up so that messages are transcribed. Good luck! Edited July 1, 2012 by RedRobin
bac Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 The best methods to get rid of any woman are asking her to pay for something (for example, for dinner) and flirting with other hot girls in front of her. Also, you might ask her for anal sex, to do treesome with a hot girl, to have an orgasm with you, or to do anything during sex that she cannot handle (for example, swallowing male's cum and smile at the same time.)
Author phineas Posted July 1, 2012 Author Posted July 1, 2012 Don't you dare do a FWB with this woman... a trap...that's mildly putting it. If you value not going to jail and keeping a drama free life then don't see her face to face again. She sounds like she might do the flip on you and have you nailed with a TPO or even worse she might self injure... Honestly.. if the calls don't stop then you at the very least should contact your local authorities to at least do a report so it is written down. These things have a way of going south very fast.. if she is really married it can be made to look very bad for you.. I agree. what I didn't mention was she keeps trying to get me to apply for my enhanced license & come visit her. Yeah, with a simple phone call to authorities she can have me banned from the country once i'm there. I have no intentions of sleeping with this woman again or even seeing her. I will continue to ignore & take pictures of texts she sends since my phone doesn't retain texts for more than 90 days. (company policy) The best methods to get rid of any woman are asking her to pay for something (for example, for dinner) and flirting with other hot girls in front of her. Also, you might ask her for anal sex, to do treesome with a hot girl, to have an orgasm with you, or to do anything during sex that she cannot handle (for example, swallowing male's cum and smile at the same time.) Dude, she's pretty much told me she was going to do all of the above for me because she wants to make me happy. No i'd rather jerk off then have this woman as my sex slave. And red robbin, I went through a divorce in NYS. I know exactly how the state laws put a man at a woman's mercy.
Avarage Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Next morning I get a txt" "Ok, i'll be FWB" I think it's a trap.
FitChick Posted July 1, 2012 Posted July 1, 2012 Start a rumor that she's been burning the Koran and drawing pictures of Mohammed on the sidewalk.
mickleb Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 I'm about to be a stage 5 clinger if that picture is you. Rawr. Really? His face is blanked out.
veggirl Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 haha I'm kidding though. :lmao: you pulled up a month old thread! that's not kidding. phineas may be a bit old for you if you're birth year is 1989, fyi. unless you are into that.
communityFan Posted August 8, 2012 Posted August 8, 2012 Next time you sleep with her put it in her butt, she'll go away on her own.
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