RonChalant Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Been with my new gf for almost 5 months now...had a rocky start due to me just getting out of a 7 year relationship, but now I see myself falling for her more and more. Only issue, my ex.....still madly in love with her which was confirmed last night when we "fooled around for the first time in 7 months. Yes I cheated, don't need crap about that. My current treats me 100x better than my ex, but I am literally addicted to this woman (the ex). She deservingly has the name Kryptonite in my cell phone. You know how on tv they show drug addicts that will do anything no matter how risky to get that high...that's how I am with my ex. I do all kinds of crazy ****, tell crazy lies, just to be able to spend time with her...ADDICTED! My current is so good to me...why can't I seem to be able to shake this ****!
ja123 Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Hi, Love can be like an additiction. I just found this link and if you look at the Helen Fisher video that is included it offers some (albeit not that defined) explanation. How to get over someone - top tips In all fairness to the woman you are currently seeing, isn't is fairer and kinder to her if you just let her go? She's probably got some really strong feelings for you and you clearly have some stuff to deal with regarding your ex. Good luck.
Philosoraptor Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Simply because you aren't ready for a relationship yet. You've still got strong feelings for the ex and they are absolutely in the way of you getting the same types of feelings for the new girl.
daphne Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 You shouldn't be dating people until you're over your ex. It's selfish to string someone along who's treating you well, while you're out trying to get over your addiction to the ex. You do have self control. Perhaps it's a conscience that you lack. 2
avon20 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 It takes time to break the addiction. If you are still in contact with your ex then you won't heal and give yourself fully to new girlfriend.
january2011 Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 The most appreciative thing you can do is to let your current girlfriend go. She's been good to you and you are repaying her with betrayal, lies and infidelity. Your cheating with your ex suggests that despite what you get from your current girlfriend, your needs are not being met completely. Otherwise, you wouldn't be messing around with your ex. It's possible that your current girlfriend may never be able to meet your needs. She certainly won't be given a chance to try unless you go cold turkey from your ex. And that means going NC permanently. I'd advise you to choose. Unless both women agree, you can't have both. Time to be an adult: re-align your impulse control and re-instate your boundaries.
Alexanda Posted June 26, 2012 Posted June 26, 2012 Whats the point of dating someone else if you are still in love with your ex. I dont get why people do this. Its not fair to the person you are dating. You need sometime to get over your ex before you start dating again.
Philosoraptor Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Whats the point of dating someone else if you are still in love with your ex. I dont get why people do this. Its not fair to the person you are dating. You need sometime to get over your ex before you start dating again. It's easier than being alone. Sadly it's a lesson many have to learn. If you truly cared about someone you won't really move on until you've spent time alone and reestablished who you are as an individual.
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