Phennyphen Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Long story short, met my fwb online, he also lives in my road. Sex is ok, he wants it more than I do though and tbh, he texts everyday just chatting ****. I just wanted a **** buddy who I could text/he could text me, when either fancied a bit. Hes wanting to plan days in advance when we're going to see each other, which takes all th fun out of it for me, he tells me I'm amazing :s and is very complimetary almost in a patronising way sometimes I feel. ALSO, the other day he went shopping and bought condoms, which he then took a picture of (!) with a post it hote attatched saying 'only for use with phennyphen' (!) which creeped me the hell out. I feel a little bit smothered. I've just cancelled on him for tomorrow for a legit reason, thought I would have an empty house but I wont, and hes trying to make plans for later in the week. Idk if I'm going to be horny at 2pm on Thursday?! I text him saying that I'd been thinking, that a fwb situation should be spontaneous and that I cant plan to be horny, and that I feel bad blowing him off, but if we kept it spontaneous there would be no blowing him/me off. I havent seen him in two weeks but its got to the point now where I actually dont wanna **** him anymore. But how do you actually get rid of a fwb? He's a nice guy generally, and he lives in my road so I dont wanna make it awkward but I want rid. Ideas people.
Philosoraptor Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Close your legs? That'll probably work. You might also try being direct with him and tell him what's going on. 1
InJest Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Tell him you found someone else. You're a decent looking female, so you should be able to tell guys that you want to **** and nothing else upfront, and still have them want to see you.
Feelsgoodman Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 The guy might be confused about your intentions. Have you told him that you're only interested in FWB, or is he somehow supposed to figure that out on his own? Also, have you asked any misleading questions that may have led him to believe you are looking for more (i.e. what are you looking for in a woman?)
Author Phennyphen Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 The guy might be confused about your intentions. Have you told him that you're only interested in FWB, or is he somehow supposed to figure that out on his own? Also, have you asked any misleading questions that may have led him to believe you are looking for more (i.e. what are you looking for in a woman?) No no, I have been 100% honest and open that I do not want a relationsip or have time for a relationship, and that its just sex. I've been really careful to not open up to him or form any kind of emotional bond. Also, I know its as simple as 'just close yer legs' but I dont want to just blank him, but I feel an awkward conversation would ensue if I 'broke up' with him
InJest Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 There doesn't have to be an awkward conversation. Just tell him you're moving on. If it's easier, say you found someone you want to be with.
CarboniteCammy Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 have you thought about the direct approach? since you don't have an emotional bond to him, don't worry about hurting his feelings. just tell him you're no longer interested. he doesn't need to know why. he's just a walking penis.
yongyong Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 just tell him straight. 'hey I just want you to come over and xxxx the sxit out of me then leave. We don't have to talk or cuddle. If you agree to this, let me know' I am pretty sure most guys would be ok with it. I told this chick the same thing. she got mad and thought I was insane lol (she was one night stand chick I picked up from the club. Obviously I wouldn't talk like that to a girl who deserves more respect)
Disenchantedly Yours Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 have you thought about the direct approach? since you don't have an emotional bond to him, don't worry about hurting his feelings. just tell him you're no longer interested. he doesn't need to know why. he's just a walking penis. Actually, no. He is a human being. Just because she decided to be with him just for sex doesn't change that he is a person with feelings that deserve to treated with respect. OP, I would tell him that you appreciated your time together but you don't think the arangement is for you anymore. You think he's a nice guy but ultimately, you two just aren't compatible. Just treat him like a man you'd want to break up with despite it being a FWB situation.
veggirl Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Just tell him, hey this is turning into something I don't want. I want XYZ, are you cool with that? If not, I understand.
whichwayisup Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 I havent seen him in two weeks but its got to the point now where I actually dont wanna **** him anymore. But how do you actually get rid of a fwb? He's a nice guy generally, and he lives in my road so I dont wanna make it awkward but I want rid. Ideas people. Just be honest! Tell him that you don't want to do the fwb thing anymore.
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