darkhorse Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 I desperately need some advice on this one!!! I am a well respected employee in my workplace. I met another employee, from a different location, about 2 years ago. He was in upper management and senior to me. I must say that we would have not entertained any romantic notions had we been actual co-workers. We starting out talking on the phone and this progressed quickly into lengthy sessions. We lived several hours apart in distance. We arranged for a date...but, that turned into a hangout session that ended in a hookup. This guy led me to believe that he was divorced but, after the hookup it was discovered that he was just separated. I felt horrible and he too was having regrets as if he cheated. We tried to maintain our friendship at least but, stress from his part of the business and the limbo ex- I assumed got to be too much. He became distant and very little communication. Then abruptly stopped all communication with me. I was very hurt by this and didn't know what to think, feel or what. So, I just tried to forget it ever happened. So, as luck would have it, I find out now this person is transferring and will now be my boss. I am so freaked out! I don't know how to feel. No one knows about this of course and I don't want them to either however, I am having all kinds of anxiety about this. I am trying to act as if nothing ever happened but, I know eventually we will be alone and have to talk about it and I just don't know how to approach that. I am very conflicted! Any advice???:confused:
Radu Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Start sending out the resume, and consult a lawyer if he makes any passes. 1
whichwayisup Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 You down play it and put it out of your head like it never happened for a while. You are well liked and respected, do a good job at work so he can't come in and fire you. Give him time to settle in, then go talk to him - Honestly and without emotion or drama. Don't bring up the why did you do this or that, you don't discuss the past at all in detail - Just focus on the now and the fact he is your boss that this is a clean slate and what happened before is buried (meaning you won't tell anybody about what happened.). I"m sure he won't want to deal with this he'll want to ignore it and avoid any drama too.
kathya Posted June 27, 2012 Posted June 27, 2012 Keep it strictly professional, never say anything, never mention it. As if nothing ever happened. That chapter is closed. 1
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