acoolcat Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 I've been on and off for two and a half years with a guy we are currently "on" and things are okay. while we were off he was with a lot of girls, i was with a few guys but nothing i did compares to what he did. a lot of the time we hang out he always brings up how much of a slut i am. i know what a slut is...and i know thats not me. when were together and were not fighting about how "slutty" i am, things are mellow...too mellow. I constantly have to ask him if things are okay because he acts like he's having a horrible time being with me. He doesnt talk and when i try to start a conversation he gives me short answers and it never goes anywhere. he has treated me pretty bad in the past and my friends dislike him a lot. i don't go out unless its with him and he decides he wants to go. i avoid hanging out with my friends because if we end up hanging out with boys i fear that he will break up with me. he's a bit controlling and emotionally abusive. He is incredibly charming to other people, he is very talented in many aspects of life. he's a great guy and i really don't want to leave him. we are going to college next year (same city, different schools), and i KNOW he would either cheat on me or break up with me once he found some girls to get with. he doesn't appreciate who I AM. i just don't feel like i'm being treated right. its not bad anymore but I feel i need some more attention. i wonder why he never texts me out of the blue just because, or why he doesnt initiate hug or kiss me unless we are having sex. i know he's going to meet a lot of women who will fall for him just as I did and thats the part that freaks me out. he is a huge flirt; charming, funny, attractive, everything. thinking about him just flirting with another girl makes me cry because i know how happy it makes him. i just want to be happy and i know the best thing to do is break up with him, but to know that the second I do he's going to be inside another girl....thats whats stopping me. help
Philosoraptor Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 I think the main thing to realize here is that you do deserve better. He doesn't treat you very well and as you say the reason you don't leave is all based on your ego. Let that go now. It doesn't matter what he does when he's gone as you know the type of person he is. You don't have a winner and they certainly won't be getting a winner by taking him. Make yourself a prize and get away from this toxic situation and find someone who will value you, there are plenty of them out there.
Author acoolcat Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 thank you so much for your response! It's definitely hard to break up with someone who has been in your life for such a long time, but in all honesty you are correct...I remember crying in this relationship more than I remember being happy. Its just difficult because he is deceivingly nice and charming, on the surface he is the total package. He just has a lot of issues and takes it out on me by either being mean or just ignoring me. Its nice to know that a lot of people on here are going through the same thing. I'm just done with crying and worrying about what he is doing or what he will or might do.
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