redrose123 Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 So I've pretty much ended the "friendship" I had going on with my ex for the past couple of weeks. I realized that I love him too much to just be friends and would always be expecting more of him. Now I'm back at square one of NC. I guess after 4 months the pain has lessened but I still think about my ex all the time. Im scared of what the future will bring. I used to be his person, the one he would tell everything to and confide in. It sucks not getting to be that person anymore and not knowing what's going on in his life. I'm struggling with how easy it was for him to let me go especially after all the promises he made to me. He is my first love and the thought of never talking to him again and of him being out of my life completely breaks my heart and scares the crap out of me. I just want to know that I'll feel 100% ok one day and I want to feel like one day I'll meet a good man who will love me. Since we've broken up I haven't really met anyone and i dont know if Ill be able to love anyone like that again. I feel lonely and down about it and still miss him everyday. How can I stop feeling so low? I need to move past this. I would love to just meet someone who can take my mind off things and who I can just have fun with. Thank you all for reading my little rant lol
Thisisbs Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 I would say try your best to think about how much you've changed, learned and grown from your experience. I'm going through much of the same things you brought up (How easy it was for them to let go etc..) and I wish you the best of luck, because... this is truly hard.
Ruby65 Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 Good for you for stopping "friends" and going NC! You're giving yourself a real chance to HEAL now, so congratulate yourself and be proud!! I promise you, the day will come when you will feel as happy and in love with someone else as you did with your ex -- more so, even, because now you'll appreciate it even more! That feeling you describe of missing being the person your ex always confided in and talked about his life with.... you'll get that back in your next relationship. In many ways, that's at the heart of every relationship! It's about being best friends with someone.... and in time you'll meet someone new and get to know him and love him and be every bit as big a part of his life as you once were in your ex's life. It's scary to start over -- but you need to have FAITH because it WILL 100% happen for you again!! And the reward at the end of all this is that next time you could end up with someone who WILL appreciate you and won't hurt you the way your ex has. Keep posting! You're doing GREAT.
Author redrose123 Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 Thank you all for your replies! It really is encouraging to let it all out and get advice from people who have been there before. Right now I'm trying to just focus on making myself the best person I can be. I'm reconnecting with old friends and am in the process of applying to pharmacy schools. I just keep telling myself that my life is just getting started and I have so much to look forward to and he's the one missing out!! Easier said than done sometimes though :/
Stanza Posted June 25, 2012 Posted June 25, 2012 You're doing all the right things, I sometimes feel that's all we can do. Do the right things and wait for time to do its bit in return. It may hurt for some time before the fog lifts. But the pharmacy school stuff sounds awesome.
Author redrose123 Posted June 25, 2012 Author Posted June 25, 2012 Well I just left the gym and this guy approached me and asked for my number. I felt kind of put on the spot so I gave it to him. I just don't think he's my type but I felt bad saying no. I do want to date but now that the opportunity has presented itself I'm not sure if I'm ready. What should I do? Should I give this guy the benefit of the doubt? If I'm still not into him would it be mean to let him know? I'm just so inexperienced at this stuff.
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